Mark: Hey, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours and I'm here with a very special expert today.
I've got Laurie Davis Edwards here with me.
It's great to have you here we are talking about five steps to trusting your intuition.
You know, they talk about a woman's intuition and how it is the most powerful, important
thing that you can believe in and it's amazing how often we lose, and us guys do it too - lose
touch with our intuition.
So today, we're going to talk five steps to accessing that.
If you don't know who Laurie is, she is amazing.
She's got an Amazon bestselling book, Love At First Click.
She's been responsible for more than 200 marriages and that's just her own clients.
Been featured on the New York, what was it?
Good morning America, in New York Times, all these amazing publications.
So Laurie, let's get straight into it.
Accessing your intuition.
The first thing it's really about is stopping and being present.
What's a couple of really good ways?
It sounds simple, but this is just, this is the very start of just, you've got to come
into your body and be present with what you're feeling, to know what your intuition is trying
to tell you.
What's a couple of good ways, if for example, you're on a date or if a guy hasn't texted
you back to just start with the presence.
Laurie: So if you're on a date, active listening is the best way, which is basically just like
rephrasing some of what he's saying and reflecting it back to him so that you know, you're really
listening.
Mark: Yeah really processing through it.
Laurie: Instead of like in your head thinking about it.
All right?
Um, and if for example, like you're wondering if he's going to text you back or not and
you're by yourself, um, tuning out any distractions.
So like the TV, the, you know, the scrolling, anything that you're doing to distract yourself
and instead dropping into your body and just meditating for a few minutes
Mark: Getting into that presence.
Yeah.
So once you're in your presence, the second step, and we talked about this a lot before
the video, is to actually know what you're feeling.
Yeah.
Can you explain what you mean by that?
Cause this is super powerful and I've experienced this with clients too.
Laurie: Yeah.
So there's a different, difference between our thoughts and our feelings.
Oftentimes we project our thoughts as our feelings.
We think, um, well I feel like.
Mark: I feel like I should do something.
Laurie: Right, which is like not a feeling.
Right?
A feeling is I'm sad or a feeling is I'm anxious.
Um, and so our feelings live in our bodies.
Um, and so first we need to like get really clear on what's a thought and what's a feeling.
Our feeling is where our intuition comes from.
It does not come from our thoughts or our mind.
It comes from our knowing, which is like part of our molecular structure.
Mark: And it's important.
I don't know if you agree, sometimes a thought, if you're having a negative thought and you're
swimming around your head, that can lead to more disempowering feelings.
So you need to clear the thoughts, clear the feelings, and then it's sort of the feelings
underneath.
It's not the extra ones that come on top,
Laurie: which why like the simple step of being present is so important because like
if there's all this clutter, you can't be clear on what you're actually feeling.
They're distorted.
Mark: Absolutely.
If a woman's out there, if you're out there and you're not sure, is this a thought or
is this a feeling?
Is there a quick test to just be able to tell?
Laurie: Yeah, you can say it to yourself because when you, yeah, I'm feeling X , Y, Z.
And if you're saying like, I'm feeling frustrated that he's not texting me back.
Like, well that's not really the feeling.
The feeling might be like that you're sad he hasn't texted you back.
Right.
Or anger.
Yeah.
Anger is like a really popular feeling that comes up for a lot of my clients.
And when you are, for example, when you're in anger, like you can't be in touch with
your intuition, it blocks it.
Um, that's a blocking feeling.
So, so understanding like the place you're coming from in the moment helps you get in
touch with your intuition or not.
Mark: So the third step is all about listening to your body.
How does a client, or how do you out there go about listening to your body more effectively
so you can know what the feeling is and not block it up with thoughts.
Laurie: Yeah.
So our bodies are where all our emotions are.
Our emotions are actually molecules in our bodies.
Um, that's what they are.
That's what emotions are.
And so, um, so listening to our bodies means dropping into our feelings on even an even,
deeper level.
Um, and when you get quiet and you just like feel sensation, where is that coming up?
What is it like?
Is it a bubbling?
Is it, you know, what does it actually feel like?
And you can even have a conversation with that spot.
Um,
Mark: and that sort of brings us to step four doesn't it?
Is sometimes you actually, and, and I think you and I both do this exercise with our clients
where a client often has to drop in, get to know the feeling, the part of the body that's
talking to them.
Like what's it saying, what's it sound or even look like?
And kind of really making that connection.
Yeah.
What would you, what would you love to add to that?
Laurie: I mean, I, I just love to add that like we're made up of lots of different parts.
There's like our fear part, there's our intuition part, there's our worthiness part.
There's like all these parts and when you talk to a part of your body, what you're actually
doing is talking to a special part of yourself or like a friend.
If we're developing a relationship right, then we're getting to know each other.
Or if I'm avoiding you, then we're not.
So like if I let...
Mark: We're not gonna be close.
Laurie: No, so I can let this like intuition part, wherever it comes up, your third eye
or your stomach, wherever it is.
Um, if we're constantly blocking it, there's no relationship.
If we're talking to it, we're getting to know it, then it's developing.
Mark: And so you'll actually, you'll actually have a client draw this up, have a conversation
with it.
Say, what are you, what are you telling me?
What do I need to hear from you?
That sort of thing?
Like how can someone at home just watching this apply this?
Laurie: You, you could, I mean intuitively, you'll know, right?
Like the uh, you'll know what questions to ask.
But for example, you might ask like, what do you need right now?
Or what's coming up for you?
Or what are you afraid of?
Um, those types of questions.
Mark: Yeah.
And listen to the answers back and get in tune with what your body is telling you.
Laurie: Yes.
Mark: And then the fifth step is sometimes the hardest is to action on it.
Whatever that feeling has come up.
Whatever that conversation you've had with that feeling in your body once you've dropped
into your presence is to be able to action on it.
Why is actioning on it so hard sometimes?
And what can someone out there do, or can you at there do to better action on your intuition?
Laurie: So when I work with my clients, the interesting thing that comes up is that most
of them actually know and they're not doing it.
And so a lot of the like symptoms, you feel the fear, the anxiety, you know, things like
that, it's actually because you're not doing it.
So what's in your way to doing it if you can't action upon it.
And that's the thing to like look at and when you start following that is when you get on
your own right path
Mark: and you do feel so good about it, don't you?
When you start following it, it's just, Oh this is, it takes all this kind of stuff out
of your path and it feels like it's flowing.
It really does feel like a flow.
Laurie, thank you so much for coming in.
You've got an awesome program online.
What was the name of that one?
It's called Abundant Love.
Abundant love.
It's a beautiful program.
We're going to put the link to that in the description below as well.
Do you have any final thoughts before we duck off floor?
Laurie: Yeah, I mean your intuition is not just something to use in your relationships
either, right?
Like we're here talking about relationships and your intuition is one of your greatest
gifts to use in your whole life, in your career, in your friendships and literally your whole
life.
So everything we just taught you apply everywhere.
Mark: Yeah.
Literally go through the five steps, connect with that intuition, action on it, and you're
going to live an abundant life, not just in your romantic relationships but in the rest
of your life as Laurie says as well.
Well, Lori, thank you so much for coming in.
I'd love to hear your thoughts.
When have you found your intuition trusted it and acted on it, and how have you felt
or maybe when have you caught yourself ignoring your intuition and how's that gone?
I'd love to hear your story.
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Laurie, thank you so much for coming in.
We're going to do another video.
Check it out.
It's going to be on the signs that you might be blocking your intuition.
That's going to be a lot of fun, so we'll see you in that video and on other videos
on the channel very soon.
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