Are you frustrated with the guy you're seeing or your man because he won't commit further
to you. Today. We're going to discuss the secrets of the male mind and show you why
men don't want to commit and give you some ways that you can help solve it. Hey girls,
I'm Mark from Make Him Yours. Stay tuned.
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Hey ladies. Today, we're talking about the C word. We're talking about the dreaded C
word with men - commitment. Why doesn't a guy want to commit to you, so you've been
dating a while, things are going well, and he still just doesn't want to be your boyfriend,
he doesn't want to quite take that next step and it's really frustrating for you because
you don't understand what's going on. Is he not that into? Is it something else? Today,
I want to run you through what's going on in his head and why he might not want to commit
to you and it may not be the reasons you think. So generally speaking, there's three reasons,
any guy doesn't want to commit to you. Number one is he actually has a fear of commitment.
So it doesn't mean necessarily that he's not that into you. To explain this, you have to
think about how guy's are brought up.
So guys are brought up with watching movies like American pie, you know, these cult kind
of movies and that's where men get the images of single life from. To your average guy,
single life is like Stifler of American pie, or at least that's his idea of it. It's threesomes,
it's parties, it's fun, it's excitement. And what does the married life get portrayed as
to men growing up? You know, ball and chain, boring, the dad of Malcolm in the middle.
It just has this really painful image of being in a relationship. Those aren't the truths,
are they? Single life for most guys, what's it actually like is sitting on the couch with
his mates playing Xbox, getting bored. That's what most guys' single life was like. And
for most guys, being in a relationship, it's fun, it's great sex, it's good times with
you, it's someone to connect with, it's so much more fulfilling. But unfortunately, the
reality for most men is not equal to the idea or what they're going to perceive commitment
as and perception is reality. So a lot of men won't want to commit because they perceive
it's going to be a way that it's not actually going to be, but that's what you've got to
understand is if you can get him around that fear of commitment, then you're going to be
able to have them commit to you without having to bring up this fear in his mind and he's
going to feel comfortable committing. Make sure you watch through the end of this video
because I'm going to give you step by step guide on exactly how to get into committing
the next video. The second reason a guy might not want to commit to you is just that he's
not that into you and that's fine.
You can decide how you want to play that afterwards, whether you want to move on and meet other
people, keep going with him. And the final reason number three is that he might be getting
everything anyway and so there's no reason for him to commit. So I was coaching a client
the other day and she was telling me that she had a guy who didn't want to commit. So
I said to her, what's the current situation? And she said, well, he comes over three, four
nights a week, you know, we have sex, we snuggle, it's great. We go on a date every now and
then and every time I bring it up, he doesn't want the extra commitment. I said, of course
he doesn't and she sort of why? If a guy's getting the whole boyfriend experience without
having to commit, then why do they commi?
For a guy to want to commit, there has to be something for him to upgrade to. There
has to be more exciting things, more access to you, more access to your life, more stuff
that he can look forward to. If you're spending most nights with them, if he's getting the
nude selfies, if he's getting the snuggles, the experience, if he's getting the emotional
support and you're happy to give him more of that or or he sees another girl once a
week on the side, then he's not going to want to commit because he's getting everything
he needs already and you're not getting everything you need. So it's important that you do keep
things from a guy in the extent that there's things he could still look forward to when
he commits. You don't give everything away to a guy who hasn't shown the investment in
wanting to commit to you.
So look, if it's in the first or the third reason, there's things you can do to get that
guy to commit. And that's what I want to share in the next video. I want to help you get
the guy over his fear of commitment. So have a look. I'm going to post a link right up
here, how to have the conversation to get a guy to commit to you. It's really simple.
It's a really easy process. You can do it right now and most guys are going to want
to commit to you after that and if he doesn't, he wasn't that into anyway, you can move on.
Ladies, let us know what you think. Have you had experiences with this fear of commitment
before these, these kind of bad perception? Questions,, comments below, I'd honestly
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