so today is kind of a special day
because I'm getting married today
and Michael's getting married or both
getting married today together like
Michael and I've been planning this for
a while
died actually it's 2019 I wanted to get
married on January 9 so that it could be
1919 but today is actually January 11th
we decided not to do it because Michael
thought it was like not the best of luck
then we get married on the 9th
so she's instead we're getting married
on January 11th which was really like
better luck for one-one-one but
apparently there's a luck calendar I
mean do you guys have this like when you
guys decided to get married or when you
decide to get married are you going to
have like look at a love kill endure
like it's not a big thing to me but it
was to her I respected that probably 111
is easier term but I don't know but 1919
is at least I can remember the year so I
can remember like how many years been
married
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but we're getting married in 2019 yes
okay like you're gonna carry that nine
every year
that means softly your life or is there
yeah
what's 11 so I guess we're getting on
anime done nothing day no supposed to
get married on a bad day
it's Haiyan which is the best day plan
the best day of the month is this Friday
it's Friday but basically we're gonna
submit our marriage registration form to
the show which is the city
government since I'm a foreigner I had
to go to the US Embassy and fill out
declaration of like Who I am my parents
and whatnot we have that form and then
we actually fill out the registration
form is interesting because I actually
had to get a signature phone of my
friends and am I glad to get a signature
from one of her friends as witnesses one
of my friends yo actually fill it out I
went to his clinic you can see him right
here the video I'm ready to get married
I've been waiting my entire life
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most I probably forgot to sign under the
dr. handsome Michael is having it right
now
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all right so more waiting looks like
submitted the papers and now we have to
wait about an hour think about an hour
yeah I think it's a little bit more
complicated because a lot of the
documentation is in English because on
my side and so they have to check out
the translations and whatnot
it was Japanese people I think it'd be a
lot easier alright so I think a little
bit more waiting I think I don't know
it's like sure wherever you want let's
tell the race just even the time
some people 50% 35 percent divorce rate
in Japan and 50% of course rates
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for me all right guys the remarried is
that all right so just got married
actually you know what Michael can you
like join this I'm good on that side so
like while we were sitting and waiting
for the guys like to confirm our
marriage we started to discuss like like
ceremonies here in Japan and like what
we're going to do about the ceremony and
like we're kind of we're still up in the
air one because we just don't know what
we want to do and two we're trying to
like figure out the cost cuz we don't
want to spend too much money on a
wedding right and there's like there's
several ways to do it how does that work
like Japan if you have a wedding the
parents pay maybe there's a traditional
way who pays not but like I think
nowadays it doesn't really matter
usually whoever is getting married is
the one who's paying really I think so I
think in the u.s. traditionally the
woman's parents pays the husband side
pay for anything early for something
else good quite sure but I think I think
the reason being is like traditionally
like you're supposed to give away the
bride and usually like the they want the
husband to take care of their daughter
so she's like entering into his family I
never like people from the US correct me
if I'm wrong but I think nowadays that's
not so much the case it really depends
on that are like financial situation but
I think that was that's how it was
nowadays we're like from what I heard
from my friends they tried to pay with
what they have but their parents support
if they ask for something yeah I think
it really depends on the case this may
be like my friends are not really the
traditional yeah I'm not quite sure but
these are just really expensive in
general and I think we're both in the
same mindset if we're gonna spend that
much money for a wedding we'd rather
just like go on a vacation and like use
that money to buy a house or I feel like
even let's say we're just gonna do like
a honeymoon I spent that wedding money
to go to the honeymoon it's still not
gonna be a mount for wedding I gotta say
like a wedding you let's say like
wedding would probably cost like some
Yakima 3 million yen 3 million dollars
and usually guests are supposed to pay
like a lot of money so you usually just
feel like buboes money new mom I feel
like but I don't know maybe that I'm
wrong like what I hear for my friends so
yes one thing about Japan and it's
something that's real that was really
new to me when I first came to Japan is
if you attend a wedding I think of like
a rough amount that you pay about 30000
yen which is like roughly three hundred
thousand that's minimum okay a friend
okay which is roughly around three
hundred dollars a little less than three
hundred dollars to attend the wedding
and that's like right a lot of bit of
money right yeah but like that's
actually like that usually takes up like
up to half or like 2/3 of whatever you
spend on the wedding if they have a lot
of guests then that's actually one way
that they're able to make their money
back like it adds up once if you have a
lot of guests and they're all paying
like between three hundred to four to
five hundred dollars per head that's
quite a lot of money you can have like a
pretty extravagant wedding with all
those guests that's why some Japanese
people have like these big weddings but
one thing for me is especially around
like this age as you get older I have a
lot of friends that are getting married
around this time and I've got invited to
quite a bit of weddings and I'm just
like I don't know if I want to spend
that money to go to the thing is
sometimes like you get invited to
friends that you're not even that close
to right that happens you get like you
know I'm like dude I met you five years
ago you like hung out for a little bit
now you're inviting me
wedding and so you get a like you get a
lot of those invites as well because
people want you to attend it hurts when
you're young like 300 bucks this is a
lot for like a person who has no money
yeah just saying like it looking I was
in my 20s especially right yeah and you
have friends when you have friends that
are getting married you're like oh my
gosh that's I can't afford it to attend
these weddings like my mom told me like
when I leave him back to do years yeah
she told me that it used to be like
Verizon groom invites more relatives or
like there are other people that work
work or their boss or you know like the
schoolteachers or who can pay a lot for
your buddy
so usually pays off more but like
nowadays people invites more friends so
it doesn't matter you really good puffs
yeah so yeah that's actually one thing
that's changing
yeah so I think the difference in the
u.s. is I don't think they have this
like gift system in terms of by giving
the $300 they just have a demonstration
yeah they have registration to use like
register yeah I had a place and then
people just choose from combat as like
like I learned this only from sex in the
cities you know my old my information
from Sex in the City
but I remember Carey was showing it by
the wedding gift
yeah registered and she has to go to
different departments that are like a
scores and oh it's already bought or
like something like so she had to buy
like something that's left on that list
so like they send you the list
Tobiah like how is that you can just go
online no I also they send you like
invitation with list I think so that's
kind of what I me a gift so that's the
u.s. I think again help us out so yeah
that's kind of like we were married now
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