- [Narrator] Once you turn 18, it feels like
you have to have your whole life together,
but what if you don't get it together?
What if you feel lost in life?
Like where you thought you'd be is so far
from where you are right now.
It turns out we have a lotta big questions.
The, what is the meaning of life,
kinds of questions, the ones that keep you up at night
wondering if anyone else feels the same way.
So, we started a vlog to ask those questions.
Questions like, how do you even become
a real-life functioning adult?
How do you find friends and figure out
what to even do with your life?
We can't promise the answers,
but let's figure it out together.
We are a collective group of young adults finding life,
seeking to make a collective difference
with our collective influence.
So, here we go.
We're wrapping up our adventure still kind
of wondering what it looks like to be an adult
and still having so many questions.
(music)
- We invited Pastor Will, who we talked to at the beginning
of this whole thing and so, now we finally get
to like introduce him to some of our other friends
and see really like, what we learned, I guess.
I don't know.
I don't know how it's gonna go.
Glad you're here, gonna have so much fun.
Let's go.
- [Narrator] We've learned so many things this week
about what it looks like to be an adult,
how to find friends, how to find purpose in life
and so many other things.
But, there's still so much we don't have figured out.
- Our friends are here.
- [Narrator] We also wanted our friends to get to meet Will
because he kind of started this whole thing.
We wanted to celebrate our progress this week
and to thank Will for being there with us along the way.
We're sad everything is coming to an end,
but we're hopeful to find even more wisdom
for our collective group.
- We've spent a lot of time together this week
asking a lot of huge questions and we thought like,
it might be cool to like, kind of bring it full circle,
back to where we started, asking huge questions,
to someone wiser than us.
Not that much older, though.
- Not that much.
- We found out. Not that much older than us.
You're obviously a pastor and I think there's,
I don't know, stigmas about like we can assume
you're a certain way, growing up your whole life.
I don't know, like were there any like curve balls
in your story that got you to where you are now?
- Yeah, one I definitely never wanted to be a pastor,
but I love what I do.
I love being a pastor.
I love moments like these,
especially with young adults,
since I'm no longer a young adult, according to y'all.
(laughter)
So, I love these moments, just asking questions,
hearing the responses, 'cause really,
that's what this whole life is about.
None of us have it figured out.
We're all taking steps closer to Jesus
and he's the one that gives us the answers
and we learn a lot from stuff like this.
- Do you feel like you're living out
your calling, your purpose?
- I do.
- When did you like lean into that and say,
okay, this is it and I'm living it?
- I don't think there was like a moment
where I was like, wow, I'm living it out.
I think there was a moment of
of like,
I'm going to do this.
Romans 12:2, talks about being transformed
by the renewing of the mind.
So, staying in God's word every single day.
And I think as we keep God's word in front of us,
the Bible tells us somewhere in Psalm that his word
is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path.
So, we don't know every single step, but staying
in his word lights up this step
and lights up the next step and the next
and the next and the next
and so it was staying God's word,
it was having
uh
people that were
uh
wiser than me, or in different
seasons of life that I could come to
- I hear you, I hear you
- No I said, I didn't even want to say it
I didn't even want to say it, cause I knew y'all were gonna,
I knew y'all were gonna clown me.
The main thing is I don't know what I'm doing.
(laughs)
But I'm just like okay I believe this is the right
step. How do I know that its the right step?
Well I don't know 100%
but I know that step is not contradicting God
and his word.
We think like if I don't take that path,
then I'm gonna end up some place I don't wanna be.
And so many times its like you've got this opportunity,
you've got two job opportunities in front of you
and you're sweating bullets cause you're like
I don't wanna make the wrong decision, both jobs seem
pretty good and what I tell people is
which one do you have peace about?
I have peace about both.
Well then choose
and he will be with you also the path.
- [Narrator] Pause, listen.
Did you guys hear that?
So often we feel like were gonna ruin our lives
if we make one wrong move, when that's just not true.
We don't have to tiptoe around in life, hoping to make
the right choice.
As long as were obeying God, he will be with us no matter
where we go or where we end up.
We can also get so worried about how we'll know
whether or not we're gonna hear from God.
But listen, everyone hears him differently.
Let's talk about it.
- What are some ways that you all you feel like you
hear from God?
- I think the times when I feel like okay I know that was
God, its when I'm in a situation like this
and I hear or fell something very confirming
in the moment, that's like, there's are your friends
and like no one else will like pick up on it but
its like I hear that and I sense that and its
like a certain peace and confidence and like okay.
- Yeah.
I was going through the process of trying
to change jobs from Oklahoma to Texas
but I hadn't let go of my
current job that I had yet.
I hadn't sent in the resignation letter.
And during the interview I felt like God was
telling me like it was just that thought process of like,
I need to send that in, I need to tell them
that I'm not coming back, officially.
