So I found out he had a second phone
because he left it in his shoe.
When I found it, he immediately took the phone
and took the battery out.
And so I knew in my heart it was something in that phone
he did not want me to see.
So I'm getting ready to head back to LA on a flight.
And he's getting ready to take me to the airport.
The phone slips out of his basketball shorts.
I take the phone, turn it off, and put it in my purse.
So you know, I'm leaving.
And he gives me a hug.
I said, OK.
I kiss him goodbye.
I'm acting like everything's regular.
But at this moment, my hands are sweaty.
I'm pacing.
My heart's dropping because I'm like, I got this phone.
So I get to the airport, turn it on, and I saw so much stuff.
He's still in a relationship with this woman.
He had her pregnant at the same time.
But probably, when my daughter was about two,
he broke up with her.
And then he came back and said, hey,
I'm still in love with you.
I'm so sorry for how everything happened,
how everything played out.
And I just want to give this another chance.
So at that point, because I did want to tell my daughter
someday, hey-- you know, because I
knew I was going to have to answer that question one day.
What happened with you and my dad?
I wanted to be able to honestly say to her,
I did everything that I could.
So against my better judgment, I gave him another chance.
And I was just like, I don't know who you are,
but you could go.
Him and I need to have a conversation.
We need to have a discussion.
And I was just like, is this really happening right now?
It was like, all of the things we've been talking about,
this is really how this is going to go down?
Are you in love with her?
And he was like, I'm not in love with her,
but I do really like her.
And he was just like, I don't know what to say.
I don't know what to say.
I was just like, OK, you don't know what to say?
Then we're done.
There's nothing else to talk about.
If you are interested in this other person,
you can see yourself with this other person,
then we're done here.
She and I, the girl and I, had conversations over the next
maybe week or so about certain things that had happened.
And she was like, oh, my gosh.
I spent all this money on him for Valentine's Day.
I rented this suite, and we did this, this, and that.
I said, where do you think he went after he left you?
What?
He came over there with you?
Yeah, he did.
And so we were, you know, comparing
notes about certain things.
And it was crazy.
So I hung up the phone with her and called him.
And I said, are you near my house?
And Jerry said, yeah.
I said, well, I need you to get your stuff--
and I didn't say stuff.
And I need you to leave the key at my house.
I said, you're over here playing games.
I don't have time for the games.
And that's when the break up occurred.
So I was done at that point.
Probably about three months after we got back together,
he was coming around.
He was a regular part of my life at this point.
And then I started to see some of the old habits.
And I just was like, you know what?
Just be her dad.
Just be her dad, and we'll move forward
like that because it just made me
realize, hey, some people are not meant to go the distance,
you know?
And it is what it is.
And I was OK with that until he started dating his now wife.
I saw women naked.
I saw text messages about him meeting up
with different women.
And these are the women that he said was
his friends from high school.
And so I was just in disbelief.
And I called him from the airport.
And I'm like, Gerald, are you serious?
What are you doing?
Why are there all these naked women's pictures in this phone
and you're attempting to meet up with people?
How could you do me like this?
What I do to you?
You know, so we're going back and forth.
And he's like, it's nothing.
I didn't do anything.
It was just a conversation.
I'm going to stop, you know, made
all these different promises, but he never stopped.
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