Hi my name is Caspar lee and this is Joe.
Hello!
Why's that funny?
Growing up is quite difficult, Joe as you probably know.
Big time.
Did you know I only just started growing armpit hair? I'm almost 24!
It's difficult to deal with puberty, body confidence, bullying, sex, etc.
Joe what are you?
I was just checking it was still there.
Growing up, young Caspar had a few problems with different things.
And he had a bunch of expectations
When it came to talking about these things with his parents.
But, those expectations weren't actually the reality of the situation when he talked to them.
So I'm going to show you those using my helpful, trusty sidekick Joe.
Oh is that why I'm here?!
Oh!
Expectations when talking about puberty!
Hi Mum!
It's Joe. Call me Joe.
Caspar: No, no you're my mum. Joe: It's me Joe.
Caspar: No, I know but you're my mum right now.
Joe: Oh yeah. Cool. Sorry.
Hi Mum, I was wondering if I could talk to you about something?
Course you can Caspar!
The boys have been talking in the changing rooms about hair they're growing in places.
But I'm not growing any hair yet.
And I was wondering if there was something wrong with me.
No you're fine! I was a late bloomer too and then all of a sudden boom! Hair everywhere!
Couldn't control it!
*Caspar laughs*
Well it's not as bad now I must admit.
You can have a look if you want!
No?
But the reality of the situation was actually very different.
I actually spoke to my mum about this issue.
That I thought was really important at the time.
And she kind of, just explained how everyone grows up differently and it was nothing to be worry about
And it wasn't awkward at all.
I actually felt closer with her because of it.
I agree.
Caspar: Mum there's this boy called Josh. Caspar's Mum: I hate the name Josh.
Ok.
And he's kind of been, not very welcoming to me 'cause I've just moved schools.
He's bullying you?
Yeah.
Are you being bullied?
Yeah.
You're being bullied?
Well, I mean it's not that bad. I just wanted to talk you about it.
Caspar's Mum: That's it. Wait here. Caspar: No Mum. Don't!
Caspar's Mum: I'm going right down that school, right now. I'm gonna tell that principal he's not doing his job properly.
Caspar: No Mum don't make a big fuss abou- *laughs*
He's gonna pay for what he's done to my boy.
Caspar: Mum please don't. Caspar's Mum: Has he hit you? Has he hit you?
Caspar: no.
But the reality of the situation was that me and this boy, Josh just didn't get along at that time.
My mum actually just gave me really advice like
Avoid him. Stop trying to be his friend.
'Cause I was really trying hard and I think that's what made me feel even worse about it.
And she just kind of made me feel good about myself.
And told me I was better than that.
I guess at that time I needed to hear that from my mum.
And she didn't make a big scene like I thought she would, to be honest.
Sometimes parent's advice is the best because they've been through it before.
Like they were once your age, they've been through similar situations,
If not they'e known someone who's also been through a similar situation.
It's hard to sometimes imagine that your parents
Are actually, they were kids.
And actually they're real people too.
Sometimes you just think they're the most embarrassing things to walk this planet.
And that is the case, don't get me wrong.
But they can also have some great advice.
Thank you Joe for helping me with this video.
That's alright! Can I go now?
Yeah you can go.
Nah. I'm quite enjoying this 'cause it's actually my room.
Ok you can stay,
I don't think all of our parents are going to handle everything exactly the same.
However, there are loads of people out there you can speak to.
Not only your parents but maybe your teacher, an older brother, sister
The man down the road, but make sure he's not a stranger.
Everyone is going to have to deal with awkward situations and awkward conversations.
But I feel like our expectations are a lot worse than the reality of the situation.
There are definitely people out there you can speak to, even if they're not your own parents.
Even if it's not your teacher, there is someone there who is willing to listen.
And it's so much easier getting through life with help.
It would be awsome if you could leave some of your thoughts about awkward conversations
And maybe some examples of experiences you've had in the past.
In the comment section.
But for now, we're off and we've had a great time making this video.
And we'll see you soon. Bye!