Rob Mo: "Hey everybody its Rob with Tree House Recovery, I'm back in office glad to be
here and today I want to do a video about positive self-talk but to really
get into positive self-talk first we need to discuss negative self-talk
people who have the disease of addiction usually create a constant negative self
dialogue this becomes their reference and it's the byproduct of past traumas
abuse neglect abandonment things that are done while an active addiction and
what happens is these individuals accumulate all these experiences and it
becomes their identity and that will later influence the way they refer to
themselves in their head this toxic identity will be the reference in
somebody's mind and further influence their behaviors an example of this would
be if somebody grew up in an environment where they went through neglect or
abandonment and the dialogue that can be created as a lovable people don't care
about me and if that's constant and the the person the individual grows with
this thought process this belief system it's kind of later influenced their
ability to have relationships with other people or somebody did something while
in active addiction maybe they stole something maybe they were not truthful
about something this can create a thought process of I'm a liar I'm a
thief which again will influence those behaviors in the future and with a
negative self dialog a byproduct of this an example of this might be if somebody
looks in the mirror and they just hate what they see what needs to happen as a
change needs to occur these individuals need to change the way they reference
themselves they need to change that internal self dialogue going from
irrational self-defeating belief systems to evidence-based thought processes
about ourselves and our true values their true essence their positive
character traits everything that makes them great to change our dialogue to
change our reference we need to acknowledge truths about ourselves write
a list write a list of positive character traits write a list
of amazing attributes that you have really identified based on reality who
you are not what you think you are not what you think you are based on the past
but who you are today and once you get that list together go
find that same mirror and read it to yourself let your brain absorb that and
as you're doing that it's healing your brain through your mind if you're an
earlier recovery your brain is what we'd call malleable it's like a clean slate
like a sponge ready to absorb information and it's up to you to decide
what you're gonna feed that brain and watch as your neurobiology follows suit
as I'm feeding myself constant positivity I'm ripping down old negative
neural pathways and laying out brand new positive ones that will later influence
well the way I think about myself but also my behaviors what you are doing is
reconditioning your brain to recognize truths and breaking away from all those
past dysfunctional personalities self-defeating belief systems and really
acknowledging your truths which again is gonna help influence any positive action
moving forward look at it this way and I'm sure a lot of you guys will be able
to relate to this if I go into treatment time and time again I can create a
belief system um there's no good helpless junkie and this creates an
internal dialog it's a reference of myself and if that's my reference what
do you think my outcomes gonna be the next time I enter a treatment center
it's probably not gonna be good but if I'm able to recognize I'm in treatment I
made steps to get here I'm learning to love myself I'm learning to love a team
other people in sobriety I'm gaining all these tools I'm learning about my past
all these truths will become my reference and it's just going to inflate
my sense of self my esteem and it's gonna make me be successful that's why
positive self-talk is so necessary in breaking ourselves away from this
misunderstood idea of what addiction looks like or our past look like so if
you're an early recovery or you've been in recovery for a while or you're just
anybody who has a negative self dialogue please take what I'm telling you and
apply it make a list really honor who you are identify your
positive character traits find that mirror and read it to yourself and watch
as you'll feel better and I know you're probably thinking that's the last thing
I want to do that sounds weird try it for a week and see how you start to feel
watch as you will change your chemistry just by identifying who you really are
again this is Rahab a tree house recovery if you suffer from the disease
of addiction if you know somebody who suffers from the disease of addiction
please give us a call we'll help you out we'll teach you more about healing the
brains or the mind a lot of other stuff that's gonna help promote positive
thinking positive self-talk and long-term sustainable recovery please
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see you guys next time