no I don't realize I was taller than you
you ought ever-so-slightly maybe your
legs are longer than mine cuz I have
long a meanness as really no it's so
annoying I'm only five out of seven but
anywhere I go like cinema above I'm like
pushed up against the air your five
seven
yeah well five six in the three chords
dude I'm only five five you're deaf how
the hell am i taller than you sitting
down that is crazy your fevers are
massive Danton and I are here today
mm-hmm to advise you
mm-hmm on important matters mm-hmm
relationships and crush it
love I'm very into love I'm excited
about this you're very into love I am
into love that is something I have
learned about you in the months we've
known exactly yeah I am a serial
monogamist so it makes sense that maybe
I would be in love where is even going
on a couple dates recently yeah good
I've been exploring uncharted territory
yeah which is always good always fun but
we have some Twitter questions right we
do we do we tweet the hashtag ask Arden
and Lucy it was innovative and original
yeah I was like we could do something
with rose and moon but oh how do you
know when to initiate a relationship if
you've been talking for a while mmm
that's tough I'm always one of those
people were like I will wait until the
dead last moment mm-hmm I'm exactly the
same
yeah if someone else is an initiated I
usually am a bit like which is a you
know even when someone else initiates
that oh yeah freak slightly yeah I'm
like ah I don't know I don't know
give me another give me another week
we'll took like a good three months to
blocked out a date with me
so like I'm wearing that's in a date
yeah oh yeah oh yeah I go it was if I'm
keen for the date really
but as soon as things start developing I
think you know that feeling where like
oh here we go and you just like
you're going off the edge of the road
okay like go and right before the drop
you want to get off yeah yeah
on me yeah I get that so I can get all
the way up the road of Costa you should
want to get off right at that pivotal
moment mm-hmm I understand that I'm I'm
more like I don't even want to start the
ride or I know that I'll just go along
with it yes my mom's I won't I would not
go on dates with people because I was
like I know that I don't like you like
just I'm like looking at you or knowing
what you do or like whatever not like in
a vapid way but just like I know you
already
Wow by how you present yourself I know
who you are which is terrible and vapid
but I would be like I don't like you
which is this really funny because I did
the same thing will I was like I don't
want to I want to and then I got coerced
into it now I'm going to turn a
relationship so happy anniversary to me
so wait to answer the question Oh grow a
pair of ovaries and just do it to
initiate a relationship not just to
initiate a day oh you're already doing
all the bits right and just being like
so this is the stage and yeah yeah if
you've established already that you are
what's the word what's the word when
you're seeing each other yeah when
you're exclusive there we go if you guys
obviously you're exclusive and that's
been going on for a couple of weeks or
months mm-hmm and you're feeling like
the only thing that would really change
is the label right then that's the time
to talk about yeah yeah absolutely yeah
cuz also I mean I don't know how most
people are but if I am gonna get into
relationship with someone or if I'm
seeing someone
the first thing I want to know is if we
are exclusive oh yeah so I think ones
that you make that step and you're like
oh we are and this person is committed
to not seeing anyone but me you're kind
of already in a relationship yeah you
kind of uh like me just because that
that means that there is some sort of
like yearning to be more than Yin's if
that's a commitment already yeah just
putting that label on it of like not
exclusivity is interesting so maybe
start with the exclusive you know
question and see if that's a thing then
after that mmm it's not snowball and
starring the communication early on is
really important oh yeah like don't
don't let things happen and not discuss
them yeah
Oh big time big time I can cause some
resentment real quick but you get to the
point where you're like I'm not gonna
deal with anything anymore
and like unless it's it's something yeah
you know what I mean like there's just
no I know when we're younger it's really
nice it not really nice but people play
a lot of games and it's easy to like get
caught up in stuff but it's oh my god
you get to an age where you're like
homie no see ya just be upfront and have
good communication and if they're not
doing the same thing
welcome yeah welcome I mean don't live
at about them but just say them
you to them Cheers
know that good advice would you say
relationships are different depending on
whether you're an extrovert introvert
ones good that is a good question are
you an introvert or an extrovert months
of extra but same as though although
never I think it's where you get your
energy from and obviously everyone gets
their energy from having some time alone
mm-hmm but if I don't see people for
like two or three days I will go mad
right right which is how I feel I have
to be out in public which is we're yes I
can still get my if I go to like a
coffee shop I still get that same energy
I don't know why would you say
relationships are different depending on
whether you're an extrovert or an
introvert I don't know cuz whilst I'm
gonna keep the ladies back to well I'm
so he is your t years of experience in
these fields exactly he is my successful
boyfriend
so like I'm lucky you know going to my
snowboard yeah my success I will before
he was an introvert and he was always
very forward with me
I really yeah he was always very forward
I'm not forward in the sense of like
come here at all
but like what I'm saying right speaking
rather like he was pursuing me for three
months whereas I'm the extrovert
normally I would be the one being like
hey when I hang out but I was the one
that wanted to be at home I didn't want
to hang out with him that's interesting
which is really weird so I mean how do
you feel about it are you an issue and
an initiate or um yeah I'm an initiator
but in just like a normal person
I just want communication a lot easier
