“Daddy issues.”
two words that can turn any woman furious in seconds.
But why is it always directed at women?
After all, guys have Dads too, why can’t they shoulder some of this burden?
I'm going to explain why daddy issues occur in men in this video and towards the end show
you some warning signs, so make sure you stick around.
At some point, many of us have been falsely accused of having them.
The phrase has been turned into a violent catchphrase that is thrown around often by
people arguing.
It is a shame because there's a lot of truth in recognizing that our parents have an essential
role in our emotional development and understanding how it works.
When someone says that a person has "Daddy Issues," it sounds almost terminal making
you feel like branded cattle yet what it shows is that the accuser is shutting down the opportunity
for that individual to examine, grow, and improve.
Let's start by removing the negative connotation, because everybody has daddy and mother issues.
We're all victims since the emotional health of our parents has a significant influence
on us, even if they weren't in our lives.
It's important to know that many different things will predict how emotionally developed
and happy a man will be and one crucial element is how involved a child's father is.
The obvious starting point is that having a father who was absent largely during the
growing up phase leads to many psychological issues.
It's worth noting that being "absent" can manifest itself in a variety of ways.
There is an increase in mothers giving birth with no father around, but that is just one
issue.
Children are still born into marriage unions that subsequently divorce.
So it's possible that a father can become absent later on.
The alternative can be dads who are physically present but emotionally unavailable.
Commonly known as the dad's who work all day and fail to pick up the phone to their children
when they call.
These scenarios and others can lead to what we call "Daddy Issues."
Many relationships today fail due to the fact that many men have Daddy Issues of their own!
Each man can have his own daddy issues!
Maybe your dad never came to watch you play sports ever?
Was your Dad the star athlete back in his day and you are a benchwarmer and he harbours
shame?
Who knows.
Maybe it's the reverse and you are the superstar of the team and you want to impress him with
your talent, yet week after week, He never arrives.
It all sounds like a tragic movie scene.
Men are taught to fulfil the unwritten rule of being 'A Man' and doing manly things.
You may have a burly father who laughs at your weakness in the gym despite him being
a similar build to you at that age, alternatively you may live in an highly academic household
and the pressure to perform to meet his expectations is and was exhausting.
Daddy issues place a pressure on most men to match up to the ideals of their father,
resulting in children wanting different lives or succeeding where their fathers failed them.
If you grew up with a successful father, you would realise pretty quickly that work was
the contributing factor to his life.
So much so he would fill all his time, and leave you with a quick how are you every 3
days.
Whilst it may not be crushing, the father would think that Christmas and holidays would
make up for the lack of interaction -after all who didn't want 4 holidays a year?
! At the time you just existed, yet you wished your dad would just play with you for 5 minutes
in the garden once in a while.
These often insignificant scenarios play out years down the line, especially when men who
have experienced a lack of interaction have their own children.
In fact they actually shower them with affection, which in essence can result in another form
of daddy issues, the spoil factor.
If a child grows up lavished with gifts in the form of presents or constant interaction
then when they don't experience this they will think the world is somehow broken, if
they have a daughter they will be looking for a man who can replace the void from the
impact their father made in their life.
So the roots of daddy issues are far reaching but the alternative might be that your dad
was just useless.
Did he leave your mother for another woman?
And did this act inflict so much harm that you and the family never actually recovered.
Well whether you can answer that confidently or not, there is something much easier to
grasp - Dads just don't know what to do and quite understandably, there is after all no
rule book!
This doesn't mean that these Dads didn't put their all into it.
However, he may just not know how to love; therefore, he justifies his affection with
tangible presents or empty promises.
The saddest part is that society is full of clues, and every man has the capability to
improve.
Perhaps he couldn't effectively communicate any feeling other than anger and you didn't
want to be the recipient of his temper And we know that some people have had the
pleasure of having a Dad who was a combination of all these qualities.
Or maybe your Dad just wasn't there which can be really tough.
As it resulted in a lifetime rain cloud over any of your identity and achievements.
Some men have a mother who blames them for their absent father's mistakes.
This makes it harder for them to deal with their problems.
This is a horrible and painful child and teen hood experience.
Yes you may take on characteristics but your father's actions are being put on your which
is no life for a child…
This is only the beginning, and before you know it... you're a full fledged adult, an
actual man.
And what are men expected to be, well simply put ... men.
They have to suck up the harsh realities be the cushion for the other sex.
Not only this, we have a checklist of things that come with being a tough male...
During young adult years it starts with sleeping with as many women as possible.
starting trouble, going to the gym, never being wrong and being able to hold yourself
in a fight.
Its frighteningly stupid but it happens to all men.
Thankfully for most men they grow through these phases and realise what path they want
in life.
Couple all this with men having to hide their emotions and not crying in public as we dont
want to be seen as being weak.
In the fear of being told to 'man the hell up' . So does all this stem from daddy issues.
Yes the strength of it depends on the damage you experienced growing up.
Regardless of the answer, something must be done to stop this.
Remember that society has the ability to change most people to fit what it wants.
This is the world that men are living in; a world where daddy issues keep happening.
And keep being brushed under the rug.
Men have demons, and they often rear their head at 2am.
But life could be simple if we just vocalised our issues.
Specifically our Daddy issues.
So let's quickly look at warning signals for men dealing with daddy issues.
1.You have a phobia of commitment.
You were taught as a kid not to put your faith in others.
They were unreliable, and they always let you down.
You avoid making commitments as a result of this past pain.
2.
You’re unphased.
You have a hard time walking in someone else's shoes because you're not at ease with your
own.
You find it difficult to connect to other people's feelings.
What worries you the most is how something will affect you.
3.You're inconsiderate.
It isn't your intention.
You don't know how to show respect, which is understandable.
4.You are not very friendly or open.
You direct your attention away from what's happening in your relationships.
You overlook signs that your relationships require your attention.
5.You're not responsible.
You've always been unable to figure out how to do things effectively.
It appeared as though the regulations changed every day.
Instead of being held responsible for issues when you do everything possible to ensure
they are correct, it's simpler to blame someone else.
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