Hey everybody.
Happy Tuesday.
Now before I get started.
This week is going to be a short week,
Because for those of you who don't live in the states,
This Thursday is Thanksgiving.
And so I wont be putting out a video on Thursday or Friday.
Because it's vacation.
And if I didn't practice what I preach when I tell you like,
'Take a break. Give yourself some time off. Relax.'
If I didn't do that for myself.
Then what the heck am I even doing?
So I will be putting out a video today and tomorrow.
And obviously I have my video out on Monday.
And then I will come back on Monday,
And I will see you again.
And then I will be back on regular schedule until Christmas hits.
And then I will be taking vacation as well, going back to visit my family.
So, without further adieu.
Today is tumblr Tuesday.
And so I have three questions.
As well as a journal topic from Pantelina,
So thank you so much for that.
It's a really cool craft idea.
So get ready.
Okay,
So first question,
'Hey Kati, I have anorexia and I have been addicted to watching food videos.'
'Why is that?'
Now I have a video that I put out a long time ago,
Sorry this is really high.
A long time ago called 'Food porn.'
And that is exactly why you are addicted to watching it.
Because, truthfully,
If you want more information on this check out my video called 'food porn'.
But it's because it's all we think about.
Now, think about it,
If I am all day, all day thinking,
'Clothes, shopping, shopping, shopping, clothes, shopping.'
I'm going to watch fashion things.
I'm going to follow fashion people on instagram.
I'm going to ebay shit out of everything.
I'm going to be shopping all of the time.
It's because our brain is so focused on,
Food, food, food, eating, eating, what am I going to eat, when am I going to eat,
I can't eat, I shouldn't eat.
Or whatever.
That watching food is like,
Is almost like pretend eating.
And we're like, living vicariously through those people.
And that's why I call it 'food porn'.
And it's very normal.
But it's something that I want you to be aware of.
And it's something that you should slowly kind of cut back on.
And work with your therapist on it.
Because it's just fulfilling that need,
To be truthful,
That your body actually has.
It's fulfilling that need in another way.
It's just getting, you know,
Its 'fix' however it can.
And it sometimes in certain people's brains,
It even releases the chemicals of, you know like our feel good chemicals.
As if we are eating,
Or we're doing something that's pleasurable.
And so it can kind of be addictive in that way.
So I would talk to your therapist.
And I would start cutting back.
Okay.
And check out my video on it if you want more.
Okay, question number two,
'Hey Kati,'
'How do I know if I am hallucinating or if it's just "in my head"?'
'I have had horrid depression symptoms for a year now.'
'And when I get severely anxious,'
'I begin to see people walking in the corner of my eye.'
'And I see bugs crawling on my ceiling. Causing me to be paranoid.'
'I am constantly paranoid that people are in my house at night.'
'And that there are video cameras all over watching me. What do I do?'
'It's really scary because I am only 15.'
'And I am worried I wont be taken seriously.'
Now the first thing I want to address,
Is the fact that being 15 does not make us immune to having schizophrenia.
Technically speaking,
And I guess 'traditionally'.
People usually have a first psychotic break,
Being that they have hallucinations and delusions.
Around 18 yars old.
It's usually 18 to 25.
That's like 'the norm'.
But as anyone who has ever looked at research,
We call it like a normal bell curve.
And that mean in the middle of the curve is like the 18 to 25.
However people have it happen at different points in their life.
There is late onset.
There is early onset.
And so I would definitely speak to a doctor.
Don't worry, they will take you seriously.
It's definitely something that could be happening.
Now secondly,
I want to discuss the fact that because you have such bad depression,
People can have depression and other mental illnesses with psychotic features.
Being that delusions and hallucinations.
Because the depression gets so bad,
That it comes along with those kinds of thoughts and feelings.
Like, 'I think someone's watching me.'
'There are bugs crawling.'
'There are men in the corner.'
You know, whatever it is that we're hallucinating about.
That can be a part of our depression.
So I would be honest about when it happens.
When it started.
How bad your depression,
Is it when your depression gets worse that it comes out.
Or is it all of the time.
Because all of that information will help them better diagnose you.
And better figure out what it is.
Is it Schizoaffective Disorder depressed type.
Is it depression with psychotic features.
Is it Schizophrenia and you also have major depressive disorder.
It could be a bunch of different things.
But we want to figure out what it is.
And the sooner we do,
One thing that I know for sure,
No matter what we're dealing with or what we're struggling with.
The sooner we catch things.
The better.
The sooner we're treated properly for what we're struggling with,
The better.
So if any of you are out there,
And you're hurting.
And you're struggling.
And you're worried that someone's not going to take you seriously.
Or you're just scared to reach out.
Know that the sooner we get this under control,
The better outcome.
The better our brain has a chance to heal.
As we stop the psychotic symptoms from happening,
Our brain can heal.
We're learning more about that currently,
I just read some amazing articles about how if people consistently,
Take medication for their Schizophrenia and Bipolar Disorder,
When they get older, their brain heals and doesn't even need the medication any more.
It's wild what we're learning.
