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Even though you might learn life lessons over time
on your own,
wouldn't you wish that there is a way to see ahead
or perhaps a future where you could just
tell the current you how to navigate life?
What are some life lessons that you've experienced?
If you want a path to a more meaningful life,
there are 10 lessons about life that people feel
they learned a little too late.
One, you attract more abundance
and joy into your life with gratitude.
How grateful do you feel about the good things in your life?
Have you tried noting it down?
A gratitude journal has been reported to help many
as noting it down
may make them more aware of other positives
or could it be some cosmic or spiritual force at work?
Whatever it may be.
It's something worth working on.
You can always use more positives in your life.
And much of that starts with a grateful attitude.
Two, approach challenges
with the attitude that you're already successful.
Do challenges make you nervous?
That's understandable, the whole definition of
a challenge is that it's not easy.
It's a competition.
You versus an unknown, like a new job,
a new skill, or a new city, are all normal life changes.
We tend to fear the unknown
and that fear makes this all the more difficult.
What do we fear?
Often it's the fear of failure.
However, here's a tip.
You can fight this with a simple mind pack.
trick your brain into thinking, I'm confident
and can see the potential to achieve my goal.
Focusing on that will reduce your fears.
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Three, by failing to prepare, you're preparing to fail.
When you hear save for a rainy day,
what do you think of?
A paycheck tucked away?
Maybe you should lay
out all the stuff you need for a big interview tomorrow.
The truth is, life is unpredictable,
which makes it fun,
yet somewhat stressful.
Thinking ahead and planning may help to reduce anxiety
as it gives an answer to the questioning
and worried anticipation that anxiety often brings.
Four, productivity requires relaxing at times.
Ever seen someone boasting about being busy, busy, busy?
It's like being busy is a badge of honor.
And really it's actually a badge of burnout.
An article posted by Tony Schwartz,
in the New York Times explains that we have the ability
to recharge our energy stores simply by relaxing
and that doing so is more valuable than the alternative.
Basically take some time for yourself
and don't beat yourself up about it.
Five, our journeys are all unique and incomparable.
FOMO, or fear of missing out,
seems to be common these days,
maybe too common.
No matter what it is specifically,
comparing your situation to someone else's
or to an arbitrary societal norm makes you feel bad.
Our timelines are all personal and unique
so you can flourish in your own way and at your own pace,
you're not missing out on anything.
You own your journey and no one else.
Six, sometimes change can shockingly be good.
Wanna hear something ironic?
The only consistency in life is change.
And if you're avoiding change,
you're avoiding living life to the fullest.
Change can be scary,
yet it's also necessary for growth.
Through change we gain new perspectives
and bring forth new and exciting opportunities in life.
So take a deep breath, put on a brave face and go for it.
You've got this.
Seven, you're the master of your happiness.
If we were to ask someone with more life experience
than us about happiness, what do you think they'd say?
An article in an Ohio newspaper
featuring a 90 year old woman, discussed this.
One of the lessons in the article was
that relying on external things to come along
and make us happy will only bring us more suffering.
"No one is in charge of your happiness, except you,"
she was quoted.
Eight, money can't buy you lasting joy,
even though having money can help you open a few doors
in life and make you feel secure.
It won't truly make you happy in the end.
Material things like an expensive watch or clothing
may make you feel momentarily happy
but the happiness won't last long.
What makes us truly happy
are things like family, friends, community,
authentic connections, a sense of purpose and meaning.
And self-actualization.
Nine, the less you care
what others think, the happier you'll be.
You often obsess and worry about what others
might think of you.
Usually, what other people do to you
has nothing to do with you, but their own insecurity.
If someone doesn't like you, that's all right
because you're not living your life for them.
You're living for yourself.
You alone have power
over how you feel.
And 10, be unapologetically you.
Have you ever wished you could be
like someone else?
That put together friend?
Or even the social media influencer
who makes everything look easy.
A study by Guler Boyraz in 2014
concluded that those who are more authentic
to themselves showed greater life satisfaction
at a later point.
You know what the world is in need of?
A unique and awesome you.
It may be scary to be vulnerable and authentic
but it's worth it.
Are any of these lessons, you've already applied
in your life?
If not, do you plan to?
What are some things you're working on right now?
Let us know in the comments below.
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