Bare Minimums Every Man Should Know [0:00:00]
So, just this morning, my son started a fire in the kitchen and just about burned down
the house.
[sound effect] Now, to be clear, this wasn’t intentional,
he was making a scallop potato pie for his grandmother on her birthday.
He likes to think of himself as a Gordon Ramsay.
Yeah, he used a little bit too much butter.
It over boiled and all of a sudden, it caught fire and the oven had flames shooting out
of it.
[sound effect] Now, what happened next is key.
He didn’t run upstairs to grab his mother.
He didn’t try to fill up a bucket of water and put it out that way.
No, he grabbed the fire extinguisher, sprayed the base of the fire and put it right out.
Now, that may seem like common sense, but as Voltaire said, common sense is not so common.
You see, a lot of kitchen fires are associated with oils and throwing water on them isn’t
necessarily going to work.
In fact, can make the situation worse.
So, that’s where a chemical fire extinguisher or knowing how to smother out a fire comes
in very handy.
And in my opinion, gents, this is one of the bare minimum skills that every man should
know.
So, what else is on this list?
And do you know all these basic skills?
Gentlemen, that’s what this video is all about.
[Music] The next basic skill that every man needs
to have, the ability to have a difficult conversation.
This is going to come up in the work place, this is going to come up in your relationships.
If something is bothering you, don’t let it build up.
You need to be able to pull that person aside and be able to have a conversation man-to-man,
man-to-woman, whatever it is to be able to express what it is you’re thinking, what
bothers you and how to be able to work together.
Seriously, gents, this skill is so underrated.
And one thing I think about here is to praise in public, but to critique privately.
You don’t want an audience when you’re having this conversation because that other
person is going to put on a front.
When you can do this one-to-one, you eliminate -- basically you’re able to be more vulnerable,
you’re able to say what you want to say and hear that person out and understand their
point of view.
Next, how to stand up for yourself without being an asshole.
Seriously, a lot of guys go from being a pushover to going full-on nuclear on people.
You want to be able to find a way to just simply say, no, you don’t have to explain
yourself.
Just simply have boundaries and stick to them.
Next up on this list of bare minimums, if you’ve got people that depend on you – kids,
a partner, a spouse, you want to have life insurance.
For me personally, life insurance is critical.
I’ve got five kids including a three-month old, I have a spouse and I have seen what
happens when people pass away without life insurance.
Seriously, when I was in the marines I was a staff officer for an infantry battalion.
One of my jobs was to make sure that anyone that had not signed up and it was automated
life insurance.
But, if you declined it, it was like 10 bucks a month that you would save, but there are
people that would simply turn this down.
I had to talk with them and say, “Hey, do you realize what’s happening?”
And we actually had a marine in our battalion passed away, who had declined that and it
was so unfortunate that his family missed out on simply being able to have money for
his funeral, being able to take care of all the things that happen after somebody passes.
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Next up, let’s get really practical, the basics of car maintenance.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t own a vehicle because you’re probably riding in a vehicle.
Do you know how to inflate tires?
I think I read a study 25% of people have no idea where to start when it comes to inflating
a tire.
Yeah, it sounds crazy.
But, don’t be part of that 25%.
And, do you know how to change a tire?
I think I read the opposite like 75% of people have no idea where to start when changing
a tire.
And, this can be something dangerous.
So, there are basic tutorials out there where you’re going to take the nuts off while
the tire is still on the ground.
[0:04:59] Believe it or not, I’ve seen people lift
up the vehicle and then think they’re going to, yeah, twist things off.
No, do it while it’s down, then you’re going to lift up the vehicle.
You’re going to take it off, you’re going to then put on the spare.
And, understand when you put on that spare, you shouldn’t be driving more than 45 miles
an hour or whatever that is in kilometers.
Point being, don’t be driving on a spare.
This is not a normal thing.
You want to get that regular tire in and get it fixed ASAP.
Next up, let’s talk about jumpstarting your battery.
At some point, you’re going to leave your lights on, the battery is just going to die.
You’re going to need a jump or more likely because you’re prepared, somebody else around
you is going to need a jump.
Now, I do recommend that you carry a jump battery.
That way, you don’t have to hook up your battery and you’re going to save the life
of it and you can actually have -- I think they’re just easier to use and you can more
mobile.
But, in the case that you are having to use your battery or you’re getting your battery
jumped, how does this work?
Now, first up, understand you’ve got the red cable.
That is going to be the first one you’re going to connect.
After that, the black cable.
