Heya playa, this is going to be your year. 2020 is going to be the year you finally ask
out your crush. Now, this year is very different from last year. Some of the rules have changed
when it comes to asking someone out so I wanna walk you through what that is so that you
can successfully do it. For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single
week I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self
so if you want to learn and grow, hit the subscribe button and make sure to click on
the notification bell. First off, one of the important things to remember here is that
how people are choosing to communicate with their crushes is changing. People are opting
for a more online system. Talking through apps like Instagram, Snapchat or TikTok rather
than just approaching someone in person and starting the conversation like that. Don't
get me wrong here, I still think the most effective way to really display your confidence
when talking to someone is by approaching them and talking to them there in person but
I do understand the ease and comfort that comes in texting someone first. Sending a
DM to your crush as an initial point of conversation might seem easier to do but it might also
lead to a shorter response from them. They may just give you a one-word answer, they
may leave you on seen, or they may end up blocking you. So be prepared for a higher
likelihood of ghosting. You're gonna wanna make sure that initial text or even that initial
conversation you're trying to start actually has some substance to it. It's not just a
"hey how's it going?" or "hey what's up?" type of text. That's why this year when it
comes to asking out your crush, I want you to focus on what I'm calling the Conversation
Trio and that's basically this. Ask more questions about their life so that you can learn about
them. Share more personal stories so that they can learn about you and go deeper into
conversations. Whether its something you bring up or they bring up, try to learn a little
bit more about that specific thing. And since the main challenge that people run into is
just not knowing exactly what to say when it comes to asking out their crush, I think
the best thing for you to do is to check out my ice breaker conversation starters. I'm
gonna link it up over here, basically, these are 20 conversation topics you can bring in
to kind of get the ball rolling. A conversation hack that I've learned over the years that's
definitely going to make it way easier for you to start talking to your crush is by first
initially getting to know them better in a group chat. Yes guys, group chats are gonna
be the way forward in 2020. People are starting lots of group chats with people in their class,
their friends, people in their neighborhood. Either way, group chats are going to be the
way for you to start to learn a little more about your crush. Now if you're not currently
part of any group chats, one simple thing to do is to ask the people in your class including
your crush if they want to join so you guys can share notes, homework, whatever it is
you guys just kind of wanna just talk about. Once you're in that group chat and everyone's
talking you can casually just ask questions to your crush just to kind of see how they
stand on certain things to learn a little bit more about them but, once the conversation
starts to pick up you can then always shoot them a DM privately and say "Hey, I'm really
interested in learning more about what you said here" or "I'm interested in learning
more about you as a person". And because you initially started talking to them in this
group environment, it may be easier for them to talk to you privately now because you're
not really just messaging them out of the blue. You've already talked to them a little
bit before in that group chat. Another thing that huge is creating fun and funny content.
So, you're definitely going to want to look to platforms like TikTok and Snapchat as ways
to kind of create interesting things that you could involve your crush in. If you're
someone that uses TikTok, you may just want to approach your crush and say something simple
like "Hey, I'm thinking about putting together a bunch of TikTok videos and I want you to
be in it. Why don't we get together and brainstorm some ideas?". Or if you use Snapchat, you
may want to be a little bit more creative with your stories rather than just sending
these "S" for streaks. Tell your crush you want to start an awesome back and forth streak
where you guys do music duets or you draw pictures or you record yourself doing something
silly. Come up with a creative theme, and then approach your crush and start the conversation
like that. The key here is to have a back and forth creative bond going with your crush.
By doing that you're going to allow them to be more comfortable around you. They're gonna
wanna spend more time interacting with you and you're going to increase the likelihood
of the two of you really getting to know each other better so that you can actually ask
them out. But beware. One huge mistake that a lot of people tend to make year over year
when it comes to getting closer to their crush is that they kind of fall more into the friend
category than the romantic potential partner category. And the reason for that is simply
because they don't really express themselves in a way that shows interest in that person.
Doing TikToks with your crush is fun, sending DMs to your crush is fun, talking to them
is fun but if it's not ultimately leading to you asking them out, to flirting with them,
to making a move in some kind of way, then you're only building your friendship to be
stronger and as you build that friendship to be stronger, it's going to be easier for
you to fall into the friend zone which is not going to happen to you this year. Trust
me, you're not gonna fall into the friend zone this year because you're going to make
your intentions clear through your actions. 2020 is going to be the year for major changes
in your life. Especially when it comes to asking out your crush. You're gonna be bold,
you're gonna be confident, you're gonna put your best self on display. I wanna help you
do that this year so, if you're new here hit the subscribe button and let's do that together.
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if you want to know how to ask out your crush, how to get a conversation going and how to
make those conversations deeper, check out the playlist I have listed above that. Those
videos are going to help you start this year off right. And on that note guys, I'll catch
you next time. As always, love and peace.