How’s it going, YouTube?
Brad Browning here with another video that will help you navigate through your breakup.
And for today, I’m going to talk about something that a lot of you have questions about…
and it’s the 10 things you absolutely have to do after the No Contact period.
Now, if you’ve made all the way up to this point… then CONGRATULATIONS!
You’ve pretty much surpassed one of the most difficult phases of getting your ex back.
Most of the time when people FAIL to get their ex back, it’s because they break down during
the No Contact period and decide to start begging and pleading for their ex to come
back to them.
If you’ve watched any of my other videos on this topic, then you already that the KEY
to getting him or her back is to build attraction with your ex naturally.
Begging, pleading, and hysterics will only PREVENT yourself from building this much-needed
attraction with your ex.
Before I get into the top ten tips here… make sure that you subscribe to my channel
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Okay, so let’s jump right into the goods.
Number One – assume a positive mindset.
This is one of the most important things to remember moving forward.
The LAST thing you want to do is undo all the hard work that you put in over the last
month or so.
You do NOT want to transform back into the jealous, emotional, and hysterical version
of yourself (if that was the case).
Instead, make sure that you have a powerful and confident mindset moving forward.
You need to convey to your ex that you’re a changed human being, that you’ve moved
on from the breakup, and that your life is TOTALLY together and amazing.
If you’ve been following the advice in my YouTube channel, then the exercises that I
outline during the No Contact period will ensure that you have this proper mindset moving
forward.
So remember, BEFORE you do ANYTHING, make sure that you’re thinking optimistically...
once your ex sees that you’re brimming with power and confidence, he or she will wonder
why they ever left you in the first place!
Post “No Contact” Tip Number Two – contact your ex!
This one’s a big one, guys… but it’s a LOT easier than you think it is.
The goal of this step is to simply establish positive communication so you can escalate
to a date or potential meetup.
Right now, your ex will probably still think that you’re pining over him or her… but
this is the last thing that you want to convey if you’re reaching out to them for the first
time after a month.
You want to show them that you’ve A.) moved on and are focusing on different things, and
that B.) that life is going extremely well for you.
To do this, you can use one of the many text messages that I outline in my Ex Factor Guide
program.
Here’s a quick example…
I call this text the “Travel Text”.
An example of this would be something like…
“Hey you!
Hope you’re doing well.
I’m going to Costa Rica next September!
I know you were just there a couple years ago and thought I could pick your brain a
bit.
That cool?”
Right now, this is all you have to do to establish positive communication with your ex.
This text is great because it doesn’t show that you miss your ex or anything like that…
you’re just reaching out because you actually need some information from him or her.
And that’s it!
Of course you don’t HAVE to text your ex to make your first contact, but I highly recommend
it simply because it requires minimal effort and it gives your ex room to think about a
proper response.
You don’t want to give your ex any unneeded stress!
Secondly, make sure that you don’t text your ex at a really weird time… make sure
you text your ex during the early evening or late afternoon.
And make sure that whatever you do, YOU ONLY TEXT YOUR EX ONCE for now.
If you’ve been following my advice up until this point, your ex should be eagerly responding
to you... and if you’ve been following the tips I outline in my Ex Factor Guide program,
there’s a very good chance that your ex ALREADY wants to get back together with you.
For those of you that want more information on my Ex Factor Guide program, just head on
over to BreakupBrad.com and watch that free video.
Again, that URL is BreakupBrad.com, so make sure that’s the very first thing you do
after watching this YouTube video!
Post “No Contact” Tip Number Three – Establish some self-control during your conversations.
If you’ve been playing your cards right and your ex DOES end up responding to your
call or text message, then congrats… but the battle is obviously far from over.
You don’t want to get too excited at this point – a lot of my clients will get so
anxious that they’ll start begging their ex for a date the moment that they establish
communication.
DON’T DO THIS!
Instead, play it cool.
So this means that when they DO text you back, don’t text them back right away.
Instead, wait a couple of hours.
Or if it’s late during the day, then don’t be afraid to text him or her back the following
day.
