hi guys welcome back to my channel today we are doing a video that I am basically
making a tradition at the end of every year and it's to talk about how to
reflect and plan for the new year 2019 is coming real fast and I know that a
lot of us are getting in that state of mind is just like this year I'm gonna
reach this and do that you'll probably like 99% of other people drop those
resolutions real fast probably by January 9th that's just my
prediction okay I want to talk about effective ways how we can reflect and
set goals that we can actually keep and I'm also gonna do a little reaction
video about my 2018 goal-setting video to see if I have achieved any of the
things that I put on my to-do list for 2018 that would be interesting so I want
to start out by saying a huge thank you to Skillshare for sponsoring and
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I don't know I did that 2019 goals you have to sit down and
reflect take you know a few minutes and look at your past year 2008
and see what was good what was bad did you achieve any of the goals that you
set for yourself if yes how and if not why it's very important to understand
what happened and you know to see if there are any patterns maybe you
sabotage yourself in a way of not achieving those or maybe those were
goals that you thought you wanted but you don't want now we put together a few
reflective questions that I suggest you guys write down to help you with the
reflection process so question number one is what moment stood out for you in
2018 and why question number two what happened in 2018 that helped you grow as
a person question number three what in 2018 are
you most grateful for question number four what in 2018 didn't work for you
and why and then question number five is what is your biggest takeaway for 2018
putting those five questions on a piece of paper and filling them out it might
give you another perspective about what happened in 2018 the second step is
asking yourself the right planning question so question number one is what
areas do I want to focus on 2019 I would be very specific and make sure that you
don't make too long of a list focus or maybe one to three areas where you
really want to put all your focus on for this year question number two is if I
accomplish only one thing in 2019 what would I want it to be question number
three is how do I want to grow and evolve as a person in 2019 question
number four is what do you think should be left behind in 2018 and then question
number five which is very important what do I need to do to bring myself joy and
happiness in 2019 focus on what really brings you that joy it can be something
very simple as drinking my lemon water in the morning to something bigger like
taking you know one big trip this year think about those and write them down
and again don't feel the need to fill up the paper with a whole bunch of
different let's try to keep it minimal now that
you have all this information in front of you you can start planning
effectively as much as it's nice to reflect and dream ahead if you are not
taking action nothing's gonna happen always keep in mind this phrase too much
thinking not enough doing started doing so I personally made the mistake of you
know making my resolutions and then feeling like I needed all to happen
right away and I have to follow through a hundred percent with all of them and
that mentality always always sabotage me when you are doing the planning you want
to make sure that you are very very specific I think that a lot of us who
put too much of a fake resolution out there when it's time to start practicing
them we don't know where to start and we get overwhelmed a lot of people say I
want to lose weight I want to get healthier this year they go get a gym
membership and we know how it all goes with the gym membership we'll go for
like the first two weeks and then we're like yeah but I need stuff working and I
have to feel like access needs attention put a little goal for yourself for every
month to start making it a habit you want to get healthier how can you get
healthier don't go into this whole like I need to change my whole life kind of
mentality start small this month I'm gonna focus on drinking lemon water
every morning every single day keep it up for the month and then for February I
want to make sure that I go to the gym twice a week and literally book yourself
two classes every week attention and go it takes about four to six weeks to
create a habit trust me it's gonna stick so follow these five SMART goals you
want it to be specific so instead of saying I need to get in shape this year
make sure that you actually say I'm gonna go to the gym twice a week make
sure that it's measurable so instead of saying I want to get into shape put a
goal that you can get to so if it's I want to lose five pounds or I'm gonna go
to gym classes twice a week then you want to make sure it's attainable so
don't jump into this crazy new routine that will make you feel deprived and
then we'll be very easy to drop you don't
need to cut all sugar right away you don't have to go five times a week to
the gym number four is you want to make sure that your goals are relevant to
what you want to achieve in your life you can go back to the questions about
reflecting on your 2018 and to the planning questions for 2019 and you will
see a very clear idea of what you really want to achieve rather than what you
think you should achieve your answers there will guide you to make sure that
you're making the relevant changes and you're making relevant goals for
yourself and then number five is deadlines because when there's no
deadlines you really don't feel accountable or you really don't feel the
pressure of achieving those things I'm not saying that it all needs to happen
really fast even giving yourself a year if you don't have to go and if you want
to lose weight weigh yourself every week but telling to
yourself you know what every month I want to lose one pound or every month I
want to do a progress photo just to see if there's a difference so it's small
little deadlines just to see progress that will encourage you to keep on going
and before we're finishing this video I wanted to do something fun and just kind
of look at the video that I did last year and see if I follow through with
the things that I set myself or that I manipulate myself out of actually going
after those so yay okay let's get to my 2018 a new year resolution hainan my I
look so young and fresh but I woke up from a nap saying all these things I
want to do in 2018 but I believe that this will keep me accountable and at the
end of 2018 I'm gonna do a review if I accomplish all of these resolutions Wow
look at me achieve that I'm doing it yay so the first thing is no rain no
flowers type of attitude you know when something like bad happens or things
don't go our way we're just like get frustrated and really let it kind of
stop your hard work and positivity Wow yay no rain of flowers so basically it's
just kind of accepting the struggle with a reward and kind of loving the process
