hi there I'm girl writes what I'm that's
my online handle I'm a blogger i vlog
about masculinity gender equality and
anti feminism when you think about the
kind of life that many men end up having
you know it really says something about
the disregard we hold men in that we can
chain them to that kind of obligation
without providing them any kind of
benefit of choice or freedom I mean we
have a word for that and that Kurt is
slavery even another couple decades and
and that's where men will be the MOR am
the men's rights movement is just sort
of a group of individuals and
organizations that advocate for raising
awareness of discrimination issues that
men and boys face in society I kind of
stumbled across my voice for men and I
stuck around and did a whole bunch of
reading and then I stayed my name is
Paul Elam I'm the founder and publisher
of a voice for men calm domestic
violence and rape and false allegations
or happen to be three of the four areas
where the public has been most
successfully deceived by the feminist
establishment about the nature of those
problems these people don't want these
issues to be heard I know that sounds
maybe a little tinfoil but it's true
the men's movement was a boys club the
public at large who might have looked at
a face like mine a white male at my age
and judge okay well here we go
but the women showed up the moment they
were invited I feel fantastic about the
fact that a diverse range of people are
gateways including women into the men's
movement people like Karen strong and
Janet Bloomfield
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my name is Janet Bloomfield and I am
having my hair and makeup professionally
done I will be attending the
International Conference on men's issues
and I would like to look as pretty as I
can and I don't know how to do this so I
have your dad it lovely artist who is we
got Harry yeah still gorgeous she didn't
need much help oh you're so sweet
I feel like I was being indoctrinated
into feminism by this misrepresentation
of male powers men have this incredible
sense of guilts that they're carrying
around from rape culture this idea that
they're all rapists that women are all
afraid of them but the standard of what
constitutes rape is now so low that
virtually all sexual encounters
constitute rape I'm sorry but how much
marital rape have you committed have you
had sex with your husband well drunk
like I have congratulate her rapist to
the standards are so absurdly low and
what's actually gonna happen is it's
gonna get flipped around and turned on
women you can count on men to start
charging women with rape now the reason
I wanted to have this conference is
simply because we need the dialogue
about these issues and we need to be
able to have that dialogue outside the
ideological lens of feminism welcome to
the International men's conference at
the VFW st. Clair Shores as most of us
who have kept abreast of events
surrounding the conference know there
has been some harsh criticism of some
people in this movement myself among
them allegations of misogyny allegations
of racism allegations of homophobia
allegations of supporting rape and other
forms of violence against women I
suppose that's to be expected boys who
are failures to launch who aren't doing
it well in school notice that not many
girls are interested in them but they
have an easy escape video for 250
million
why in an age of equality so we have the
male only draft registration why when
nothing had a greater impact on women's
freedom than birth control pill for
women we have none for men
our next presenter is one of the most
prominent women in the men's rights
movement put your hands together for
Terrance robb all right excellent my
name is Karen and I am an anti feminists
this conference is extremely important
to be able to come out in the open to
meet everybody to form bonds and have
our chance to talk
for me like a lot of others Karen stron
is a really important person a lot of
people who are given a voice but they're
able to come speak here might not be
comfortable bringing those issues up it
really truly is an international
conference that's here people came here
from India there's so much time to
interact and talk in fact yesterday
night I slept only for three hours
because it's so exciting to talk and
share and feelings these are very
important issues that the speakers were
discussing and I believe that society at
large needs to hear this message we
don't care we don't give a we women
in this movement you can say whatever
the hell you want about us call us
misogynist rape and abling anything you
call me what you want I am an
anti-feminist and I don't give
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thank you it was okay I really didn't
have much prepared I just kind of winged
it gonorrhea they call me the gateway
drug to the mrm I get over 75 100
messages a day they they're just thank
you so much because you you articulate
what I've always known and wanted to say
I've heard from men who said that
watching one one of my videos was the
first time they cried in 20 years we
decided we wanted to do a blog talk
radio show with just just women do you
think he wants to shine lollipops and
rainbows and everything is wonderful
that's wonderful work together oh god
she's been right we have honey badger
merchandise this is a logo that I had
dreamed up a target with a honey badger
head so that the feminists would know
where to point the gun I don't know if
you can see a lot of the merchandise has
my face on it which is a little
