Hi.
Hello.
Have a seat.
Thank you, thank you.
Congratulations on your engagement, first and foremost.
Thank you.
So, you decided to get married.
Yes.
What kind of wedding are you going to have?
Fabulous, big, glitz, glam.
Extra.
I have three dresses.
Wait, you're going to wear three different dresses?
I am.
Wow.
What's the budget for this extravaganza?
I wasn't given a budget.
I just told my dad what I want and--
Does that scare you?
It does.
I mean, it's her dream wedding.
I never had a vision of it.
But do you think the dream stops with the wedding?
That's not a dream, that's a lifestyle.
Right.
No.
No, it doesn't stop there.
The wedding is a reflection of--
--the expectations.
--and her expectations.
Yeah.
Does it concern you that that's something that he's
actually going to have to bear?
- No. - Why not?
I'm not saying, go buy me Gucci.
Go buy me Louis Vuitton.
Like, I'm not asking for that right now.
Do you feel like you're going to ask for it someday?
Yeah.
OK, that's what I'm trying to get at.
And do you have that now?
Do you buy like designer stuff?
I do, but my parents mostly buy it for me.
How independent from your parents would you say are you?
I don't ask them for money.
Anything I get is because they're
like I'm just going to give it to you,
and I'm going to do it for you.
Why are you shaking your head?
Because they do everything for her.
Do you ever feel like their influence
is greater than yours?
Oh, definitely I would say that.
She talk to her mama more than she talks to me.
I mean, I call my mom for everything.
Like, that's my best friend.
That's like a sister.
And I can see how it may feel to him
that he's supposed to be that.
What is that like for you?
I want her to be able to, you know, talk to me.
Like, I'm resourceful.
I want to be needed, you know.
How's that land on you?
I don't know, that was kind of tough.
I'm just being honest, you know.
Yeah, say what you need to say.
I said I was not going to do this.
You can do whatever happens.
I just don't want him to feel like I don't need him.
Right.
Like, I need my parents, but I need him.
And I guess I don't know how to separate the two.
I'm going to venture that there's
a vulnerability in wanting and needing him
that isn't there with your parents.
Because your parents, you just, you know
they're going to be there.
Uh-huh.
And if you go to him, you don't
actually know if he's going to be able to meet your need
or not.
Let's talk about who's coming.
Lacey, who's coming from your side?
My mom, Danielle, is coming.
My dad, Orlando, is coming.
And my best friend, Sarah, is coming.
I hope he does not be defensive.
Yeah.
And if it doesn't work out, we can always have
a party, instead of a wedding.
So, my mom, basically her reservations are,
can he step up to the plate and be the man
she would love for me to have.
My dad's the same, and he wants to make sure that, my daughter
is well taken care of.
And Vidal?
So, for me who is coming, my mother, Marilyn.
My father, Larry.
And my fraternity brother, one of my groomsmen, Justin,
is coming.
I think it's going to be pretty relaxed.
We're friendly folks.
Yeah.
My mother, she wants to know, if she's
going to adapt well, leaving the nest with their parents.
My father, he wants to see the real her.
And for Justin, he wants to make sure that I'm
not rushing into anything.
The families are on their way.
First, family meeting.
We go one by one.
They're going to tell you what their concerns are.
Then, there's going to be tasks.
Lacey, your task is called reality check.
Vidal's family is going to write down questions, put them
in a box, and you're going to take them out of the box
and answer them.
Your challenge is to be vulnerable.
Vidal, your task is called five year plan.
OK.
You're going to say what your goals are,
and you're going to put them under each year
that you plan to achieve that goal.
It's really about inspiring that confidence in them.
And I think when they trust you more,
maybe Lacey will trust you more too.
All right, let's do it.
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Oh, this is nice.
It's pretty.
13.
Someone's here. I just won.
Yeah.
I just won.
[PEOPLE SCREAMING]
Hi!
Hello!
[INAUDIBLE]
[LAUGHING]
You're so cute!
Hi, Daddy.
Hello.
Hey how you doing?
Doing good, how you doing?
Doing all right.
Vidal is not someone I had imagined her being
with the rest of her life.
When she first brought him home, I was like are you serious?
See.
What I told you, Mrs. Cox.
Your last name is not Cox?
Yet.
We don't know that.
Yet.
We're hoping it's not.
She's only 24.
Like, can she wait till she's 30?
Or maybe even 35.
40?
40.
Yeah, maybe even 40.
Here we go.
It's a beautiful house.
Gorgeous.
Yes.
Gorgeous, gorgeous.
You breaking up, I can't hear you.
Here come my folks.
See they make themselves at home already.
Really?
Yeah.
Right, let 'em in.
[PEOPLE CHEERING]
Come on, let me in.
My first impression of Lacey was--
I mean, she likes the fine things in life.
It's nothing wrong with that.
Vidal is not going to be able to provide that at the beginning.
Dad, I'm gonna finish giving you all a tour.
All right.
This is going to be an interesting couple of days.
Yes.
I'm ready to get down to the nitty gritty.
Has he gotten on your nerve yet?
No, not yet.
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