And then the person who was interviewing me
told me that he couldn't offer me the job
because the lady who had the job that
was going to be opened hadn't sent in her resignation
letter yet either.
And that was just too weird of like a
- You're like her
- I was like oh
and so that's when I really felt like God was
telling me like,
I can't give you something until you're letting go
of this.
- I think really worship is like something that kinda
captivates me and its just like
okay like here I'm singing your praises but yet I
don't feel this way right now.
And then I think in that moment the Lord is just
like you feel this way because you're here, you're doing
this, you're singing praises no matter if its in person
or like if its just in your head
or if its with people, with people
watching you.
It doesn't matter but you're still singing the praises,
so you do get it.
So now I'm speaking to you now and I want you to understand
and fully like grasp that and so.
- For sure
- I feel like I've heard God like the most when
I was doubting
and like having
I don't know
battles with you know, trying to hear his voice
versus what I wanted to do.
- [Narrator] Isn't that true for all of us?
Like if we're honest, sometimes we don't always feel God
or hear him explicitly.
And that can lead to doubts.
We don't often talk about doubting but
I love how Christian talked about how doubt can actually
be a way to hear from God and to get closer to him.
I wanted to shift gears and figure out if Will always
feels like he's where he's supposed to be.
I know for me I sometimes feel like where I want to be is
so far from where I am now.
- [Will] When you're twenty, you're like I'm gonna be a
millionaire but thirty.
(laughter)
That's what I thought
like I had all of these dreams and ambitions and so
at
now at 37
I, I definitely am like man it thought id be
so much further along.
I thought id have it all together.
But then I talked to people that are forty seven and
they look, to me, they look like they have it all
together but they'll tell me the same thing.
Now I still don't feel like I'm where
I'm supposed to be.
- So knowing what you know now,
what are like steps you think, at our age
in our twenties,
what are those types of steps we could be taking
now to get us where we want to be in ten years?
- I think the first thing you need to ask yourself
is where do I want to be?
In your relationship with God, like where do you want your
relationship with God to be?
Like a lot of times we don't,
we only thing about like the
tangible things of like money, and a house,
and clothes and the profession but like
the intangibles is your walk with Christ
like where do you want to be at?
Do you want to know his word more, do you want to have a
better prayer life.
All of that starts now.
- How do you find those people that are gonna
support you and walk along side you
and you're gonna help them like
where do you go to find that kind of
I think its really easy to find friends that maybe
maybe don't help you or maybe even hurt you.
You know how do you find that group that kind of
pushes you forward?
- They're everywhere, if you will take the step to find
them.
And so like the life group that I'm in,
uh
a young lady found my wife. And they were
we were all serving together at out youth ministry
and they were just serving together, they started talking
back and forth and she was like hey I'm starting this
group, would you like to be apart of it?
We were like cool we showed up, didn't know
okay we don't know if they're gonna be weird or not
I don't know how this is gonna work out but now
we've been in that group three years.
And it started just from a conversation between them.
I'm telling you they're around you
like if anybody says like there aren't
I can't find people
no
you are either, one,
you don't want to find them or you just won't take a step
out of your comfort zone.
- [Narrator] Dang that's direct. People are all around you
if you
look for them.
I'm learning that actually is true and this whole week
has been proof.
- Now that like I personally am
still in that walk of trying to get where
I think God's called me to be,
and so you were talking about like before
you decided to,
you know
listen to what he was saying and
you know telling you do with your life,
now that you're there, what does your life look like
in your walk with God and just knowing that you're
doing his will, for you.
- A lot of us think that once we step into whatever it
is God's called us to do, that we'll be like
I arrived, I made it, this is it, I know but even
when I was in it, I still felt unsure.
That's why I can sit here with you all and tell you,
there's many days I don't know what I'm doing.
But that's so freeing for me because it's in those
moments that I feel like I'm most walking in my calling.
Life is a journey, its not a destination.
So even though I'm in my calling, I still gotta walk
through it.
The moment you stop, and you don't move forward, that's
that moment when you really have to go like
you have to wake up and go something,
something is off, something is wrong.
- [Narrator] We're wrapping up this whole thing and honestly
I'm sad about it.
I really did become friends with these people
and we learned so much along the way.
I think the biggest take away for me is that no one
ever really has their life figured out
and that's okay.
Maybe you never actually feel like an adult.
Maybe you never figure it all out and get your life
together the way you expect.
But maybe that's the point.
It's less about figuring it all out and more
about finding the right friends
to help you.
And learning to look to God for the answers.
So keep doing the right next thing.
Find your people
ask people older and wiser than you to share
their experiences with you.
Remember who you are and think about where you
want to be but most of all
know that you don't have to do it alone.
We made friends by scheduling a group of people to
do this project.
Those people are out there for you, if you'll take
a step outside your comfort zone and just go for it.
Collectively, we can do this adulting thing.
Because who ever finds God, finds life.
And were a collective of young adults finding life
together.