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- Relationships.
- Boyfriends.
- Breakups.
- Love.
- Sex.
- Pashing.
- Uh, no idea.
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- Hey, I'm Ash.
- And I'm Scott.
- Are you starting a new relationship?
Got a new boyfriend or girlfriend?
Or, wondering about the relationship that you're already in?
Well, we're here to talk about healthy relationships.
So, what are the things that make a relationship healthy?
- You respect each other.
- You give each other space.
- Being able to trust each other fully.
- You listen to each other.
- You should be able to express what you feel
to the other person.
- Just being honest with each other.
- Understanding the other's point of view.
- If you want a relationship to work,
you have to stick to the basics.
Trust, mutual respect, and open communication.
- Everybody wants a healthy relationship,
and part of that is learning how to deal with hassles,
and every relationship's got hassles.
- [Scott] Oh, yeah.
- Arguments.
- Feeling pressure to do stuff that you don't want to do.
- Long distance relationships.
- Feeling controlled.
- Your partner doesn't get along with your friends.
- Feeling stuck.
- Jealousy.
- What do you do if there's something you're unhappy about?
Don't sit back and wait for things to change!
Solving problems can be tricky,
but that doesn't mean you shouldn't give it a go.
- When you're feeling annoyed or frustrated,
you can't just expect your partner to know why.
You actually have to say what's on your mind.
- You don't have to agree on everything,
that'd be boring,
but you need to listen and respect each other's ideas.
Also, be prepared to find a compromise to make things work.
- Spending time apart is important, too,
so you can have your own interests and friendships.
You should aim to feel happy both on your own
as well as a couple.
- And when it comes to sex, you need to be sure
that you understand what you both want,
so that no one ever feels pressured
or uncomfortable about it.
- Sometimes relationships don't work out,
and you have to go your separate ways.
Different people feel different things
when they experience a breakup.
- When you break up, you feel lonely.
- Like it's the end of the world,
and you'll just never be happy again.
- Angry.
- Disappointed.
- Sort of relieved, sometimes.
- Let down.
- Sad.
- Really depressed.
- The end of a relationship doesn't mean
that there's anything wrong with you!
Lots of people break up,
but you don't have to be in a relationship to feel happy.
And it's better to not be in a relationship
than to be in a bad one.
- Don't get stuck on the past,
don't get hung up on what went wrong.
- Remember that all relationships have good
and bad moments, so don't get down
by focusing on all the bits you lacked,
and forgetting about why it wasn't working.
You broke up for a reason,
and you've got to stay realistic about things.
- Think about what would actually be helpful,
like physical health, eating well, sleeping enough.
Plan a few times each week to hang out with your mates
- Yeah.
- You might not feel like it at first, but give it a go.
- And give yourself some time to get over it.
If the feeling of sadness or anger are still pretty intense,
then you should think about talking to someone.
Seeing a counsellor can be really helpful.
They can show you how to look at things
a little differently,
get past the negative stuff.
- Your local headspace centre has counsellors
who are there to help, or
you guys can log on to eheadspace.
Headspace is especially for young people, like you,
so check it out,
and guys, don't let relationships get you down.
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