- So a couple weeks ago I made a video called
Perks of Dating a Girl, you may recall.
Also I still love the Pixel so call me Google.
I'm here, you know, hangin' out, also Ella here.
Hey, it's Ella.
And in the spirit of fairness, I would also
like to make a video called the Not So Perks
of Dating a Girl. (whooshing)
Number one, hair.
(laughing)
(muttering inaudibly)
It's everywhere, all the time.
- It's true. - It's in my clothes.
It's all over the shower. - My hair?
- Yeah honey but you have great hair.
- So I've dated both men and women.
- Delicious.
- First not so perk, I really felt and this is just
honestly maybe a personal thing, I started comparing
my body to her body and specifically in our relationship,
I started comparing my body to your body.
- Which is like what are you gonna do?
I got the body of a God.
- It's true. (laughing)
We have completely, it is true.
- That's not true. - She has such a good body.
- That's not true. - It is true.
- I'm compact. - You're small and cute.
Like what more would anybody want from a body?
I don't understand.
It was really hard and I talked about it in therapy
for a long time, in the process of me like talking
about my body and non confidence and whatever,
she referred me to YouTube videos.
One of your videos in part of the ones that she
referred to me, I was like I don't
need this from my own therapist.
- So you have like a closing statement about like
how you got past comparing our bodies or like.
- I'm not past it. (laughing)
- How many cats is too many cats, you know?
I'm pretty sure that if I just showed with a third cat,
you'd be all about it.
- I don't see why that's relevant to this list at all.
(laughing)
- Honey, I didn't know you felt that way.
What's on your chest?
- I don't know, I was looking at it earlier.
- This is not so perks of dating an Ella.
(laughing)
Is chest dirty. - It's soy sauce.
You can share clothes.
- Yeah.
- Great, it's actually a perk
but then there's also a downside.
- Yeah, it's also a huge downside.
- Right. - Yeah.
Like for instance, if someone like,
let's say you have a specific event coming up
and you have to pre plan your outfits ahead of time
so in your mind, you're like okay, I'll get back to LA.
I'll grab my this pair of black jeans
and then I'll be able to make it to this thing on time.
And blah, blah, blah, blah and then you arrive
and then like for some reason, those jeans are just like.
- Out of town.
- Covered in soy sauce. - Covered in soy sauce.
Who knows?
Your clothes mix and you forget what's yours
and you forget like what you have and what.
(laughing)
It's all her clothes.
All I'm saying is I'm trying to put myself.
- Let me ask you a question.
Who's shirt is this? - It's yours.
(laughing)
- How hard do you try or ask or put in closet dividers
or just put things on different sides.
- If it fits, it sits.
(laughing)
And that's what I say.
- The next not so perk I would like to discuss is
the following, I am a verbal processor.
I do enjoy talking about our feelings.
I enjoy having productive conversations
about emotional subjects. - And the thing is I do too.
So that's a lot. - A lot.
- It's a lot. - Yeah, especially if like
one of likes to have emotional conversations.
- It's a lot, like we're always like
discussing our feelings constantly.
- And some of us like to just have those feelings
while we're talking about them and so it's like not
even the subject is in question, it's just the expression.
- It's just feelings on feelings on feelings.
- I think I'm subtly implying that you're more emotional.
- I am not because I think you are in a different way.
- What way, here we go. (laughing)
- We're about to do it again.
That's a trap, let's move to the next.
This next one is really in line with the processing
emotional one, you can always tell when something is off.
I don't wanna be stereotypical of women
but there is a stereotype that women are very
non verbal communicators, what the are you doing?
- There's a hair in the drink.
- Your own hair.
- So there's a stereotype that women are non verbal
communicators and I really find that true.
- Ella, would you say there's such a thing as
woman's intuition? - Yes.
- Would you say that it's psychic, whoa,
I was gonna say a lot? - Yeah.
(laughing)
Next, I nag a lot and you nag a lot
so two times the nagging equals two times the fun.
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Like we just nag each other constantly, constantly.
- I would never call it. - Back and forth.
- I wouldn't call what you do nagging, dear.
- Thank you. (laughing)
- Yeah, you know, some might think of them as helpful
reminders, others might call it nagging.
But I would like to say.
- You don't ever think you're nagging, do you?
- No, I think I'm naggy all the time.
And I'm saying you don't nag.
- I do nag. - I would never say that.
- I know, I know. - Your words, not mine.
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Another not so perk of dating your girlfriend
is that your friend groups just like,
the lines get blurred, right, because you become
friends with my friends or I become friends with your
friends and then it's like if we had a bachelorette parties
who would be invited to what and then like do
we do a big group hang, where's the separation
of church and state, that's complicated.
- We have a lot of similar friends and I would love.
- I'd love our friends to be friends with each other.
- I would love them to celebrate together.
- Wouldn't that be nice?
- I just thought of something but it's actually a perk.
You get to share make up.
- That's not a perk.
I literally, literally again with like trying to
insert closet dividers, my brushes.
- Are you talking about when I left your brushes all out?
- On the floor? (laughing)
- I thought they were our brushes.
(laughing)
So this one doesn't apply to us but I hear in the media
AKA The Elmer or on Twitter or Tumblr that this happens.
But that everybody in the lesbian community
has dated everybody. - Oh yeah.
I've heard that too, I have not experienced that.
But they do say it's a thing so it's like in dating.
Like you've dated so and so's ex.
I mean, if I dated one of your exes, I'd be bi now.
Although I would hook up with someone you've hooked up with.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- I mean, if we ever opened our relationship.
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TBD, come on, okay, another not so perk
which is the following, you happen to despite the fact
that we have moved in together into our shared home,
somehow one of us always buys tampons
and the other one always uses all of them.
- Some of us are givers and some of us are takers.
(laughing)
- Some of us use Diva Cups now which I really, really like.
I love a Diva Cup. - I plus one that.
- You don't have one.
(laughing)
- I'll buy you one, I'll buy a new one next time.
I had no options.
- Long story short, what matters is that your
perks outweigh your not so perks and I would have to say
between you and me, I think our
relationship is pretty perky. - It is.
- On a scale of one to 10, how would you rate our
relationship, one being the pits, 10 being the bits
as in the best, okay, so on the count of three,
we'll say a number, ready, one, two, three.
- Eight. - 100.
- I mean.
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