You really need to convey to your ex that you aren’t desperate to talk to him or her,
regardless of how you ACTUALLY feel inside.
If you’ve been doing everything right, your ex should totally be open to helping you out
with whatever trip you’re planning.
But here’s a big tip to help you along the way: throughout your conversation, make sure
you drop what I call “Feeler Questions” during your texting conversation.
These are questions that are specifically designed to bait them into ask you personal
questions about your life.
For example, you could reply with something like…
“Thanks for helping me out.
Anyways, long time no chat… how’s work been treatin’ ya?”
When they answer, they’ll probably ask a reciprocal question.
This is your time to shine and let him or her know how well things have been going for
you.
If you do this correctly, you’ll pique your ex’s interest and they’ll want to know
even MORE about how you’re doing.
But keep a couple more guidelines in mind when you’re talking to your ex… do NOT
ask them if they’re seeing or dating anybody.
Right now, you need to show that you don’t care how their love life is going.
And remember to absolutely avoid bringing up YOUR past relationship with him or her.
You need to focus on keeping the conversation light, fun, and fluffy!
No need for negativity or drama whatsoever.
And this brings me to...
Post “No Contact” Tip Number Four – Take my free quiz tool on my website.
If you haven’t already, then head on over to BreakupBrad.com/quiz.
Again, that’s BreakupBrad.com/quiz.
On that page, you can take my short, 4 minute quiz.
After you complete the quiz, it’ll tell you a score out of 100 which will indicate
your likelihood of getting your ex back.
I designed this quiz myself a few years ago and I’ve used it as a powerful tool to help
my clients figure out the very best way to get their ex back.
Not only will you find out your score out of 100, but based on your results, it will
generate PERSONALIZED advice on exactly how you should approach getting your ex back.
So to take that really short quiz, just head on over to BreakupBrad.com/quiz.
Post “No Contact” Tip Number Five – Set up a short meeting
Once you’ve established contact with your ex and you’ve been building anticipation,
it’s time to escalate your interaction and meet in person.
You can do this a number of ways, but depending on how your relationship ended previously,
you might need to re-work your strategy.
But in most scenarios, setting up a quick coffee date is one of the best ways to go
about in meeting up with your ex.
You could say something like…
“So can I just buy you a coffee and you can tell me about the attractions in San Jose?
I’d totally appreciate it!
It’ll be super quick, promise.”
It can be as easy as that.
But again, it really depends on how your breakup ended in the first place.
Another strategy would be to hang out with mutual friends as well.
You could say something like,
“Hey!
I’m hosting a party this Sunday afternoon…
Alex and Petrov are both coming.
Wanna come?
You can tell me more about Costa Rica then!”
By doing this, you make sure that you break the tension between you and your ex by making
sure some mutual friends with be in attendance.
If you do this correctly, your ex will be much more open to hanging out with you.
So keep this tip in mind!
Post “No Contact Tip” Number Six – Meet Your Ex!
Okay, take a deep breath… this is an important day!
There are a few things that you have to remember when you’re meeting your ex for the first
time after No Contact.
A lot of the information may sound familiar from the previous tips, but they’re important
to reiterate.
Remember that the goal here in the first meet up is to have a great time.
You’re not bringing up things from the past, you’re not here to start a fight with your
ex, and you’re not here to start any unnecessary drama.
Instead, focusing on being happy, positive, and making sure that your ex is having fun
with you.
Now’s the time to show off a little bit, too.
Talk about all the amazing things that are happening in your life.
Talk about the amazing trip you’re planning, how your social life is bumping, how you’re
hitting the gym every day, and how well work has been going for you.
Right now, your goal is to make sure your ex knows that THEY are missing out on the
amazing catch that was you!
Of course, you’ll want to make sure that you aren’t TRYING to make your ex jealous.
If he or she senses that you’re being disingenuous or that you’re trying too hard, they’ll
run for the hills… so make sure that subtly is a focus.
Post “No Contact” Tip Number Seven – Hire Me As Your Breakup Coach!
