Want to know what a narcissist reaction is
By the end of this video,
you're going to know
what a narcissist reaction is
when you reject them or
go no contact with them.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung
and I am an attorney,
and I'm also a narcissist
negotiation expert,
but I've seen lots and lots of people
try to reject narcissists
or go no contact with them.
And I'm going to tell you
what it's like when I seen people
try to reject narcissists
or go no contact with them.
So in this video, I'm going to tell you
all about that reaction
and what you can do
to also protect yourself
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Alright so you are ready
to reject a narcissist,
go no contact with the narcissists.
What do you need to know?
All right, so no contact
lets you know that you are unto them.
You know, they now know
that their secret is out,
right?
because, you know, they think that
you have been snowed by them.
They think that you have been
love bombed by them.
They think that you have
been conditioned by them.
And remember that they have
no inner sense of value,
and they have this
deep deep deep shame
deep shame,
and they’re constantly
trying to cover that up.
They kind of lead these double lives.
I do have a whole video on that.
but you can definitely check out.
but they have this deep sense of
you know
no inner value whatsoever
and deep sense of self-hatred
and they don't want you to know that
and so when you go to leave them,
you know, that's like their
worst case scenario.
They don't want to be abandoned.
That's like the last thing that they want,
even though they've treated you
horribly the whole time by the way,
which is the whole irony of the whole thing.
In a way,
like you think
“Didn't you want me to leave you?”
like “You hate me?”
but yeah
when you do try to leave,
they try to make you feel guilty
of what are you leaving for?
I mean, it's such a cycle of toxicity.
It's awful.
I mean, the whole time you've been there.
They've been horrible to you.
But when you go to leave
then now they really know that,
you know the jig is up
and they do start to feel
a sense of regret,
but they're not going to let you know that
because for them like this world
is very black and white.
and once you leave,
you become public enemy number one.
and, you know that shame
is like so much worse
that self-hatred
that self-loathing that they feel.
It's just so much worse for them,
and it really kind of destroys them
in a lot of ways,
but they do go into this self-defense mode.
and it becomes like this
or they have this narcissistic injury
that's deep inside of them
that was created when they were
very young
and it gets exposed.
And when you leave them
is like a scab is ripped off.
And now that narcissistic rage
comes flying out
and they've got to make sure that
they get you before you get them.
And so they want to make sure
that to the world,
you look like the loser
because they can't look like the loser.
You have to look like the loser because
how they look to the world
is everything.
So you have to look like
you're the loser.
They want to make sure
they take you down
before you can take them down.
So if there's,
if it's a divorce situation
and they're going to go into this
annihilation mode
and they'll file all kinds of stuff maybe
in the family Law Court event
depending on the type of
narcissist they are
It could be crazy emotions.
It could be all kinds of false things,
false allegations.
They could threaten you.
They could line up flying,
might monkeys, they could get all these
people to try to believe lies against you.
I mean, depending on the
type of narcissist that they are,
how malignant they are
how psychopathic they are,
how much they really hate you
how vindictive they are.
But thing is you got to remember that,
you have to slay it.
Slay — meaning my form of slay
and your form of slay.
But slay, for my form is strategy,
leverage, anticipate and
focus on you.
Strategy,
leverage,
anticipate,
what they're going to do and be
two steps ahead of them
and focus on you,
your mental health,
your case.
The best defense is a good offense
and 90% of winning is your mental
it’s knowing that you can win
before you even get there.
So you can do it,
you absolutely can.
But you just got to make sure that
you are prepared ahead of time.
You absolutely can win
but you've got to be prepared.
And remember the best leverage
is going to be figuring out
what form of supply
is going to be more important
for them to protect,
than the supply that they
get from jerking you around.
What supply is going to be more
important for them to protect,
which is always going to be
how they look,
then the supply that they get from.
You know
jerking you around or making
you miserable
manipulating you,
I mean, because that's always,you
know,
some sort of supply that they get as well.
So just make sure that they see
that you aren't being baited
that you aren’t being manipulated
that you aren't moved by their craziness
because they get supply from that
and then just keep walking,
right? Don't look back,
Don't even twitch.
Don't even switch, don't even move
because that gives them supply.
And remember that you can slay this.
Now I want you to write in the comments
right now
“I can slay this”,
because you can.
absolutely can
and that's what the narcissist
reaction is to rejection or no contact.
Remember the narcissist is more
afraid of you than you are of them.
They absolutely are
and they are worse before they get better.
So just anticipate that
but that's the reaction
to rejection for no contact.
I mean, it's not going to be good.
You know,
that it's not going to be good.
So just expect that.
So what?
They can act like a two-year-old
like a toddler on the floor.
So what? You know what?
You bet. You’re bigger.
You're better. You can do it, right?
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You can do this.
You absolutely can do this.
All right,
and I will see you guys in the next video.
That's what we're here for,
you know, years ago there weren't resources.
Now, there are.
Okay, time to slay.
I'll see you guys in the next video.