So the sooner we get treated, the better.
That's the message.
So reach out.
Let people know what's going on.
Be as honest as you can.
And remember, and tell them the truth as much as you remember.
To get the help that you need so that we can get better faster.
Okay.
Question number three,
'Hey Kati,'
'I'm struggling to understand the difference between being a toxic friend,'
'And reaching out and talking to people about my mental health issues.'
'I want to confide in people and how low I'm feeling, and my self harm behaviours.'
'But does being a depressed and negative,'
'But does being so depressed and negative mean that I am being toxic to them?'
'Is it selfish for me to be honest and ask for some support?'
'I don't want to lose people or push them away. Help. Thanks.'
Now I thought this was a great question.
Because we talk all of the time about recognising toxic people in our lives.
Or recognising if we are all take and no give.
And we're kind of toxic to people.
And how to better manage that.
Now, the thing that I always encourage my patients to do,
Just like this person is talking, like,
'I want to reach out, I want to get support,'
'I want to talk with them about it. I crave it.'
We need it.
We all need it.
That doesn't make us needy.
That doesn't make us weird.
That's not just because we have mental health issues.
It's a human factor.
We all love to talk to other people.
And to get support from them.
Now the way that we can always assess,
And I would encourage any of you,
If this comes up in your mind and you worry.
And you think maybe I'm the toxic person in the relationship.
Because I have heard that from many of you,
When I put out my videos about toxic people and toxic friends.
That maybe you thought you were that person.
Now what we can always do,
And we can consistently assess is,
'Do I ask them about their life?'
'What's going on in their life?'
We can quiz ourselves about our friends.
Do I know what's going on at work or school?
Their newest relationship.
How is their mom doing, or their sister.
Start asking yourself about how much information you know about them.
And what's going on right now.
Because if we don't know much,
Chances are we're doing all of the talking when we're together.
And then, yes, we're being selfish.
We're being unfair.
Every relationship needs to be give and take.
And there are going to be times in everyone's life when things are really really shitty.
And we need to talk a little more.
But we want to try to keep that in balance.
When you notice you're rambling, you're talking a lot,
Maybe stop and say,
'You know, I'm just having a really hard time. What's going on with you?'
Because relationships are give and take.
And they are push and pull.
And we have to make sure that we're hearing them out.
Maybe they have had a really bad day.
Maybe things are really stressful for them.
And that's what makes friendships so amazing,
Is that mutual support.
So check in with yourself.
Maybe every month or so,
Ask yourself,
Do I know what's going on in my best friend's life?
Or, you know, the person that I lean on the most.
Do I know, you know, my five best friends, what's happening.
And if not,
Then maybe check in with them,
And make sure that you ask them all of the questions.
And you do most of the listening that time.
So that we get it more balanced.
Now no one's perfect.
No situation is going to be perfect.
But that's just a way that we can better track it.
And see how we're doing.
And make sure that we're being a friend,
As much as we're asking them to be a friend to us.
Okay.
Now, the journal topic,
Now this is really cool.
And she says,
'Hey Kati, check out this journal topic today,'
'It's a crafty DIY to help calm us down.'
Now I will put the link below in the description,
So that you can,
Because these are, they are pictures, and it's very,
It's not really hard.
But it's a craft project.
And I can't copy and paste all of the photos in the description.
So I will copy and paste the link.
So click the link.
It's Pantelina's blog.
And what you need is a mason jar.
Craft glitter.
And glitter glue.
And hot water.
Like out of a tea pot, out of your coffee pot if you can get hot water that way.
Or out of your spout if you have like one of those super hot things.
And it's really cool.
So you boil the water.
And you put it into the mason jar.
It says th desired amount.
Now what we're really creating,
If any of you don't know what these are,
And I just had a client of mine give one to me, and it's so cool.
It's kind of when you flip them and the sand starts falling to the bottom.
This is kind of what we're creating.
But it's glitter in a jar.
And so we put the hot water in, as high as we want it.
The desired amount of colour glitter and glitter glue.
Just a little bit of the glitter glue.
And then you shake it up.
And it's going to kind of,
I guess, infuse with the water I'm assuming.
I'm not very crafty.
But that's what looks like's happening in this.
And then you kind of tilt it,
Once it's all done.
Once you have shaken it up.
You followed the directions.
You seal it tightly.
Then you turn it almost like a snow globe.
And you watch all of the glitter and everything,
Kind of float down to the bottom.
And the whole point of this.
She says,
'The time it takes the glitter to swirl and settle back at the bottom of the jar,'
'Is supposed to be enough time to calm an adult friend's nerves.'
'Or distract them from negative thoughts.'
'Plus, who doesn't love glitter?'
And I have to agree.
I think that's a really cool project.
Thank you so much for sharing that Pantelina.
Thank you all so much for all of your questions.
I will see you tomorrow on the website, katimorton.com
And on youtube.
So below this video you're watching right now.
And then like I said,
Thursday and Friday I will be on vacation.
So anyways.
I will see you tomorrow.
I love you.
Have a wonderful day.
Bye.
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