my question is about emotions and the distinction between being authentic to
an experience that i'm having or someone's having whether it's like grief or sadness coming up
coming up which happened to me today and not like spiritually bypassing that authentic experience
and i also don't want to just like stuff this you know and stress it where is the distinction
between like spiritually bypassing and then being authentic to you great questions thanks
thanks for your question and look i have sat in meditations and out of nowhere i had the most icky
so familiar but so foreign feeling moved through me that it was i don't know i never saw it coming
i didn't know what it was and all i did was instead of run and turn on my cell
phone or lay down or quit i was curious if there was something on the other side of it
so if i stay present with it and felt it it was an energy and that energy is a frequency
and that frequency carries information or the emotion as a memory however you want to say it
and so you have to pass through the valley of the shadow of darkness many times to find the light
and i have sat with my body curious to wonder if there's anything on the other side of this emotion
and if i stayed present with it and felt it it would turn into something else in time
and so then think about it you know we have different sensations that our body experiences
you may feel like a tightening in your throat and your respiratory rate going up and kind of
flush and your heart of fluttering and you may be feeling anxious but all of those sensations
that the body is recording your interpretation of it is anxiety or being anxious so the sensations
then the human sensations as information we call it an emotions the moment we name it it's anxiety
but those sensations that come up for the body is information so people then sitting in the presence
of that information and allowing you to experience it fully will cause you to move through it
now for me i'm all about this if it's familiar if it's a familiar feeling more than likely i'm
back in some unconscious program because the emotion is driving certain behaviors certain
habits certain thoughts now that doesn't mean that people can't go through grieving processes
but i do believe that that process for some people becomes a way for them to get attention
and to get things in their life that they need and they use it in a way that
becomes part of their identity and they do that unconsciously and so for me i would say then what
greater piece of knowledge could i learn about grief or about myself that i would
want to apply to evolve my experience of it and see if there's something on the other side of it
so we look for those answers then and we build a model and for example people grieve a lot for
for people that die and i totally get it but if you had a greater understanding of death
you may not have said grief for that long because you would say my goodness if i
truly love this person if you pass this plane and you saw someone you loved walking around
suffering what would you say to them after a period of time hey if you love me live your life
i'm on i'm going on go enjoy so i always look what is my limited belief about about something
and could i learn to to expand my awareness of what's possible so if you feel the grief
stay present with it and see by staying present with it if there's something on the other side
sit with it long enough i i have i've had so many dark nights i've sat with it until
it turned into something else i just i just was curious i didn't want anything out there to do it
i wanted to do it and when it matters the most is when it's the hardest that's what i know