Hey guys, so contrary to popular belief
what women really want in a man
may surprise you.
Because the fact is
that although you may think
alpha men get all the girls
the guys who
are a little more in touch with their beta side
can also get the kind of women they really want.
Becoming the best of both worlds though
alpha and beta
is actually going to require some courage
no matter what side
you lean more toward right now.
Let's look at how Kevin discovered
what modern women really want in a man
and the specific alpha and beta traits
you can develop
that will actually benefit you
in your life regardless of women.
If you're new to my channel
I help men decode modern women
so you can find, attract, and keep your keeper.
My videos are for you
if you understand and appreciate
that while there are a lot of things
women definitely need to do
to start understanding and appreciating men better,
you know you can only do what you can do.
Welcome to just the tip.
So, Kevin had always struggled to find a girlfriend,
he felt like he was too nice and
often got taken advantage of because of it.
People either called him a people pleaser
or a pushover or worse.
He was totally invisible to them. Can you relate?
Kevin wanted to be respected by women,
but he didn't want to become
that overly aggressive alpha male
that a lot of men think they have to become
to attract women.
He sought advice from friends and family members
and even some online communities,
but nothing he found seemed to help him very much.
That was until one day he stumbled upon something
that changed his life forever.
The Secret of what modern women
really want in a man.
And what he discovered is that modern women
don't actually want an overly aggressive
domineering man
that most guys think of as "the alpha male."
What? True.
In fact what modern women really want in a man
is a combination of
the best qualities of both alpha and beta traits.
They want you to be confident
but not overly egotistical or arrogant.
Protective to make her feel physically safe.
But also caring and understanding
to make her feel emotionally safe.
Assertive and can take charge when needed
but also respectful of other people's opinions and input.
Has standards and communicates them directly,
but is also sensitive and compassionate
and can be a good listener.
Physically fit and taking pride
in your appearance and your style,
but not being overly vain
and having the ability to laugh at yourself.
Exciting and spontaneous
to keep things stimulating for both of you,
but also loyal and faithful
so you can be counted on.
Has a drive to accomplish something
while still being supportive of her dreams and ambitions.
Number 15 I'll share with you in a moment
it's more for those of you
who are looking to have a family one day.
Plus the number one trait that actually
encompasses all of these that all women want
and the similar trait
that all high value women want.
And of course, there are many things in this list
that she should also provide
because relationships aren't a one-way street.
And I've done a whole 5,000 word essay
on what women should be doing better
to be more beautiful and feminine.
I'll put a link below for the ladies out there
or maybe for the guys to share as well.
But let's get back to Kevin.
Armed with all this knowledge
Kevin set out on a journey of self-discovery
and self-development.
And he started by working on two specific things
because he didn't want to become overwhelmed
by having too many goals
on his plate at the same time.
So, what did Kevin start with?
He started with getting his butt to the gym
because building muscle
is the first foremost and most effective way
to build confidence.
And two, he studied up
on career advancement strategies
so he could advance his career.
And when those two became part of his
regular natural routine.
He added two more things,
taking risks more
like sharing his less popular opinions
especially when not called upon.
And two, learning how to be spontaneous
and predictable.
Like making impromptu plans with his workmates
and showing up on time always.
And then, when he was comfortable doing those things
he added this,
initiating conversations with women
without having any ulterior motive.
His only goal was curiosity
and conversational practice.
Do any of these inspire you? Comment.
And without having an overt goal
like trying to get a girlfriend or
trying to get some ***
a funny thing happened.
After Kevin started taking care of himself
emotionally and physically
he actually started to feel more stable within himself
and was able to handle himself
better in the world.
After a while, he started actually working on
being a little less vanilla
by playfully teasing
some of the women he was talking with
or disagreeing with them,
which he'd never imagine doing before
for fear of either rejection or
dealing with conflict or being confrontational.
At first, he wasn't even sure
of what his opinions were on some things,
but with time, he realized he did actually
feel strongly about some things
while still being open-minded and respectful
of others opinions.
Can you relate to feeling like
you're not certain of some of your opinions?
Share your thoughts.
And slowly but surely it all paid off.
And as Kevin began embodying these qualities
more and more people started noticing him
in a way they never had before.
Not just women.
They were drawn to his confidence
without feeling intimidated
like they just met another
overly aggressive alpha male.
Instead, they found someone
who genuinely cared about them
and was able to provide both excitement
and stability in equal measures.
Something invaluable in long-term relationships.
He was developing the perfect balance
of not being overly invested and needy
with also being safe, fun,
and how to take charge attitude.
The best part is Kevin discovered
by doing all these things
he felt better about himself.
Never mind anybody else
and while he occasionally still slips back
into old habits because of lack of practice,
just like anybody
overall his new found balance
between alpha and beta
has actually been really liberating for him.
Not only are women more interested in him
than ever before,
but they take advantage of him way less
because he's quicker on his feet
to establish respectfully
boundaries through knowledge,
effort, and, dedication.
Kevin discovered key point
what modern women really want in a man
are the same things that men respect
in each other and in themselves.
The positive traits of both alpha and beta
are what modern women really want in a man.
And if you have a pet especially a dog
because they're more dependent than cats.
15, nurturing.
Caring for your pet is a plus
if you want kids one day.
Because when she sees you
being nurturing to your pet,
being able to take care of a living being,
she's going to translate that
into good father material.
And unlike men women
who see daddy behavior
they like that mommy want a cuddle daddy.
mommy want a cuddle daddy.
"Cuddle."
Kevin became the ultra combination
of alpha's physicality
and confidence
and beta's compassion and understanding.
Someone who's working
towards success at something
but also stable.
Exciting yet reliable,
assertive yet loving,
and can be independent not needy
yet open to a commitment.
A perfect balance of masculine
strength and vulnerability,
which enables true understanding,
genuine connection,
and deep intimacy,
which are all traits of a successful
long-term relationship.
Now, not only do those around Kevin respect him
but more importantly he respects himself.
Which brings us to the number one trait
all women want in a man.
As I've said in other videos,
respect precedes attraction, key point.
And I haven't said this
in any other videos yet, self-respect.
Your self-respect precedes attraction
for any woman.
But mutual respect precedes attraction
for high value women,
the kind of woman you really want.
If you can embody the positive traits
of both alpha and beta,
then you can have
the woman you truly desire.
If you want to know the areas of vulnerability
that high value women fall for
and the areas of vulnerability
that instantly turn them off
let me know in the comments
and I'll do a video for you.
You will be surprised.
And if you have been called a nice guy
one too many times
then you will definitely want to watch my video
on being too nice
and if you want to know how to
tease her just right
watch my video on how to tease her just right.
Thanks for being here, God bless.