so if yet say they're being too forward
I'll say no you're being too forward
stop oh yeah you know if I want to go on
another date with them I'll be like hey
what you up to
I would like to go on a date yeah
interesting whereas I feel like well
it's interesting because he isn't
but he feels things so intensive hmm
that it creates a I don't know he's
happy to pursue yeah because he's
passionate about it he's like happy to
go for it I don't know how would you
approach dating someone who lived in a
different country that's a good one that
is something you know a lot about how
did you approach it because you can
actually give some good advice well I
mean obviously I approached it by not
committing to it for six months and I
was like or three months and I was like
no I don't want to do this you're so far
away and gross yeah I don't know we're
in a unique circumstance because we are
stable enough to be able to go back and
forth and not really have to worry about
it we've always kind of skirted the need
for a visa like that's something that's
hard if you're the type of person that
wants to live in a different country
with your significant other for longer
than six months you will have to get a
visa
that's just like a given and I guess it
encourages lots of really serious
conversation early on because you have
to establish how committed how committed
you are would we get married for this
yeah yeah it's a scary scary thing to
think about oh yeah run tease but I
think like the big thing because I have
seen a lot of people comment and be like
yeah but I don't get to see my boyfriend
for three months like how do you keep
intimacy and that sort of thing I think
you have to learn to to go with things a
lot easier when you're in a
long-distance relationship like you have
to accommodate just as much as that
other person accommodates yeah so like I
was on shoot for a month and a half and
I was going to see will for like about a
month and a half and everyday I knew I
was going to be exhausted and tired when
I got home but I knew I was going to
Skype with him for an hour or play video
games or whatever and then wake up at 4
a.m. the next day
and go to work but I knew I needed to
like keep that our sacred or we wouldn't
have any time together
so that kind of thing is really
important and just making sure you're
down for the commitment is really
important as well oh yeah
like if you're not down for it don't do
it mm-hmm know plenty of people that are
nearby you that are probably great but
if your soul mate is really far away
come in and I'd add to that as well
trust develop your trust develop strong
trust like don't even think about
getting in something long distances
someone who you don't 100% or you can't
believe would not perceive someone else
yeah that's huge that's so true cuz I
actually I'm a serial long-distance
relationship work as well I really yes
and without revealing too much well my
last relationship was still uh in the
same nation I was on I was like a 6-hour
plane flight away from someone which was
not fun but he was always really
skeptical
whenever I would go out he always
thought I was cheating on him that's
really bad for business
yeah bad for business and because of
that I was kind of like I don't want to
deal with that and that was one of the
reasons that was a huge reason why we
broke up so I was just like I can't have
you calling me every day and having like
miserable conversation with me because
you think that I've like stuck with
someone yeah no it is terrible and it
affects both of you so negatively yeah
it's not good and then also I feel like
I'm always on the chopping block well
yeah I've done something wrong even
though I haven't done anything wrong
mm-hmm so having trust both ways like
trust that person implicitly if you can
if you don't don't get in a relationship
but also don't suddenly get nitpicky
about everything that person is doing
yes they are gonna go out there are
gonna go and have a separate life from
you that's one thing you have to realize
I'm like oh yeah great life like you
whatever they are doing like I don't
know half of stuff that will gets up to
while he's in the UK cuz like he's just
doing his thing yeah
and it's the same thing in LA but you
just know that thing is not with other
girls he has sexually yeah yeah exactly
yeah how do I tell a guy I don't like
him anymore
hello kallen yeah tell him tell him say
the words I don't like you anymore
lo sorry la sauce by its sex
underwhelming when you first have it
yeah yeah you know it just like a
casserole put in an oven takes a while
to warm up yeah you know what I mean you
got a butter yourself up a little bit
brush some raw egg on you'll say Oh get
it nice and toasted
it's true though it just takes takes a
second done everyone's body's different
and also there's like this problem and
porn that I realized where will and I
were talking about this yesterday we're
obviously all porn is targeted towards
men oh my god yeah obviously but there
are certain companies by the way that
make feminist porn oh my god yeah they
do run a Wixon knows a good list yeah if
you want one there is some good stuff
out there you can still find it um but
because it's on target
towards men they're never taught and and
also porn is something that's like a
concrete thing from the age of I think
will said it was probably 12 13 to you
know full into adulthood yeah the entire
time you're never taught what a girl
actually likes because they just like
orgasm at the touch of a button like
it's like yeah never learned what it
actually takes to get a girl to orgasm
so when you have sex with someone you
are worried constantly that you are
taking too much time or whatever and I
think age and time makes you realize
that sometimes you gotta work for that
yeah you got work flash it and it
doesn't always have to happen it's no
big deal
but you shouldn't be worried the first
couple times if it is not like fireworks
magic cuz it's not a yeah it's
definitely not no you can have really
good sex in terms of being funny and
like entertaining and intimate as well
guys are not being good yeah sorry so
true so true
yeah because orgasm is not always the
goal yeah sometimes it's about how you
get that but it's not you know don't
pressure yourself that's all we're
saying it does not have to be fireworks
