if you're feeling stuck like you're in a rut
keep watching I'm Damon Cart this is life mastery gym and I teach people just
like you cutting-edge NLP processes and techniques so you can take charge of
your life and master your destiny so if that sounds good
make sure you click that subscribe button right down here so I get a lot of
people asking me about this how do I stay motivated how do I see something
through to the end I have a goal and I keep quitting I get too stuck in a rut
I lose my motivation how do I get around that so by the end of this video you're
gonna understand why and what you can do about it for the past several years I've
done tons of work on myself in this area and this is probably the biggest thing
that I helped my coaching clients with before I dive into this as always if you
have questions or comments I really encourage you to put them in the
comments section down below so that when I answer them everybody can see my
answer and everybody can benefit from it but if you want to send me an email I'm
okay with that too also you'll find in the description below there is a link
and it will give you free and immediate access to what I'm going to describe
later at the end of this video but if you're in a rush or you don't have the
patience go ahead and go down to the description and click that link chances
are if you clicked on this link you need this video what why would I say that
well because if you notice the title of this video is stated in the negative and
if this title spoke to you it's probably because that's how you're thinking about
motivation and that is actually not the way that you want to think about
motivation if you're thinking about it in terms of I don't want to be lazy and
I don't want to be unmotivated well that gives you no place to go that only gets
you wanting to move away from what it is what it is you don't want which is to be
unmotivated or not lazy so you need to shift this and state this
in the positive what is the opposite of being lazy well for me it's being
proactive but you need to find your own word for that what is the opposite of
being lazy to you now the opposite of being on motive
it's obvious it's being motivated so instead of saying I don't want to be
lazy and I don't want to be unmotivated say something more along the lines of
like I want to be proactive and I want to be motivated and then from there we
can go somewhere because if you're saying if you're focused on what it is
that you don't want it's like getting into say a cab a taxi and telling the
driver where you don't want to go well you're not going to go anywhere
now next you need to take this even deeper so it's one thing to say to state
it in the positive and that's a first really good step
so instead of focusing on what you don't want focus on what you do want but then
take this even deeper because there are much deeper unconscious values that is
where the motivation actually lies this is where the gold is few people ever
really tap into what are the deeper unconscious values that are driving you
to want something that are driving you to make all of the decisions that you
make once you know those these will be these are the same things this these
values will drive you to follow through with what it is that you want to follow
through with whether it's a goal or some sort of achievement or just something in
general that you want to be able to do and that's why I created the free pdf
right down here below in the description when you click on that I have a process
there for you for eliciting these values for pulling out these deeper unconscious
values and the questions are basically what is important to you about being
motivated and what is important to you about being proactive or whatever the
word is for you that's the opposite of being lazy and here's the other thing to
make sure you pick something specific so if you're saying I want to be proactive
and I want to be motivated don't just leave it there say I want to be
proactive and I want to be motivated to do whatever it is and don't say
everything I'll let people say well Damon I want to be proactive and
motivated to do everything okay that's wonderful but because everything is so
broad it's not going to help you very much you need to chunk this down so be
specific about what it is you want to be motivated and proactive to do try to be
as specific as possible you don't need to be like granular you don't need to be
like so incredibly specific don't let that hang you up some people
might say well I'm not specific enough and they go they try to go at this over
and over start with something so if it's everything okay say one thing in
particular choose a a major life context say you're a career
I want to be motivated and proactive in my career okay and then you can even
chunk that down a little bit where in your career do you feel like you need
the most work and then focus on that and so I would even write that statement
down I want to be motivated and proactive in blank part of my career
now the third and final part of this is the obstacle so what has stopped you
from being motivated what has stopped you from being proactive or whatever it
is that you want to be when in relation to whatever it is that you want to
accomplish there are both internal obstacles in external obstacles now the
external obstacles is what most people blame their laziness on well if this
wasn't this way then I could do it well a lot of times that's the easiest thing
to overcome the external obstacle is usually the easiest thing to overcome
it's the internal obstacles that are the doozies the things that are really
tripping you up it's not the external obstacles external obstacles are easy to
get around they're easy to find strategies they're easy to find
resources people to help you get around it it's not the external obstacle in
other words it's the internal obstacle so what is the internal obstacle that is
holding you back so to smoke out this internal obstacle a
great way to do that is to say well what's the worst that could happen so if
I were motivating and proactive in doing whatever it is that you want to do
what's the worst that could happen ask yourself that question and see what
answer comes out chances are you've been holding on to something that's you're
afraid of but when you ask that question you bring it out into the open it
oftentimes looks very irrational and even ridiculous at times which is great
you bring this out into the open and you realize how irrational it is how
ridiculous it is and then you just go ah this was what was stopping me and then
it's usually easy to let that go and if it still scares you a little bit just
ask yourself well what if that did happen just flat-out ask okay the thing
that I'm most afraid are the worst thing that could possibly happen what if it
did is it life-threatening is it a true risk to your safety would it completely
destroy you financially and you would never recover is it a mistake so big
that you can never come back from I seriously doubt it it rarely ever is the
case so really get clear about that ask yourself is you know so what if you make
a mistake is that what you're really afraid of so
if you made that mistake then what could you not recover from that and maybe
you're saying well but yeah I'd be humiliated or something like that
okay well that's that's an external pressure that's other people that's none
of your business this is about you and this is your life so you can even either
live it not doing the things that you want to do and not living the dreams
that you want to live because what what somebody else thinks probably somebody
who you don't really care too much about what they think anyway is that really
what's holding you back so put this all together connect with those values that
you elicited and then ask yourself what if I was motivated what if I was
connected to these values what if my accomplishment that thing that I want to
accomplish you can clearly see the values behind it and you ask yourself
what if I was motivated and proactive and accomplishing this what would that
be like do I need anything else is anything else
holding me back probably not so go for it as I mentioned early in the video
make sure you go down to the description right down below click that link and
you'll get immediate access to that PDF that shows you how to elicit your values
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