MARTIN THOMSEN: I have a relationship with you, you have a relationship with Nia. She has a relationship with
me and vice versa and we also have a relationship all together so it’s like that.
VICTORIA: Three different relationships in one.
MARTIN THOMSEN: So we ended up in a polyamorous relationship because of Victoria.
NIA LANGE: I was going to say the same.
NIA LANGE: Yeah, she’s the mastermind that actually created this whole situation.
Yeah she was, she is the other.
COMM: A year ago, Victoria and Martin were newlyweds.
MARTIN THOMSEN: In the beginning when she discovered that she was bisexual, that she wanted to be
with other girls and I said, “Sure you can do that as long as you tell me what you want to do before you do them."
VICTORIA IMMERVOLL: He’s my soulmate; I cannot imagine my life without him.
MARTIN THOMSEN: She told me everything, “I’m going to see this girl, I’m planning to do this and this and this”
and everything was fine.
COMM: Not long after the couple tied the knot, Victoria left Martin in Denmark and headed to the US where she
reconnected with a childhood friend.
NIA LANGE: I never thought anything would happen with Vicky.
NIA LANGE: She was a friend that was coming, I knew she was married. She was staying here and it was very
innocent at first but then I just met her and it all changed.
NIA LANGE: Asked her immediately, “What does Martin think about this and does he know?”
And so, she told me everything.
NIA LANGE: I was impressed of how they trust each other and I really admired that from them because she
really talked to him like, best friends.
NIA LANGE: So we met, first of all, online. On Instagram we started talking, I followed him, he followed me.
I started seeing his posts and trying to figure out what kind of person he was. Vicky introduced us and the first
time we were together was not strange at all. I’ve never been in a poly relationship.
I never thought I would be capable of this.
NIA LANGE: It just happened.
NIA LANGE: It feels, it feels good. It feels right. It's been strange in some points having these kinds of feelings,
love feelings for two individuals that were previously together. Definitely it has been a challenge because there
is a voice inside of me that sometimes can invent a bunch of scenarios that are not even there.
Like, “Am I enough? What am I doing here? Do I want a normal relationship?”
VICTORIA IMMERVOLL: It's a training camp every single day.
MARTIN THOMSEN: It's like, being in this sometimes feels like, I could imagine how the Navy SEAL soldiers
are feeling when they are during hell week. Like, it feels like that emotionally and spiritually sometimes.
I just like to take the lead. I figure so, maybe it's also like, kind of a male thing and they let me lead.
If we can start washing the vegetables please. VICTORIA IMMERVOLL: I’ll do that.
VICTORIA IMMERVOLL: I don’t believe this is a kind of, open relationship where we are together and then we
have other partner. I really feel fulfilled with Martin and Nia. Yeah, when I met Nia I felt a really strong
connection. I felt it before, I felt it just, by pictures and videos, yeah.
MARTIN THOMSEN: So, I can see they have a different connection than I have with Victoria for example and that
makes my ego flare up and makes me say, “Hmm I’m starting to compare.”
NIA LANGE: Vicky is different.
MARTIN THOMSEN: Each of us have had sexual encounters without the other one being there.
VICTORIA IMMERVOLL: Yeah, we have been together without Nia, we have been together without Martin
and you have been together without me.
MARTIN THOMSEN: Many times. VICTORIA IMMERVOLL: Many times.
MARTIN THOMSEN: I had some tough challenges, some tough experiences. Three years ago, I got a concussion
and almost lost my sight and that experience just changed something in me.
NIA LANGE: I think the biggest challenge is realising that you are nobody's, nobody is yours and
that’s how love should be.
COMM: After moving into a poly relationship, it wasn’t long before things went even further.
MARTIN THOMSEN: I don’t feel like we’re rushing things. I feel that we’ve come to a point in our lives. We're not
doing it and not trying fully on everything that we’re doing is the biggest risk.
MARTIN THOMSON: Now we just committed ourselves. This is what we really want to do and we’ll figure out
all the loose ends on the way as we go.