beauty is the beast that's the memories in Forbes article that talks about how
the focus on beauty
is eroding women self-confidence I'm delighted to be joined by the one and
only professor season with former new math
gamers and you are go to guide on topics like this
we're talking others off-camera we've got some pretty important topics the
season already
be and bossy campaign on self image
horse yes self-image in social media how that plays a role we talked about
bowling
and now we're talking about this these are important topics our
yeah and I thank you for always at for bringing this one to my attention
and getting me to think more about it because I'm always interested in this
topic
and I think this can really take us to some am pretty good places
as far as exploring women saw 15 min and how we feel quickly different stages of
life
to talk about what did you learn when you're doing research into this
what did you learn the correlation between a woman self-confidence
and the focus on beauty well I think what the Forbes article pointed out that
really got me thinking
was the splitting as your consciousness in your attention
arm so I wrote a blog Inc condemning
involving the app but then finding a couple different studies where
it's really yeah your mental bandwidth gets taken up by
these preoccupations with how you look a new literally
can't think about your work when you're so preoccupied about how you look
that you're right article I mention that word you
all the other important things in your life like you said it get taken up by
that
and kinda goes back to the title beauty is the piece and makes you can I think
al
this corroding self-confidence has turned into such
and ugly factor in women's lives
yes how do and would you say it's kinda unfair
have the perception that's being put on women to attain a certain
physical beauty as opposed to men and how does that affect
their workplace their work environment well I'm man I think also
one look good I mean there's certainly plenty of jokes about that and I kidding
around but for women
I think it goes deeper and that it really penetrate your consciousness much
much more because
women do get so I hate to use the term objectified
I mean I know that get overused but it really is
objectification and no one study I found it I
relatively new study where they showed images the women to
women and men and regardless of the condition memory
more like the Canon focus in on a target down
up the middle other one's body and instead looking interface
and we all know that feeling where hello I'm appear hun
take your eyes up here and fuck cock and and those kind to follow almost
unconscious
a responses to us do cause us to
objective higher self so we'll put any focus on beauty
then week ago the opposite extreme and not even
care about how we work but we obviously don't wanna go to that extreme how do we
find a balance between
saying it's okay to be beautiful and to feel pretty but not going to texting
were
basically rules your life I think that's where you're conscious control over what
you're doing
comes into play I'm because it's true that throughout recorded history
people have beautify their bodies men and women and people are gonna wear
decorations jewelry and makeup and hair in all their mechanical stripping human
is just when it becomes your focus instead
kind of a compliment to what else you doing in just serve apart if your
identity
1 but one you go are to work thinking about you know I feel bad today cuz I'm
having a bad hair day
I or you know my makeup is wrong or something about nap feeling fat
in all these appendix of the PLO to your head are really gonna distract you from
your work and
that's the problem so I'm a huge fan a social media site like to ask questions
on social media probably ask too many questions but I so love doing it
ask two different questions I asked how often do you wear makeup
always occasionally never for the most part I got
occasionally although some people did they always are whenever I leave the
house
I didn't really get any never responses so we find that
women tend to use makeup occasionally all the time
but then I also asked when should a girl start wearing makeup basically
what is inappropriate age you know elementary middle school high school
everybody's the high school they feel as if perhaps
younger and younger girls are starting to become
I know it's almost as if they're growing up me too fast
absolutely but I think so much %uh this is a function of
commercialization love women in makeup in clothing
and I talked in my blog about you can talk to the mall without being assaulted
by these images into foreign
victoria secret and you go by there and it's really hard for a little girl
kinda not to be drawn to the apt because their moms are
and other people are too so its it's almost like
and commercialization is bringing the age level lower and lower just
considered expand the market
so what is the take-home message what do we need to know what do we need to learn
from all that
the take-home messages it's fine to primp
out to certain extent everybody likes it and
to 12 to different degrees but the take-home message is
preempt your heart's content but beauty be in your
own mind's eye now in the I have the beholder and
and relief once you can rid yourself love
RV is concerned to preoccupations focusing on your work
is really going to make you feel good about yourself and help you get the
acceptance
that we all like to have higher self-esteem beauty comes from a fan I
know we always hear that sometimes I think it's harder to really
live by that message is that the cynic in me that says is it really possible
for
you know people to really look at the invite a person in
not the outside in judge a person by their character i mean
a it's very difficult because we
do you respond to images and we respond to
images are people wearing makeup but sometimes when people don't realize
is that your more often appreciated for
getting really some %uh those layers and people will actually relate better to
you when you don't have all the
proofing in on outside math going on that week
really can see who you are and people can sense that
being real beecher its very nature always a pleasure another coming to the
and overseas and I so appreciate your time this season for that you've been
coming on the show and
talking to these important topics and thank you doctor report thank you leave
always a pleasure