that's what I'm trying to say here Valyria forum 2017 was a little level 4
in English now I'm like level 5 I think that this year I definitely fell in love
with just the downs and lows and ups and in-betweens I don't catch myself anymore
being like I can't believe it happened to me I changed my mindset to being more
grateful and just kind of making more of a comedy out of it so when things happen
to me I'm just like of course it's gonna happen to me rather than I can't believe
it happened to me I kind of look at it more of okay this really sucky thing
that happened it's just you know another thing that I can laugh about in a few
weeks or months or years I really want to work this year on an attitude where
no rain of flowers it has to rain things don't always work out and when they
don't work out it's just a stepping stone I hope that this year I also got a
little more to the point always keep that in mind and say thank you for the
rain rain flowers got it move on I've been working a lot in 2017 to make a
gratitude a habit of mine and something that I do and practice every single day
it's such a beautiful thing not to only show my children and to pass on in my
family tree but it's also something that it grounds me that keeps me in a good
mood that makes me feel stronger and more in charge of my life can we talk
about the shinbone always focus on the positive and not the negative this is
something that I obviously want to keep working on just my inner strength
becoming my own warrior and start every morning with that type of attitude
gratitude attitude like a what but gratitude attitude so
resolution number two was keep practicing gratitude and inner strength
and I definitely feel that this year has been very much focused about getting to
know myself and trusting myself throughout bringing another baby into
the family Maxie and building up this social media career I kept saying like
to become my own warrior and to save my own self I still believe in that and
something else that happened throughout that kind of inner work is to not feel
that need of doing it all self which was something I knew before
but actually started practicing more this year I started valuing the support
system that I have and the whole idea behind teamwork I've feel more grateful
than ever before next thing is don't stop myself from dreaming big I find
that sometimes when I share some of my thoughts and dreams and things that I
see myself creating and building in the future some people are too small-minded
to see the top of that mountain and sometimes that rose me back a little bit
and you know makes me question my own goals I'm super grateful to have a
partner in my life Gary my husband to have the same type of attitude where
there's no limit to how big we can do and and make and create now that I look
at it I think that rather than talking about how other people are small minded
I can see that I'm actually talking about myself I think that this year more
than ever I exposed myself as being the person that is in my own way it's kind
of a revelation that I've had recently I definitely started working on it now and
this is definitely still my goal for 2019 rather than letting other people's
opinions affect how I see my future going I want to tweak it to not standing
in my own way and that being small-minded about how much I can do and
achieve and be the next thing is surrounding myself with creative
inspiring people and that's something that I've been definitely doing this
year this has definitely been accomplished this year because of the
amazing team that we've built around valera Inc I can proudly and confidently
say that I'm surrounded with the most amazing creative supportive fun
authentic girls around now I see that I totally put that intention out there and
that's what happened this year so mission accomplished resolution
accomplished it also manifested itself with Mike
Unity online I am really close to a lot of you guys and I want to thank you feel
close to me I've been really amazed by learning more about you guys about your
struggles about your accomplishments I have so many girls that send me the job
that they God or the confidence that they feel that I just love everything
from your outfits to you know all these things that you share with me so Wow
I kill this resolution this year yay meeting more of you guys and that sounds
like that I'm really excited about and I'm definitely gonna put this into
action so I was talking about meetups so this is something that hasn't been quite
accomplished this year about I touched a little bit on this resolutions I did
have kind of the meet and greet at Sephora that Theatre in Toronto
I had a meet-and-greet in Israel when I went to visit my friends so I met some
of you there but it's definitely something that I wanna keep doing and my
goal honestly I'm putting it out there I want to create like this big event where
it's gonna be a meet and greet so I can meet all of you guys and we can talk
about motivation and self-love definitely gonna keep that resolution
for 2019 also I really want to just do meet and greets everywhere around the
world so going in April to India I'm really trying to make that happen I just
want to meet all of you so that's definitely something that will stick in
2019 last but not least is using my platform to really do good I've been
really focusing and growing my social media and you know creating this
beautiful community I want to start really learning about more causes and
different things that's going on in the world
I definitely gonna do a lot of research this year and learn what I can stand by
and promote and educate my audience here I really wanted to get more into kind of
the charity aspect I would say I think that this year I definitely started
being more active in that area so I've got to know a lot of different
organization that I did a little social media exposure for them sound
thing that I started getting much more curious about it's this whole
environmental thing that is a big issue now but I didn't do anything about it
yet we're still looking for proper experts that can really educate you guys
and myself so if you have the organization that we did collaborate
this year with our hi lifeline with save a child's heart foundation jessee's
which is a shelter for young mothers there's definitely much much more that
we can do and I can't wait to do more okay that was the last resolution I
think that we did pretty pretty good I have to say I'm definitely gonna do it a
little smarter this year and now that I have the five smart gold rules to follow
and I will keep you guys posted before we're ending this video I wanted to ask
you guys what are your resolutions and if there's any resolutions from 2018 did
you achieve that your product please let me know I want to stay close to you guys
I know we're growing but we got it without a state like this okay thank you
guys so much for watching and I hope you enjoyed this video now go and get those
resolution and answer those questions and set yourself for success I love you
and I am rooting for you