hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 things
mentally strong people don't do now let's begin number one pity your problems
in life you'll face many challenges you may come up short you may feel embarrassed and frustrated
you may wish you could magically change the world but you can't no matter how hard you wish for it
your problems will never go away in the blink of an eye don't waste any more time wishing life were
different don't spend another minute feeling sorry for yourself if there's one thing that mentally
strong people don't do it's wallow in self-pity when you pity yourself you're throwing your energy
down the drain you're wasting time that could have been spent on something productive something
that may change your life for the better that's the big difference between people who are weak
and people who are strong weak people wish for the world to change and then they pity themselves
when it doesn't strong people take the world by the horns and change their life for the better
number two live in the past your experiences are invaluable they teach you lifelong lessons
they remind you of what it means to succeed they prove to you that you have more power
than you think you do but they're not always uplifting sometimes experiences
show you the kind of life you never want to live sometimes experiences leave you broken and
helpless but mentally strong people know that the past does not predict the future mentally strong
people learn from the past but they let history be history you cannot change something that's already
happened it doesn't matter how frustrating or disappointing it was the past will always be the
past all you can do now is look forward and create a future that motivates fulfills and inspires you
number three surrender your power who controls your life your family your boss
your environment the answer is none of the above the only person who has power over you is you
the only person who can control your life is you so many weak people give away their
power they pretend like their life is not in their own hands but it is all right let's say
you don't like something about yourself maybe you're too negative or too nervous you could say
my friends make me negative or the expectations of others make me nervous
but your friends don't control your mindset other people don't moderate your nerves you decide these
things yourself mentally strong people don't blame other people for their problems they take
responsibility for their issues and they own their problems which empowers them to find a solution
number four friendly envy have you ever felt envious of a friend alright let's say you and
your friend work in the same field for a long time you've been employed at the same level
but one day your friend gets a promotion and you don't you see your friends succeeding and you
feel envious you start to resent their success you feel bitter and underappreciated you may lash out
at your friend all because you're envious of their achievements mentally strong people never do this
because envy holds you back you start wishing you were living a different life you start pining
for things that will not make you happy your mind becomes clouded by envy and you lose focus on your
own aspirations instead of feeling envious root for and support your friends because their success
doesn't take away from your own each person including you has their own definition of success
each person walks a different path at a different time in their life your friend may walk that path
earlier than you but that doesn't mean they're better stronger or more deserving of success
so don't fall down this rabbit hole don't envy your friend's achievements instead focus on your
own goals solidify your own definition of success and in the end it doesn't matter how you stack
up against other people all that matters is your own personal growth number five run from silence
when was the last time you were alone i mean truly alone not with your friends not with your dog not
with your phone your tv or your laptop when was the last time you enjoyed nothing but your own
company it's a hard question for many people to answer you may crowd your time with activities
and distractions you may rarely spend time alone you may never sit quietly in silence
why is that because empty space makes you uncomfortable you don't know what to do with
yourself when there's nothing to distract you you start to worry and overthink you
feel bored restless and lonely so you find an activity to fill that hole in your life
but mentally strong people value their time alone when you're alone you get a rare opportunity to
spend time with yourself you can talk to yourself you can reflect on your life in these quiet
moments you learn to be more comfortable with who you are and that strengthens your mind mentally
strong people make time to be alone every day and during that time they get in touch with themselves
they work through nerves and doubts they think about their goals and they make sure they're
headed in the right direction but it does take time and practice to get comfortable with yourself
as sad as that sounds few people are confident enough to sit in silence
at first you'll crave a distraction you may stare at the clock waiting for the silence to end
but silence is not an empty space you need to film it's a gift you've been overlooking
so embrace these silent moments by learning to be alone number six betray your values
values are never easy to uphold throughout your life you'll face ethical dilemmas that challenge
your beliefs you'll feel tempted to change the way you think you'll meet people who overturn your
opinions and open up your mind when their values are challenged weak people either close their ears
or compromise their ideals but mentally strong people don't do either one they have the courage
to stand up for their values but they also have the confidence to challenge their own beliefs
sometimes we're right sometimes we're wrong sometimes we discover that our values are not
what we thought mentally strong people know that change is good as long as you think for yourself
number seven neglect your gifts do you take the small things in life for granted most people
overlook the simple blessings that cross their path every day they ignore the calm of a glowing
sunrise they rush through tasty filling meals and they tune out their loved ones but all this
rushing and neglect creates mental weakness your brain loses track of what's important to you it
becomes preoccupied by the negative frustrating things in your life you think about stress you
think about expectations and responsibility you think about disappointment conflict and failure
but mentally strong people pay attention to their gifts every day they concentrate on the
small things that make life worth living the cozy smell of coffee in the morning the warmth
of a hot shower the cool breeze blowing outside your doorstep these small insignificant details
go unrecognized and unnoticed mentally strong people stop to smell the roses they practice
gratitude every day and they appreciate life as more than just a ball of stress
number eight wait for wins the best things in life take time but most people aren't willing to
wait they rush toward the end and then give up when things don't happen right away
let's say you've always dreamt of playing in instruments one day you decide to buy a guitar
you look up videos learn from the pros and you practice your skills you play every day for a week
but soon you realize that you're not very good you expected to be playing songs in no time but now
you feel like a failure so you lose interest and you move on mentally strong people know that every
dream takes a long time if it was quick and easy it wouldn't be worth doing whether you want to
play an instrument write a book or start a company you need to be patient and you need to persevere
because impatience is the reason most people never accomplish their dreams impatience is the reason
most goals fade into the background if you have a dream stay strong no matter how long it takes
eventually you'll get there it may take weeks months or years but you will get there
number nine escape to comfort what do you do when you're uncomfortable you give up or do you push
harder let's say you're running a race you're halfway through but your legs are getting tired
do you power through the pain or do you give up in life weak people surrender when things get
uncomfortable when they're thrown outside their bubble they panic they lose confidence and they
throw up their hands mentally strong people persevere even if they're flailing like a fish
out of water even if they're tired and confused because discomfort today is comfort tomorrow
number 10 limit your potential do you undermine your own potential do you hold yourself back
people who are mentally weak lose faith in themselves when a challenge comes their way
they assume they're going to fail so they never even try mentally strong people believe in their
own potential they encourage themselves to rise to the occasion to surpass their own expectations
and fly beyond their limits because that's how you grow and succeed you improve by taking risks
confronting failure and most of all believing in yourself hey thanks for
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