and It actually extends into your negotiations
as well and into the discard phase.
That's what I wanna
talk to you about today.
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Okay, so today we're gonna
cover how narcissists gameplay and relationships
and it actually extends all the way
from the beginning of
the relationship and you know,
from the love- bombed stage
and then it it goes into that devaluing
stage and then into that discard phase
and then you know
where I pick up into it,
where you're negotiating
with that narcissist.
Whether it's a business relationship,
whether it's a personal relationship,
I see it all the time and it's a
manipulation really is what it is
and they gameplay all the way through and
you know, you're seeing it constantly
you're seeing it constantly but a
lot of times you're not necessarily
noticing it right away
but first of all, you start off thinking
this person is perfect.
Whether it's a business relationship
or a personal relationship,
I dealt with a narcissist in a business
situation personally and you know,
my husband and I've had to deal with
narcissists and our family as wella
and you know, regardless of the type of narcissist
whether it's a covert narcissist
or an overt narcissist,
It's the same kind of thing.
You know, they start off amazing.
They start off like, “oh my gosh
this is like the most perfect
amazing person in the world”
and they make you feel like you're the most
incredible human being they've ever met like,
wow the stars have aligned and then
they start this hot and cold thing
nad that's where the game playing starts.
That's the very first thing that you
start to notice this hot and cold.
This ghosting and
you know, where did they go?
That's the first sign really a lot of the time.
You know, now all of a sudden
you're needy or something like that
you know, they they you can't get them to text
you back or they're super passive-aggressive
you can't get them to do the things that you asked
them to do or they
promised that they would do
if it's a business relationship
or you're finding out that there's
gaps in their stories or there's lying
and they've got some kind
of explanation about it
there's red flags that are showing up in
you know, you start to
see that they're making
promises that they have
no intention of fulfilling
and then a lot of times,
you know, you start to see them they come like,
all the way up as close to
your breaking point as possible.
Like, you're just about to the edge
of you can't take it anymore
and then back to love bombing again.
Back to future faking.
Back to it's all gonna be better.
Back to you'll see oh my
gosh it's gonna be amazing.
Back to you know, if it's a romantic situation.
Flowers.
Well, I'm so sorry or crying
and desperate to keep you or whatever it is
and you know, if it's a business relationship,
all of a sudden they start doing the
things they were supposed to do
or whatever it is because they know
like you're maybe about to leave or something.
You know, so this is hot
and coldness up and down.
All the way to your breaking
point where you feel
like there's no way you
can stay another day,
and then they're good again
and then back to this thing.
So you start to see that all the time
and then negotiations
you kinda see
that where you think you have a deal
and all of a sudden you don't
have a deal anymore.
Now they add something else
or they take away something and now it's
constantly what I say moving the goal post.
By the way, I have a whole video on
Why narcissist move goal posts,
which you should definitely check out.
Why narcissist move goal posts constantly.
Definitely check out that video.
In that same vein,
similar vein, they never resolve issues
in the relationship.
You have this constant circular conversation.
You know, you're trying to resolve an
issue and they never resolve the issue
that's another game that they play.
You know, you sit there and you try to have
a conversation with them about something
and let's say you try to talk to them about maybe
something that they did or they didn't do
and it's “why are you bringing this up now?”
“Oh, I don't like “ your tone of voice.”
“Oh, everybody can hear you right now.”
“I'm really tired.”
“Why are you talking about that?”
“Oh, do this first.”
You know, before you get to that,
let's talk about this and you never get to
talking about what you wanted to talk about.
Well, you interrupted me.
So you never get to talking about
what you wanted to talk about ever.
You know, there's never any resolution
to problems in the in the relationship
and another thing a way that they play
games is that they just
never give you
what it is that you want in the relationship.
They'll say that they're gonna
give you what you want.
you'll see that it's gonna be better
and from now on,
I'm going to always do
this that or the other thing.
It could be the simplest thing you know.
If you're married to the person,
from now on, I'm going to be doing the
laundry every single week or whatever it is,
and then they just never
do it and you know,
well, this week I had that,
and this week I had this,
and it just never happens and why
are you always on my back?
Whatever it is I mean, it just never happens.
By the way, if you are seeing what I'm seeing
and you're totally
resonating with this so far,
give me “TOTALLY!” in the comments.
Just break totally in the comments.
So those are the you know,
some of the game
playing that they do so far
You know, and then a lot of times,
it's just that they'll just raise their voice.
you know, you're trying to talk to them
and the more you try to
talk to them about something,
they'll just raise their voice
or they'll use hand gestures.
They might even get physical with you
because they just don't wanna hear
what you have t o say or maybe
they'll just walk away
because they don't wanna
hear what you have to say.
Maybe they just won't even text you back.
Maybe they'll just completely ghost too
because they don't wanna
hear what you have to say.
You know, so that's another way
that they will game play you.
They're just completely
manipulating you constantly.
So you know, they're they're
toying with your feelings.
It's just hot and cold constantly
you don't ever get what you want.
They get what they want because
they're constantly controlling you,
game playing with you,
and you just constantly feel used,
abused,
emotionally wracked,
and everything is your fault.
Everything is you know, put on you.
You're constantly being
made to feel guilty.
You're the one who's irresponsible,
lazy, you know, the problem in the relationship
and everything's always turned back on you
and you know, that's the way they manipulate.
That's the way they gameplay.
So, you know, those are
just some of the the things.
Those are just some of the ways that narcissist
gameplay and relationships, romantic,
business, personal, they act
the same whether it's covert,
overt doesn't matter, they act like that in any
and when they are negotiating
it's the same thing,
only it's even more heightened
and that's why I specialized in this
because you cannot negotiate with a
narcissist in a regular reasonable person way.
The regular rules of negotiation just
simply do not work with narcissist
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