If you’re struggling with your situation and you want personal guidance to help you
get your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend back, then you might be interested in my personal
coaching program.
To check out how to hire ME as your personal break up coach, just head on over to BreakupBrad.com/coaching
and check out my availability on that page.
Again, that’s BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
I am fairly busy right now… and I can only take on 50 clients at a time.
So if you DO see me available on that page, then make sure that you sign up!
It’s a lot more affordable that you think it’ll be… plus, the chances of you getting
your ex back will skyrocket.
So again, to check out my availability, then head on over to BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
Post “No Contact” Tip Number Eight – Flirt!
During your first meet up with your ex, you’re going to want to flirt with him or her subtly.
Don’t be too pushy or aggressive -- this is all about having fun and building organic
attraction with your ex again.
So here’s a short list of subtle but flirty behaviour that you can exhibit to make sure
that your ex comes crawling back to you for more and more…
1.)
Make sure that you hug your ex for a few seconds longer than you would otherwise… make sure
it’s genuine and meaningful!
2.)
Make sure you make solid eye contact with your ex at all times.
3.)
Smile!
4.)
Don’t be afraid to touch your ex here and there in a flirty but playful way.
For example, you can playfully hit them when they make a joke, or you can brush up against
them “accidentally.”
Just make sure that it seems real and subtle.
5.)
Make sure you use humour – being funny is one of the best aphrodisiacs.
6.)
You can make subtle and playful references to some steamy vacations or moments you two
shared together… but again, subtlety is key here.
Of course, this is just a short list of flirting tips… but keep in mind that you know your
ex best!
Make sure that you remind them of the good old days of when your relationship was at
its best.
If you do this properly, your ex will be lusting for you again in no time.
Post “No Contact” Tip Number Nine – Make it known that other people are chasing you
down.
This requires a little bit of strategy and planning.
What you need to do is formulate a plan to instill a bit of jealousy in your ex.
That means you have to come up with a story that paints you as someone who is highly sought
after.
You could tell them a story about a co-worker that is insistently trying to ask you out
on a date… or maybe a tale about how someone you met from the bar won’t stop calling
you.
Any story like this works, but here’s the catch – you need to make it obvious that
you’re not sure whether you’re into THEM or not.
Leave your ex wondering about your dating life.
And obviously, you can’t simply just mention this story out of the blue… you have to
do a good job of weaving this little psychological tip into your coffee date.
If you do this effectively, your ex will begin to feel a sense of loss… and he or she will
begin chasing you down for a SECOND coffee date harder than ever before….
Which leads me to…
Post “No Contact” Tip Number Ten – SLEEP WITH YOUR EX!
Now, I don’t want to say this as a hard and fast rule.
It really matters where you are with your ex… and there’s a difference if you’re
a guy or a girl trying to get his or her ex back.
But generally speaking, your goal here is to make sure that you build enough sexual
attraction with your ex so that he or she will want to sleep with you.
Your goal isn’t to do this right away – sometimes it’ll take a handful of meetups before your
ex wants to sleep with you again.
But the formula for doing this is straightforward: keep things fun, flirty, and everything else
will simply just fall into place.
I outline my very in depth seduction guide in my Ex Factor Guide program, by the way,
so if you’re wanting a step-by-step guide on how to make you irresistible to your ex,
then head to that website, BreakupBrad.com.
But anyways, during this phase, I want you to imagine that you had just met your ex for
the first time ever and you’re trying to impress them.
If you keep up the confidence and playfulness, it’ll only be a matter of time before he
or she will be back in your arms for good.
So there you have it!
10 tips for after No Contact.
Obviously, this isn’t an exhaustive list of things to do directly after No Contact…
so if you want to learn more about my entire method, then head on over to BreakupBrad.com
and watch the free video presentation on that website, like I said before.
In that video, I share the 3 most brutally effective psychological strategies that will
ensure that your ex comes sprinting back into your arms.
And not only that, but I’ll teach you ways to make sure that your ex NEVER leaves you
again.
So if you’re interested in checking out that video, just head on over to BreakupBrad.com!
Thanks so much for watching!
See you later!