What exactly is body language? Well, body language is your nonverbal communication,
which means you're not doing the talking but it's your body, your physical behaviour, your
hand movements, your facial expressions are speaking for you. So in the real world when
you make these body language mistakes you don't come out as a confident person. Now,
probably you are making these mistakes unknowingly but it's important for you to notice them
and work on them. So we are gonna look at eight worst body language mistakes that probably
you are making unknowingly.
So let's have a look at the first one. The first one is avoiding eye contact. Well, at
times when we are talking to people, you get a little distracted or probably you are so
nervous that you fail to make an eye contact while you are speaking. So what happens is
when you are speaking or when you're talking to that person you do this, oh yes, I actually
did that but it failed. So when you are not looking into the person's eye, it shows that
you're either nervous, you're not confident about yourself and you're being a little disrespectful.
So you definitely don't want to show these emotions. Probably it's just that you're nervous
but then try to work on this and having an eye contact is extremely important. So this
is the worst mistake that you are making if you avoid eye contact while talking to a person
all right.
Let's move on to the second mistake that people make is slouching. When you are talking to
someone and you're not standing, your body posture is not straight but you are slouching.
You're talking like this, mm-hmm, all right, I'll do that. Well that is a mistake because
when you slouch in front of people while talking to them, imagine he's a very important client
and she's slouching in front of him and you're talking to him, it shows that you're not confident
you have very poor self-esteem and again you have no energy levels all right. You're not
very excited about the job. You're just so bored that you are slouching. So if you slouch
then please stop doing that because this is one of the worst mistakes that you're doing
all right.
The next one weak handshake. When you shake hands with someone, it has to be a very firm
handshake. Make sure that you give a firm handshake to the people
that you meet because it's a sign of authority. It's a sign of confidence. When you give this
poor handshake or a one little finger handshake no point. It just shows that you are least
interested in shaking hands or dealing with that person. Again, there are people who shake
hands in a very aggressive manner. It's a very, very, very firm handshake, that is also
not acceptable. So not an aggressive handshake where you just press that person's hand so
bad that it just starts hurting. So do not do that and please avoid making a weak handshake
all right.
Let's move on to another mistake that you might probably make which is, arms folded.
You're talking to someone, you're giving a presentation, you are in a meeting and your
hands are folded. Well, when you are talking; make the use of your hands because using hand
gestures really help. It just shows your confidence and it also helps you to buy words okay. So
it just gives you the time and it just explains you much better in front of a person. So when
you are presenting something or when you are in a meeting, then try to use your hands while
you're talking rather than folding your hands. Again it just shows that you nervous, you're
not confident and you're not interested. Okay so if you fold your hands while you talk,
stop doing that, just open up and start using your hands just the way I do all right.
Let's move on to another mistake which is frowning or scowling. When you walk into an
office and you see people who are frowning, who are making these awful facial expressions
while they're doing their work. For example, oh I gotta send this email. Well these expressions
show that you're bored, you're unhappy and you least interested in your job. Also when
you're talking to a person and you make these weird frowning or scowling expressions, do
you think the opposite person would be interested in talking to you? Imagine I am talking to
you like this, all right people y’all are making these mistakes and it's not acceptable.
Well, that is not fun you would not really like to watch my lessons if I talk to you
like this. So no frowning or scowling, which shows that you're bored, you're least interested
and you're unhappy with the things that you're doing. So stop making these awful facial expressions.
Let's move on to another mistake which is invading others’ space. Well, there are
people who love to invade others’ space. For example, you're at your workplace and
your co-worker comes in and just sticks around you way too much and you don't want that.
You want him or her to maintain distance. There are people who treat your possessions
or your office space as if it's their own. You don't want that because they are crossing
their personal boundaries. It's important to maintain your boundaries when you are talking
to a person or when you are visiting someone's desk. You can't just stick around all the
time and you just can't keep seeing what they're doing all right. That's not acceptable. So
stop invading others’ space, maintain distance, maintain your personal boundaries all right.
The next one fidgeting, imagine I am teaching you something and I'm fidgeting with my marker,
with my hair or I am biting nails while I'm teaching. Well that's not acceptable, right?
So again when you are fidgeting with your phone, these days people love their phone
too much. So when they're in a meeting, when they are in a presentation, when they are
talking to people, they keep fidgeting with their phone or they keep fidgeting with their
hair, they keep biting their nails, that's not acceptable people will not appreciate
that and it just shows that there's no interest, you are bored and you are nervous okay. It's
also a sign of nervousness. So stop fidgeting with things when you are talking to people
okay.
And then the last mistake that I would like to tell you that usually, people make unknowingly
is glancing at the clock. We all want to go home early. Yes, we do. We don't want to stay
back, we don't want to too much. So we want to go home and then people get into this habit
of glancing at the clock or glancing at your watch. Do you do that? Probably you're doing
it unconsciously but then you need to notice and you need to stop making this mistake.
Everybody is in a hurry but every time you're talking to a person, your boss is giving you
some pointers, your co-worker is talking to you and you keep glancing at the clock that
what time is it? I need to leave or I'm getting late that's unprofessional. People will not
like it and your boss would definitely not appreciate it. So stop glancing at the clock
or your watch all right. Finish talking and then probably you can rush back home.
So these are the eight worst body language mistakes that you are making. Please do notice
these mistakes and work on them so that you come out as a very confident person and I'll
be back with a new lesson soon till then you take care and have a great day.