Heya playa, have you ever liked someone and wanted to start a conversation with them in
person but you were just too nervous to do it so you decided instead that you were going
to message them online?
Well, what exactly is the right way to phrase it?
How should you start that conversation?
All those different kinds of questions I'm going to answer for you right after this.
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And when it comes to messaging someone for the very first time, you have to ask yourself
is this the most effective way to communicate with them?
Some people really only text their friends, or maybe their online profile is private so
they really only interact with people that they know there so you need to ask yourself
if this person is private, if they've kind of made their life a little sheltered from
me, is trying to break through it without ever talking to them the best way to go?
One of the main reasons why you want to message them first is because you might be too nervous
to talk to them, to approach them, to say hi, to start the interaction that way.
But you might actually be hurting your chances with your crush by trying to message them
before talking to them in person.
You might send them a message and it might sit there in their inbox without them seeing
it, without them reading it, without them knowing that you're there.
The most ideal scenario is for you to send your crush a message, for them to respond
and for the two of you to really get to know each other online, but then what do you do?
I mean at some point the two of you are going to have to interact in person so is it easier
to do that now where there's no expectations and you're just two people who don't really
know each other or is it easier to do it later when you've built up this whole conversation
online and now meeting in person has to meet the expectation of what you talked about.
I personally think that it's way more effective to go from in-person talking to texting.
I see texting more as a supplement to how you guys can communicate when you're not there
in school or around each other at all.
Besides all that though, let's say you still want to message her first.
What do you say?
How do you start a conversation?
How can you successfully slide into her DMs?
Well, I think before you think about sliding anywhere you need to first start interacting
with her content.
I would say whenever she posts pictures or stories you can always leave comments or questions
on them.
Be interactive with her content so that she can be more familiar with your username.
Chances are if you're interactive with her content enough, she's gonna check out your
profile to see who you are.
So that's really the first step in getting her to be more familiar with you.
I would say one of the best ways to send her that first initial message is to leave a question
on one of her stories.
Those stories automatically translate into a direct message conversation so if you ask
her a question and she responds, boom.
You already have a conversation going.
Or if you wanted to send her a cold open message, I would always initiate with a question because
a question prompts a response.
Don't send something like "Hey", "Hi", "What's up", "What are you doing" or any of those
type of things because those are too generic and she's going to end up ignoring them.
Also when I mentioned before that after you comment enough she's going to check out your
profile, you're gonna wanna have something recognizable in there so she can know that
you're someone at least in her school so maybe put your school, your school year or anything
in there so she can know that you're not just some random stranger on the internet.
Now one thing that might happen once you send her that initial question as a message is
she might give you a short answer response so where do you take it from there?
Well, I think the best thing for you to do is to follow up with a story.
The question that you asked, try to incorporate a story from your own life and your own experience
into it so she can learn a little bit more about you.
That first initial message shouldn't be about pleasantries and saying hi to each other.
It should really be something that you can learn about her.
That's why you commented on one of her stories or one of her pictures because you had a question,
you had a follow-up, you had an opinion on something she's doing and you wanted to share
a bit of your own experience.
Trust me on this though, only do that if you want to stand out because there's so many
people out there that send these generic messages hoping and waiting for a response.
When you keep things very general, you're not interesting to your crush.
They're not gonna care to respond and trust me, they probably get tons of messages already
like that.
So comment and question on the things that she posts, that'll lead you to slide into
her DMs to start a conversation and take it from there.
But if you have the option to talk in person, that's always the preferably choice.
Thank you so much for watching, I hope you enjoyed this video.
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today is the official launch of my book "Embracing The Awkward" so if you want to check it out,
the link is gonna be down there in the description below and on that note, I'll catch you guys
tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.