all the time this is another thing that
I've learned now growing up a little bit
tell him or her what you like oh my god
yeah vocal like oh they want to know I
always wanted to know what that person
wanted so like if you tell them what you
want or they tell you what you what they
want that is the best way to get what
you want exactly and it also reaffirms
the positives so if they're doing
something you don't like you can also be
like oh maybe don't yeah how would I did
a little bit with just do this instead
yeah yeah
because forget them positives than that
enjoy it don't fake it just to get it
over with like enjoy it it's so hard to
be assertive in sex so hard like it is
very vulnerable yeah you're so
vulnerable yeah and you've been told
your whole life but it actually doesn't
really matter too much what you're
experiencing yeah and so that's really
difficult doesn't help with the whole
psyche of it yeah but be assertive
strong lady
you can do that exactly think about how
you phrase criticism and compliments and
emails yeah positive oh yes a sandwich a
negative sandwich if you will or a
positive sandwich should be well yeah
exactly
ooh what do you say about that my friend
can't understand that she's in a toxic
my friend can't understand that she's in
a toxic relationship no matter what I
tell her
help it's so difficult you are
ultimately not responsible for your
friend 100% so don't let their
experiences negatively affect you true
understandable if you want to help them
but if if you have said something if you
have made it known that you are aware of
the situation you don't necessarily
think it's healthy once you've gone to
the point where you've said something
you can no longer do anything else it is
not your responsibility you've already
made your side of the story known yeah
I'm mostly phrasing it in a way that is
clearly from a place of concern yeah
adding it really well and not being an
antagonist to me like I think you should
breakups I think he's a term he's
powerful and cuz I was across like a
like mmm like a possessive or a jealous
kind of thing in a lot of ways yeah or
just like a like an attack on the person
who picks them to go out with them right
everyone can end up in a manipulative
relationship yes it's you don't see it
and also love it's thumbs up yeah and
also also here's another thing if you
are a person that's constantly hiding
something about your relationship or you
don't want to talk about your
relationship or your friends tend to not
wanna talk about your relationship maybe
ask them what you think they think about
your boyfriend or girlfriend oh maybe I
think I'd want to know but that may I'm
the problem but see then maybe you might
hear something and be like oh yeah
this is something that I've thought a
lot maybe this isn't so good if your
friends come to you and concern listen
take it in and then if it's something
that isn't actually true or you know
from a different perspective what the
deal is ignore it but it's nice to
sometimes get an outside perspective
yeah you open to it definitely because
it does feel good attack just look up
the signs of an abusive relationship
yeah look up the signs and then you know
what if this is something where the
person does have a toxic relationship
and it's an abusive relationship or and
manipulative one even yeah then maybe
you can be like so here's the thing I
love you to pieces I don't want
something bad to happen to you I don't
want you to get in too deep
coming from a place of concern maybe
just have a have an honest chat and also
reinforce you're always gonna be there
for them as long as you can be yeah you
know yeah look at really good because
that doesn't
telling someone that they're in a toxic
relationship doesn't mean that you
instantly have to be an enemy of that
relationship even if it continues to
happen it's more like I'm here to
support you
if you end up taking the decision to
leave yeah be done with something I will
support you either way
yeah but I've made a very big support if
you want to leave as well how'd you not
come across as obsessed with a crush I
feel like I had very good practice of
that really oh my god yeah you don't
come across this obsessed by holding
back a little bit that's not you playing
hard to get or you being you're just
being like careful because if you tell
them how you feel instantly they'll get
freaked out and run away yeah that is
how humans y-yeah that's not even like a
male versus female thing like if someone
tells me right away that they're
obsessed with me oh my god yet out the
certain level of life where you don't
you don't obviously no one needs to play
a game yeah when you play game but
there's a certain level of like
independence in a bit of like I could
I'm good yeah but take it or leave it
impression that you give yeah like I am
into you but I'm also my own person's
exactly like you're not some gooey lump
that wants to like you know smush smush
don't smush anymore ya know I feel like
that was a big problem in high school a
lot I would look at someone and really
idolize them yeah just the same yeah
just face even if I hadn't really had a
conversation with him I would like
idolize him and be like if we only dated
and let me tell you half of the time you
romantic eyes people big time in your
head and as you get older you start to
realize the characteristics of them
where you can separate like oh I'm
infatuated with them I have a really
hardcore crush by no we can never date
yeah because you have this cat or he or
she they have this characteristic or
characteristics or life situation which
makes it impossible yeah and that's okay
you can storm a crush on someone just
realize what's realistic and what's not
I'm a fan seeing fuckboys kind of person
oh but now I recognize it ah I don't go
for it yeah is this the fuck-boy good
for you resist those boys yeah
nice that's a good win in this video
yeah nailed there is this the boys
hey thank you so much
which I thank you for having me and
lovely I think I've had all the tea in
your house at this oh my god yeah well
we have plenty more mmm just fallen I'll
have to refill for when we film our
video for my channel that wasn't me
primarily about sex
so that's what we're doing over on my
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