So, what does it mean for this symbol to emerge from the feminine symbol let's say to emerge from chaos
Well this picture this is a picture of Venus the goddess of love
Right, and so I cut this picture out of a larger picture and it's Venus
Manifesting yourself in a transcendent space in the sky in the same way that Christ did in the previous
Representation and she has raised coming off her and there's all these men who are Knights
Kneeling in front of the image. Well, what does that mean?
Well, it means that men used the image of female perfection to motivate themselves
And that's exactly right. That's precisely what they do. You see that in the Tom Sawyer's story
so Tom Sawyer is about twelve years old and he's still
hanging around with his friends like Huck Finn and this wood girl moves across the street Becky and she comes out and he's struck by
Her for the first time in his life something's changed
and the first thing he does is hop up on a picket fence and
Show off and balance in front of her and he's saying well look at me look at me
I'm he's like the male bowerbird building something beautiful. So the female will approve of it and it's it's motivation
You know and that's something that I think modern women don't really understand about men. They don't understand that
At least to the degree that males are uncorrupted and not bitter because of being rejected
They're doing everything they can to kneel before the eternal image of the feminine
And try to make themselves worthy that's the chivalry story right that's what you should encourage in your partner
So and so out of chaos emerges this first form. It's the feminine form
It's partly the form that represents novelty as such
so and
and on one hand its promise and the other hand its threat that you wouldn't believe and I don't know because I don't know
I Don't understand the situation with women as well as I understand the situation with men obviously being a man
but I don't know if women have any idea how paralyzing they are to especially young men
A very large number of my clinical clients, but also young men I've talked to in general are absolutely
Terrified of women because they're terrified to be rejected and the terror exists in precise proportion to their attraction to the woman
Which is a horrible paradoxical situation to be in. It's often why
Men make such fools of themselves
in front of women that they're attracted to it's because first of all
They don't see the woman that they're attracted to because what the hell do they know about her?
They don't see her as an individual
they see her as the manifestation of a judgmental ideal
And then it's only in establishing the relationship with the actual woman that they could start differentiating
between the judgmental ideal and the actual individual woman and that also requires a sacrifice and the sacrifice is
You never can have an ideal woman
So to have relationship with any woman
you have to sacrifice the relationship with the ideal woman and you have to see the individual woman
And separate her from the ideal and that's the same thing that happens to the hero in Sleeping Beauty, right?
He sees the Evil Queen who actually turns into the Dragon of Chaos
and it's not until he can defeat her that he
Can establish a relationship with the actual princess and that's exactly the case
I had a one of my clients who ran this men's group which was quite interesting one of the things they had the initiates
Do which was very intelligent was to go out and ask 50 women in one day for their phone numbers
Why?
politely properly
you know it wasn't it wasn't it was a game, but it wasn't a stupid game and
The idea was get over your fear of rejection
And how do you do that by encountering it continually and continually and continually so that you're no longer
paralyzed by this