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Today’s question comes from Poonam and she writes:
“Hi Marie, I love your videos and your energy.
Here’s my Q. I’m really bad at making decisions.
Whenever I have to make a decision I start calling around and asking everyone what should
I do.
I feel like everything I’m doing in my life is based on decisions made for me by somebody
else.
Later on I regret that I listened to all these people because things usually get bad.
But still I’m not able to make my own decisions.
Is there a way that I can improve my decision making skills?
Thanks, Poonam.”
Poonam, great question.
First thing I want you to know, you are completely capable of making your own decisions, and
smart ones at that.
You’re just not practiced at it yet.
So here are a few strategies that can help.
Strategy number one is put down the clipboard.
Poonam, running around constantly asking others for their opinion is a bad habit you need
to drop like a hot pocket.
Right now you’re a survey addict and the only way you’re gonna kick this habit is
to put down
the clipboard.
All kidding aside, the most important step that you can take to improve your decision
making skills is to trust yourself to start making them, and that means you need to go
cold turkey on group surveys.
Strategy number two is be the decider.
So check it out, you already make tons of decisions every day, you’re just probably
not aware of them.
You know, which way should I walk, what do I wanna wear, should I wear my bra on the
inside or the outside, should I send this as an email or text?
So you’re making decisions all the time and you just gotta start paying attention
to them.
Yes, I know, these are little decisions, but the point is you make them and if you make
small ones you can make big ones.
In fact, I wrote a song for you that I think should be your new anthem.
If it’s good enough for Queen Bey, you know what I’m talking about?
So here’s the point: be the decider and celebrate that and I promise it’ll give
you more confidence.
Strategy number three is dial 888-INNER-WISDOM.
Here’s the deal, so many of us make the mistake of constantly looking outside of ourselves
for help with life’s big decisions.
Now, of course it’s ok to talk with people you trust, but right now, Poonam, you are
completely disconnected from your own truth, so you need to dial your inner wisdom hotline
because, here’s the deal, the advice that’ll never steer you wrong comes from within.
It’s called listening to your heart or your higher self or your intuition.
You have 24/7 access to this wisdom as long as you know the right numbers to dial.
What I mean is, how to listen to your intuition, how to actually tap into your heart.
Now, we’ve already done some episodes about this, so I will put the links below.
With practice you are gonna feel confident, you’re gonna feel strong, and you are going
to love making your own decisions.
In fact, the best part about it can be summed up in this Tweetable.
“The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.”
That was my A to your Q, Poonam, I hope it helps.
Now I would love to hear from you.
Are you a good solo decision maker or are you addicted to other people’s opinions?
Now, if you’ve been able to sharpen your own decision making skills, I would love to
know how you did it.
As always, the most awesome discussions happen after the episode over at the magical fairytale
land of MarieForleo.com, so get your buns over there and leave a comment now.
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