Now, I know some of you technicians, electricians, some of you hobbyists out there is saying,
“Antonio, come on, that’s horrible advice.
Always make sure to ground it.”
Okay.
So, that’s what you’re supposed to do according to the directions, but I don’t
know, what do you guys do?
Let me know in the comments below.
I want to hear from you.
In any case, once the vehicle starts, immediately unplug and going backwards.
Take off the black cable, take off the red cable.
Now, let’s transition and talk about the basic necktie knots that you need to know.
First up, we’ve got the four-in-hand.
This knot is perfect for pointed collars and smaller lapels.
To tie it, first make sure the wide end is longer than the narrow end.
The length will depend on the tie itself.
Take the wide end and cross it over the narrow end and then bring it under and behind.
Wrap it around and across the front again creating a loop.
Then, bring it up through the neck opening.
Now, pull the wide end through the loop created at the front, but don’t squeeze it.
Now, you want your tie to have a dimple as it looks much better than the tie just laying
flat.
There are two ways to create a dimple.
First, use three fingers to squeeze the fabric on top together, then gently pull with your
other hand from the bottom down until it’s tight.
Another way is to pinch the knot from the sides with two fingers.
Now, use the other hand and with three fingers placed on each side in the middle of the tie,
gently pull down until it’s tight.
Now, that you have the dimple, you can finish tying the knot by holding the narrow end and
pushing the knot upwards to your neck.
Keep the narrow end secure by using the keep loop on the back of the wider end.
Remember, the tie should end around the middle of your beltline.
If you find it to be too short, start over and shorten the narrow end.
If it’s too long, then make sure the wide end is shortened.
Nicely done.
Next up, we’ve got the half Windsor.
This knot is incredibly versatile and works great with all colors and lapel sizes.
To tie it, first make sure the wide end is longer than the narrow end.
Cross the wide end over the narrow end and bring it under and behind.
Now, take the wide end and push it through the neck opening.
Once it’s through, take the wide end and pull it across the front of the knot and bring
it under and through the neck opening again.
Pull the wide end through the loop created at the front.
Now, add the dimple.
Hold the narrow end and push your necktie by the knot up to your neck.
Insert the narrow end into the keeper and you’re done.
If it lands in the middle of your beltline, you nailed it.
Next up, the full Windsor.
This is a large knot perfectly suited for wider collars and wide lapels.
Start by making sure the wide end is much longer than the narrow end.
Now, cross the wide end over the narrow end, bring the wide end under and through the neck
opening.
Once you do that, take the wide end behind the narrow end and bring it over and through
the neck opening once again.
At this point, you should notice the symmetry of the knot.
Now, wrap the wide end across the front, then go under and through the neck opening from
behind one final time.
Finish off by pulling the wide end through the loop formed at the front adding the dimple
and pulling the knot upwards while holding the narrow end to tighten the knot.
Insert the narrow end through the keeper loop and check the length.
If it lands in the middle of the beltline, you nailed it like a boss.
Next up, let’s take a step back to the real bare minimums.
You need to know how to clean yourself, you need to know how to properly take care of
your oral hygiene.
Understand that you should shower most likely once a day.
Seriously, you got to read the comments when I put out a video on how to shower, how to
brush your teeth, how to clean your ears, how to cut your nails.
Everyone is like, “Isn’t this common sense?”
Here’s the thing is common sense is a myth.
It’s not like we are all born with an intuition on how to do these things.
[0:10:00] A lot of it is based off how you’re raised,
culture.
You want to have a basic standard and I’ll tell you mine.
Showering once a day pretty much no matter what and brushing your teeth, rinsing your
mouth, flossing your teeth twice a day.
Flossing your teeth, maybe you can get away with once a day at night, but definitely the
brushing your teeth using a mouthwash, guys, it sounds so simple, but go read the forums
over on Reddit what the ladies are saying.
They’re like, “Yeah.
I went down on that guy and I could not believe the smell.
I mean, it was horrible.
I’m just who are these guys?”
But, apparently -- and anyone that has joined the military been around with young people
in high school or college, you start to realize, you know, some people have some pretty bad
habits.
Don’t be that guy.
Now, some of you guys are watching this and say, hey, you know, this applies to the ladies
as well and you’re exactly right.
It just happens to be that 90% of my audience are men, so that’s why I titled the video
and I usually say gentlemen and gents and stuff like that.
But, this one right here, yeah, applies to everybody, basic finances.
It’s funny, I watched some of these MGTOW videos and, you know, you have a woman saying,
“Hey, I’ve got my own place.
I pay my own bills.
I feed myself.”
