Are you in a love situation, where you've had a crush for a really, really, really long time, but the
one problem is you're having trouble working up the courage to actually talk to them? Well, if
so, you're definitely not alone, because one of the most common questions I get here on "Ask
Kimberly" is how to talk to your crush. When it comes to talking to someone, a lot of the advice
you are going to get is going to focus on what you can't do, like ,"don't be too cheesy, don't be
too aggressive, don't be too weird", and the list goes on and on and on. And that could leave you
feeling really paralyzed. So, today, I'm going to give you five easy conversation starters, like
opening lines, that can actually get the conversation going, between you and your crush. And
trust me, guys, even the most shy person can use some of these. They're that easy. I believe in
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Number 1. "Oh my god, Mr. Anderson's class was so dry, today." So, all this one is, it's so easy,
is finding something that the both of you have in common and making comments about it,
whether it was a class you just had, the bus ride to school, your teacher, the prom, just about
anything. "I thought Miss Potato's head was going to pop off when she was yelling at us."
Research shows that we're more likely to actually like someone, if we feel we have something in
common with them. If you have a crush, just finding some kind of common ground between the
two of you is a really good place to start. So, a really simple little comment like this can lead to a
bigger conversation, if the person is actually open to it. So, instead of saying something like
"How is your day?", which can feel a bit contrived and usually lead to a one word response,
making an insightful comment about something you've experienced together is totally relatable
and usually has a funny undertone.
Number 2. "What is the story behind this t shirt? You are always wearing it." For this one,
you're just asking a question about something that other people might not have noticed before,
but you're doing it in a curious and lovable way. This one usually works best if you choose an
article of clothing that they always wear and just ask them what the story is behind it. "I have to
know what is the story behind this t shirt because you are always wearing it." You can even say
something funny like, "Everytime I see you, you're literally wearing that shirt. So, to me, I just
know you as the guy in the white t shirt, or the guy with the green shoes, or the girl with the pink
backpack." This can become a cute little nickname. This one is especially genius because it
actually distances you from the person knowing that they're your crush. Now they think that you
know of them as "the guy in the white t shirt". You see what I did there? Not only does this
elevate your own perceived social value, but it's a great way to learn about your crush and
potentially hear a really great story.
Number 3. "That was a great presentation you just did today." Now, this one is easy. It's a
compliment over something they have achieved. So whether that's a presentation or scoring the
winning goal of the game, you're choosing something they did great and recognizing that you've
acknowledged it. Now, guys, this a lot different from over-complimenting someone, which can
go way overboard. "Oh my god, I love your shoes. Your hair looks so nice. Has anyone ever told
you, you look like Zayn?" This is a premeditated compliment. It's something that usually
everyone knows that they've achieved. However, you can feel free to do it in a unique way. The
way you set yourself apart is to point out something that no one else has noticed. "That
presentation was actually amazing, and I could tell you practiced that speech". The purpose of
complimenting is to help someone feel good about themselves and comfortable in your presence.
Plus, complimenting is a very small form of flirting. So, a thoughtful compliment is perfect for
the kind of relationship where you've actually talked to the person before, but you haven't really
had the opportunity to do it that often and you want to get to talk to them and have conversations
on a regular basis.
Now, number 4 is super cheeky, and it's only for the most daring at heart. It's, "Hi!". This one is
really good for one thing, specifically, and that's determining if your crush actually likes you.
So, if you're really sadistic and you like to rip off band-aids really quickly, this is the approach
for you. Saying just "hi" and nothing else, essentially forces the person to either start talking and
start a conversation with you, or do nothing and let things be super awkward.
If your crush likes you, they're going to work to keep
the conversation going, but if your crush doesn't like you,
they're not going to care if there's an awkward silence. They may even walk away or start
talking to someone else. So, it's really good, because you're going to know if your crush likes
you, but it's also really bad because you're going to know if your crush doesn't like you. But,
hey, who wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't seem them as beautiful and
lovely and relationship-worthy in the first place?
So, the last one, guys, is, "What do you think of blank?" So this one is telling a funny tale about
your life, in a way that poses it as a dilemma. You're almost asking your crush, "What should I
do in this situation?" And the more details you can give in this one, the better. "I have piano
tonight and I really don't want to go because my teacher keeps farting at my lessons". Presenting
a funny dilemma to your crush that's related to your life is actually so engaging because it gives
them the opportunity to actually weigh in on what you should do. "I don't know what to do, do I
just tell him it's rude or should I just pretend it didn't happen and hold my breath? What would
you do?" It also gives them a little insight about you and how you perceive situations and the
kinds of things you find funny. So, if there is the potential for romance or a relationship or
chemistry, you're giving them that right then and there. Just so you guys can have a bank of
funny dilemmas to approach your crush with, I want you to list some idea dilemmas down in the
comments below, so you guys can use that as a resource of things to say, when you're looking
for something to talk about with your crush.
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