here's why you should stop pressuring
your child you love your children and
you want what's best for them you make
sure they eat healthy are physically
active loved and nurtured but we live in
a competitive culture and you have to
prepare them in this always comparing
always judging and fast-moving society
you as a responsible parent make sure
that your child receives the best
chances in life but is this constant
goal reaching attitude really what's
best for your children or should a
carefree childhood be reclaimed you've
learned that you will only receive the
best paid job if you are the best in
order to be the best you have to attend
the best schools you know that it's
important to start early with the best
education if your children don't attend
the best preschool they will not get
into the best high school and then they
won't get into an Ivy League college in
order to defy competition you set high
goals for your children because that's
the only way for them to become
successful adults your children are top
of their class good now let's make them
win the physics Olympiad while adding
the violin to their hobbies not to
forget multiple sports of course you
believe you just lay the foundation of
success
unfortunately you probably didn't
setting high expectations doesn't have
to be a bad thing as long as you
consider your child's response to them
when being pushed too far your children
may develop nightmares or start pulling
out their own hair they may start using
drugs for example to improve their
performance in school tests
or they develop a homework resistance
anxieties and low confidence and you
won't be the only one putting pressure
on your children in order to please you
the parent your children will add even
more pressure your children will believe
that they are only loved if they succeed
why don't you love your child if it
makes mistakes if it fails in a test
stop adding pressure to the one your
children face every day their teachers
pressure them as well as their friends
you are not your child's coach allow
them to make mistakes allow them to be
carefree become your child's supporter
and biggest fan
don't make your love dependent on their
success accept and love them for who
they are not for who they could be
simply put be their parent