And the guy is like, “Yeah, that’s the bare minimum.”
And that goes both ways.
You are expected to be able to pay your bills on time, to be able to balance a checkbook.
And a lot of you guys don’t even use checks.
But, the idea is you want to be looking at money coming in and money going out and you
want to make sure that, hey, you don’t have more going out unless you’ve got some secret
trust fund or maybe you’re spending on a company or something like that, you’ve got
venture funded.
But, for the majority of us that live in the real world, you need to be putting money aside,
you need to be saving.
I definitely know in today’s, you know, with what’s going on in the world, very
hard.
But, you’ve got to find a way to be able to make it work.
This is what is expected if you were going to live out on your own.
So, understand that this is, again, the bare minimum.
Being able to build out a budget, being able to plan, being able to balance your books,
so that at the end of the month you’ve got a little bit, even if it’s, you know, like
50 cents.
I guess you can play quarters with a friend for entertainment.
Now, this next one some of you guys may think is optional or some of you guys, you know,
are going to say this is what a woman is for, but being able to cook.
And that last part, you know, I think that it is so stupid because it’s about self-preservation.
It’s about being able to put good food into your body and not pay crazy prices to a restaurant
that you don’t even know what they’re doing to the food in the back.
I know for my son that he’s like a budding Gordon Ramsay when he’s not trying to burn
down the house.
And I love the fact that he’s actually been teaching me about how to cook meats in different
ways.
He’s been doing all these experiments.
He’s actually brought his cousin, who’s now staying with us over from Ukraine.
And it’s just interesting to see them, yeah, this is what we’re going to do, we’re
going to let the salt on meat for 24 to 48 hours.
We’re going to let it dry out.
And I know for some of you guys, it may be difficult.
It’s like, ah, that ship has already sailed, I’m in my 40s, 50s, I don’t really want
to learn to cook.
Well, how about you take a course because some of you guys, yeah, you’re in your 40s
you’re single, you’re wondering how can I meet people?
Well, go to some of these cooking courses.
Just look online, they’re relatively inexpensive.
Or, host your own cooking course.
Maybe talk some people at work and say, hey, I want to do something, let’s may be show
up to a place and learn to cook.
Put together sushi.
Me and my wife used to do this.
We wanted to learn how to make sushi because really expensive, we didn’t have much money.
And we also live in an area where there’s not really great sushi.
And so, we started having sushi parties and bringing over friends and everyone contributed
and all of a sudden, we started do this.
We literally had some of the fish flown in from California, so it was fresh and we just
pulled all of our resources.
And we would, you know, for like 20 bucks a head, we would have, you know, if I went
to a sushi restaurant in New York City would cost me a 150 bucks.
We were able to dine like kings and queens.
And, again, on top of that, it’s a great way to meet women.
Next up, we’ve got dealing with emotions in a healthy way.
So many of us growing up are told not to cry, not to show any emotion and we keep it pent
in and we are a volcano waiting to explode.
I know that when I first got into relationship with my wife, there were moments that I want
to take back and literally would get so mad sometimes and I never hit her, but I would
take things and I remember one time, I just threw something out the window.
I don’t remember what it was, it was some type of electronic device.
I’ve actually jumped out of a car, then she kept talking and I didn’t want to hear
it and I was just like I just, you know, I’m just like, yeah, I jumped and the car was
– we were moving.
We only got like 15 miles an hour.
But, still I was like, I’m out of here.
This isn’t probably healthy and I know some of you guys can relate to being emotionally
compromised when everything keeps hitting you and people don’t understand and you
don’t have a way to get out.
I know for me exercise -- running is one of the best ways just to get rid of the energy.
I also journal and I write down what I want to say.
I remember reading about Abraham Lincoln wanted to say something.
I think it was Meade or one of the generals, somebody can correct me down in the comments.
Basically, he did not go on the offensive and it was so frustrating to him that he wrote
a letter and then he never sent it.
I find that journaling for me is like that.
There is also, I’ve got three to four friends that I can call at any point, I know they’ll
pick up the phone and I can just talk to them and commiserate and they’ll listen.
It doesn’t very often that I need to do this, but if I can’t get a hold of one,
I get a hold of the other.
You know, I’ve never not been able to get a hold of one of the four.
And speaking of keeping emotions in check, check out this video.
I talk sadly about why I stopped riding that beautiful motorcycle.
Oh, I love riding motorcycles.
I did the four corners.
I lived for months on my bike.
I think six months at one time.
And I gave it all up.
Why?
Well, guys, I cover that in this video right here.
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