Hey it's Brad Browning, here. Relationship coach and author of the Ex Factor Guide.
and this video I'm gonna talk briefly about some text message that you can
send to your ex
to you get them thinking about you again. To rebuild some of the
attraction and eventually hopefully to get back together with them.
Let's talk about...why texting?
I mean, why is texting such an excellent means of communication with your ex if you want
to get them back?
Well for starters, it allows you time to think in advance.
you can plan you text message. You don't have to be put on the spot.
and if your ex responds and you decide
another applies necessary to the response to continue the conversation
again you have time to think about it plan your message and think rationally.
Because of course the last thing you want to be doing is to be talking to your ex in
an irrational state.
Saying things that you're going to regret later, that are going to push your ex even
further away. Also, texting convey the same sort of neediness or desperation that phoning
or in person visits would convey. Because text messages are very casual, simple, no
more than typically a few sentences. It's very casual, doesn't convey neediness the
same that other means of communication do. Also, there's no pressure for your ex to respond
so, you don't want to be pushing your ex into feeling your ex that they need to respond,
so that's another reason why texting is great because it doesn't put any pressure on your
ex. Now, before I go any further, I have to give you a quick warning here. You can't just
send these text messages right now if you're not prepared. If you haven't set the stage,
if your ex is not in the appropriate frame of mind, if you haven't done all the things
leading up to the point where you're ready to send text messages. So if you don't know
what you need to be doing to prepare to get to this point, head over to my website, www.BreakupBrad.com
and watch the free video there. I'll link it at the end of the video. But again, don't
send any of these messages until you're ready, until you set the stage and done all the things
necessary to get your ex to the point where your ex will be receptive to these text messages.
Now first let's talk about the type of text messages you don't want to send. Because that's
very important as well. I mean not every text message is going to be effective. In fact
if you send the wrong text message it's going to have the opposite effect. It's going to
push your ex even further away. So bad texts...typically they're what I call "Pointless Texts"... things
like "hey" "what's up" "how are you?" Things where there's just no sort of interesting
or funny or stimulating element to the text message. Don't send the pointless text. It's
not going to help your cause. Secondly, anything involving relationship, drama, breakup...anything
related to your relationship, don't mention it. Just leave it alone. Your ex doesn't want
to hear about the breakup, they don't want to hear about the relationship. Text messaging
should only be for sending fun, interesting things, that are going to rebuild attraction,
and get your ex thinking about you in a positive way. And of course that also means no drama,
no anger, no conflict. Don't start any arguments. Don't seem depressed, don't show any heartbreak
or emotions. Just text generally only positive things to your ex if you want them back. Now
what about the good text messages? What should you be sending your ex? Well in this video,
well of course there's a lot of good things that you could be texting your ex to get them
thinking about you and stimulate some positive memories about your relationship in your time
together, but I'm going to focus on three specific text messages in this video. The
first one is what I call the shared memory text. Again, as I said, don't be sending this
or any other text I'm going to be talking about until your ex is ready to be receptive
and they're going to have the effect you desire. The shared memory text. What is it? Well it's
where you bring up a shared memory that you and your ex had together. So for example,
you might say something like "Hey, I heard the Foo Fighters were coming to play at the
Macpherson Playhouse, thought I'd just let you know! Hope all is well." Something like
that. Really simple. And that's just basically bringing up a positive memory that you shared
together with your ex so that they're going to think about you and associate you with
that positive memory with you. Now of course you're going to have apply this to your situation
and to your ex but it shouldn't to be too hard to come up with something to say. On
to the second text. And this is what I call the question text. Pretty self explanatory.
Basically you're asking text of your ex to induce a reply and to get them to think about
you the same way that the shared memory text does. Now, what's an example of a question
text? It can't just be any question. You can't just ask them, "Hey do you like cookies?"
Of course they like cookies! What kind of a question would you ask? Well, something
that ideally references a happy memory. For example, "Hey remember that beach we found
last summer? The private cove? Do you remember which exit we took to get there? I want to
take a friend there but I can't remember how to get there." So again, you're bringing up
a positive memory, you're also insinuating that you're going there with a friend, so
there's a little mystery there, maybe it's a member of the opposite sex and you could
be building a little bit of jealousy, what I call Covert Jealousy. And you're also asking
a question so you're going to hopefully get a response. Now you want to make sure you
ask the right question. You want your ex to be able to answer it and you want it to be
meaningful and relevant so it doesn't seem out of place or weird. And finally, the Supportive
Text. Now this is a little different than the previous two tex messages that I've been
talking about. The Supportive Text, what you want to do is send a message that sort of
reminds your ex of something that you did during your relationship regularly, that your
ex really appreciated or was very helpful to them, or supportive. For example, say,
during your relationship, you always helped him or her study for exams in college, so
a text message you might send, a supportive text, would be "Hey I just remembered that
you have that big exam next week. I know you're stressed but I'm sure you'll do great. Good
luck!" Again, the goal here is just to send a subtle reminder of one of the positive things
that you did during your relationship regularly that your ex really enjoyed and appreciated.
Now, I'll say it again I'm sorry to sound repetitive here but you do not want to send
any of these text messages until you've taken the proper steps to set the stage and build
some rapport with your ex and at that point, if your ex is going to be receptive, it will
be incredibly powerful and incredibly receptive. Trust me, I've seen them work hundreds of
times. So, that's about it for this video here. If you do want to see more information
if you want to see more sample text messages, or you want to get to the point where you
actually want to send these text messages and have them be really effective, then just
head over to my website, www.BreakupBrad.com and also please consider subscribing to my
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