You want to know what destroys relationships? I figured it out.
You want to know? It is a four-letter word
called want.
Baby, I want you to I want to...
Awww. I wanna be more like them.
I want you to be more like Prince EA.
WANT, WANT, WANT!
Married people want the freedom that single people have.
Single people want the commitment that married people have.
I believe it was Byron Katie who said that,
"When I want reality to be different from how it is I suffer."
I've had girlfriends that have wanted things for me
and I've wanted things for them
and these wants were the fuel for fights, arguments, and eventually break up.
Now be careful. Hold on. I'm not saying that you shouldn't want things
or have standards in your life.
All I'm saying is that if your attachment to those wants
are causing you or your partner to suffer
and clouding your ability to appreciate the now
then just as acid destroys the vessel in which it is stored
those wants will poison your mind and slowly destroy your relationship
from the inside out
and by that I mean from the inside of you.
I am here today to tell you that maybe getting what you want
is not the answer.
Maybe dropping what you want
is the answer.
Let me give you a real-life example.
Say I wanted my girlfriend to... I don't know text me when she wakes up and I'm like
Yo! Why don't you text me when you wake up?
Are you up? Are you wake up?
I want to know. What the f*#k?
I'm a little controlling, obviously.
Now as soon as I dropped the want for her to text me,
am I not happy?
Am I not at peace?
Have I not removed something that was creating conflict
and blocking me from loving her more?
See it was my want that was driving me crazy
not her.
I thought it was her.
I falsely accused her. I wanted to change her.
But now I've spotted the true criminal
a silent thief that steals happiness
and he resides in me
and goes by the alias of want.
Peace.