- So, you meet a great guy.
He seems to be pursuing you,
and he seems to want to date you.
I mean, this guy is totally in.
And what do you do?
You start fighting about the dumbest (beep).
I mean, the guy turned the tempt out to 72 degrees
and you flipped out.
You didn't respond to his texts for three days
because you didn't feel like it.
You might even start flirting with guys in front of him
just to kind of (beep) off a little bit.
Long story short,
you just might not be ready to attract love.
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Now, I've been doing this for 10 years now.
Shees, I'm getting old.
And what I've found is that people, sometimes,
when they get in new, really healthy relationships,
they just sabotage it.
Have you ever done that before?
Leave a comment right there below.
And so, what I wanted to do is create six signs
that you just might not be ready to attract love.
And by the way, if that's the case,
that's totally cool.
Sign number one is that your life
is just full of unanswered questions.
Where are you going to live?
What do you wanna do for a living?
What do you like to do for fun?
What is the meaning of all this?
Now look,
you don't need to know the meaning of life to attract love,
but you still do need to have some stability in your life.
I remember back in the day when I was single,
I dunno, 10 years ago,
I was living in New York City at the time
and I was completely lost in my life.
And I remember I'd go on dates
and I would meet a really nice person.
In fact, I've met a really great woman there.
But I just couldn't progress anything forward
because anytime things would start to get serious,
I would be thinking, "What is our life going to look like?
My life is not even figured out yet.
So, what could our life even possibly,
how could that possibly work?"
And so I sabotaged it, which in the end was perfectly okay.
Because honestly, once I kinda got myself (bleep) together,
I met Jessica and that's it.
Number two is that all of your relationships in your life,
your platonic, your familial relationships
are just a complete mess.
Look, if there's constant drama
with your siblings, your best friend,
your parents didn't wanna spend time with you.
Perhaps, it's time to just take a look in the mirror
and say, "Do I create all of this drama?"
Sometimes, it's a tough pill to swallow
but sometimes we are the problem and that's okay.
Actually, I'd rather be the problem
because I can be in control of working on that problem.
And look, whenever we onboard a new client
in our Love Accelerator coaching program,
one of the first things we do
in what we call little ole step number one
is we have our clients take a real hard look
at their existing relationships,
their non-romantic relationships,
their platonic relationships, their friends, their family.
And really take an inventory
of how quality are those relationships.
Because honestly, your romantic relationships
will merely be a reflection of your platonic
and familial relationships.
If these are always a mess,
then your romantic relationships will always be a mess.
Number three is that you're constantly comparing
every guy that you're dating to your ex.
Now look, it's natural to have a slight comparison
whenever you're dating someone new
'cause comparisons are how the human brain works.
We're comparing one person to another.
But if you are fixated on your ex
and how no one, no one seems to match up with that person,
Maybe it's time to take a step back from finding love
and really start focusing on yourself.
Building your confidence
and finding your own passions and interests,
and really healing from that past relationship.
Once you do that work,
then attracting love is going to be much more possible.
Next is that your career is a higher priority than love.
Now look, there is one thing
that drives me absolutely bonkers when a new client
joins Love Accelerator.
And they come on a mastermind coaching call and they say,
"Adam, I just don't have time.
I don't have time. How am I supposed to do all this?
I don't have time for any of this."
And I say, "Look, we all have 24 hours in a day.
We all have the same amount of time
but we choose where we put our time.
We create our own priorities,
and what you are simply doing is prioritizing work."
So in order to be successful at this process
and attracting long lasting love,
is the only way to do it is to prioritize
and make time for it.
Now, that doesn't mean
you need to be going out every single night of the week
for five hours a night.
Of course not.
It might just simply mean to designate one night a week.
But every single time that that specific night comes up,
you get the babysitter.
You really put work aside
and you focus in on this area of your life.
Everyone has time to make this happen.
I don't care if you were the CEO of a Fortune 500 company
or you are the President of the United States,
although there are rarely single.
The next sign
is that you simply don't seem to like yourself.
Now look, there's a lot of self-help advice out there
that tells you need to know of yourself
in order to attract love,
or you just need to love yourself in general.
And I understand the sentiment of that advice
and in some ways that can be healthy.
But quite frankly,
I don't know what it means to love yourself.
But I do know what it means to like yourself.
You need to like your actions, like your behaviors,
like the things that you do in your life.
And if you don't like yourself
and you're constantly ashamed of your behavior
and everything that you seem to do
creates complete chaos in other people's lives,
well, it's important to address that first.
Because if you don't like yourself,
if you find yourself in a relationship with a guy
who likes you, that's going to feel uncomfortable to you.
'Cause you're gonna be thinking to yourself,
"Wait, I'm not a good person.
I don't like myself, but he seems to like me.
This doesn't add up.
So I'm going to blow this whole thing up and sabotage it."
The next sign
is that you're feeling way too much external pressure.
Your parents, your friends, society.
They're all telling you that if you don't attract love,
then you are not worthy.
You are the only person who has to live your life.
Don't listen to that garbage.
And the final sign is that you have unrealistic expectations
of what love really is.
Now when my clients started Love Accelerator,
there is a little love step,
what we call a little love step number two,
where we create a love vision.
And that's where we get crystal clear
about the man, relationship that we want.
Because we believe if you don't have a bulls-eye,
you will miss it every single time.
But it's really interesting
when our clients go through this process,
because many times our clients
will have ridiculous, ridiculous expectations
for what a relationship really is
and the type of men that they need to attract
in order to be happy.
And then when you talk to someone
who's like 30 years married,
they give you the reality check.
That is when you are in a relationship,
that person is not going to fulfill every single need
that you have.
They are not going to be the funniest person you meet
and the most intellectual person you meet,
and the healthiest person you've ever been around
and the most emotionally stable person ever.
No one fulfills all of those things.
So the reality is when you are searching for love,
it need to have realistic expectation
of what's really important to you
and what your needs really are.
And if you keep searching for perfection,
that to me is just a sign
you're not really ready to attract love.
So, I hope you enjoyed this video.
And if you did, please again, give this video a like.
And also, if you do wanna check out
our Love Accelerator coaching program,
I'll leave a link right there below
where you can apply to speak
with one of my love strategists.
And we will dive deep into your love life
and see whether or not you're a fit.
Otherwise, I'd love to hear from you
in the comments right there below.
Have you ever sabotage your relationships?
Let me know exactly what's going on in your love life.
And if you have any other topics
you'd like for me to cover in future videos,
also leave that in the comments right there below.
I will speak to you, you sexy single lady, next week.
Bye-bye.