disconcerting since a voice for men came
on the scene we've done nothing but make
inroads into the mainstream media and
it's generally not nice things that they
have to say about us I wrote an article
several years ago called if you see
Jezebel in the road run the down
that was a response to an article at
jezebel.com that focused on the editors
and writers and readers bragging about
beating their boyfriends and then I
wrote a piece of satire that said what
if we just reversed the roles on this
what if I sit here and talk about
bashing
or taking a woman that's hitting you and
really beating her up real bad
if you won't hear men's pain you will
eventually hear their anger there's
nothing wrong with men being angry or
with the women being angry and if
anybody has an issue with the message
simply because of how it's delivered
they can really go themselves the
incendiary language the bad language
that cuss words all of that is part of a
strategy for getting attention
if the homeless man is just lying on the
sidewalk people just step over him and
go on their way the only way you can get
anyone's attention is if he starts being
perceived as a threat you start
screaming and having tantrums because
that's how you get attention ain't part
of the reason people started reading
judgy because I would write on
stuff like Steubenville and say why
don't we have a drunk horror registry
Steubenville might only have been a year
ago but a year ago we had no mainstream
media coverage our blogs were sort of
nascent a voice for men was established
but still struggling and yet after
Steubenville huh after Steubenville all
of a sudden voice mermans traffic jumped
so our evolution has been really rapid
but it's no different than any other
civil rights movements and to go back
and pick things from like the black
panthers they're embarrassing but they
were so necessary I mean they strode
through the streets with guns to
challenge the Second Amendment I think
maybe a voice from n plays Malcolm X to
other people's Martin Luther King jr.
right when you have one group of
like-minded people who all share an
opinion and a goal it's typical for
everybody's point of view to shift
toward the more radical stance and I
don't want that to happen to us are we
going in the direction of softening
absolutely the satire is calculated some
of the dark humor about some things is
calculated
it's not like there's some central like
Charlie's Angels with Charlie giving us
all quiet orders that's not to say that
there aren't violent misogynists who
call themselves m-ras there certainly
are the sort of crazy unhelpful ones got
left behind and they're still there
where everyone else has moved on who
wrote that one by the way did I I'm not
reading the article right now but I
would wager I would stand behind every
word of it because that's kind of a
cartoon of a caricature are you kidding
I appreciate that you may feel that some
sort of caveat about that to put it in a
new intellectual direction for an old
piece of work might be an order this is
from March ok March of 2014
okay because we are looked at as
promoting rape because we are looked at
as rape apologist because we are looked
at as brutal rape bastards the idea of
violence against us becomes palatable
when we started really promoting our
conference we got a lot of pushback
people were phoning and threatening not
only to do violence against us but
against her hotel staff and against
other guests that had nothing to do with
us threats
escalated to death threats so we ended
up moving the venue to the VFW here
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I am familiar with a particular
protester and she showed up expecting to
be admitted to this press conference
because she said so and no I mean that's
the answer
no sit down and chill no I will talk I'm
not coming here as a protester I'm
coming here as a journalist and I want
to be able to photograph and document
this and I have crit I am the Prudential
saber fired and I did at one point have
a promise from them in an email that I
would have those they told me to get out
and the police themselves told me that
protesters were to stay behind the
police line
Janet Bloomfield I think is completely
off kilter she tweeted me not 20 minutes
ago calling me a calling me a
calling my friends I feel
that the women are misled oystermen LLC
is not incorporated it was seized under
tax forfeiture in 2013 the reason there
is no protest here today is because the
feminists who were here felt that it
wasn't a constructive use for their
they felt that it would negatively
reinforced the attention that a voice
command seats all he wants is an
audience but I guess a feminists don't
want to give him that audience and I
have to say I agree with it women's
voices have more authority than men's
voices for me that's really incredibly
important is to get female allies
I met Jewell this morning and how do you
feel about what we're talking about
Jewell
I think being friends and liking other
women is an important thing and if you
guys have something in common and can
learn from each other that's good too
yeah I mean I didn't know anything about
this until you walked in today and I was
pretty wowed by it so yeah I mean that's
what I can do I can communicate - well
then I'm learning and then I can you
know communicate it to my daughter and
her generation um they need to know -
exactly
- get it out there is a good thing
you're doing thank you you're welcome
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