- In this video, I'm gonna show you the common habits
of what we consider to be extremely attractive energy.
I'm gonna show you step by step
how you can embody the same energy
so that you get a similar reflection in your life.
Now, the first thing to understand
about extremely attractive energy
is that energy is what is magnetic.
It is energy.
It is not just how you look.
It is not just some status symbol that you might have.
It is energy that is what is attractive.
And if you activate the magnetic energy inside of yourself,
you'll be emanating that out.
And you will literally perceive of a different
reflection in your life because of that.
Now, the first one that all magnetic people
have in common is that of initial belief that they have.
Now understand our beliefs create our reality.
That which we believe to be true
is that which is reflected back to us.
So we perceive of the probabilities in our life
and the synchronicities in our life
that are in direct proportion to what we believe to be true.
Now people that have extremely magnetic
and attractive energy,
there's a initial belief there that says
that they feel worthy.
Now, the thing is,
is if we believe there's something broken about us...
I know for a long time I had shame in my energy field.
I felt like there's something wrong with me.
I'm broken.
And I honestly did not understand,
like when I was dating someone,
I was always trying to prove it to them
that I was good enough.
And one of the reasons being
is I think that was like a residual of childhood energy
that was there from when I was a kid.
And I think a lot of times what happens
is there's a certain moment that happens when we're a kid
where we internalize and we say,
"Oh, there's something wrong with me.
I'm broken."
And that, I think for me came
in a few different times of my childhood.
But one common one that I've seen in a lot of people
is if your parents divorced.
As kids, we internalize everything that happens.
And one of the beliefs we might internalize
when we're young is that if our parents divorced,
we then say, "Oh, there's something wrong with me.
I wasn't good enough for them to stick together.
Maybe if I was just a little bit different,
they wouldn't have actually divorced."
It could have been a mom or dad emotionally disengaged.
They were maybe emotionally unavailable.
And then the choice was made,
either something wrong with me.
I'm not good enough the way that I am.
Or maybe in your childhood growing up, love was conditional.
Love was conditional on you being perfect,
getting straight A's,
you being quiet, seen, and not heard.
All of these things develop a belief
and why you're in a notion that says,
there's something wrong with me.
I am not good enough.
And I can tell when I look back in my journey
of like really working on myself,
that one of the biggest things for me to shed
was that level of shame, that energy of shame
of believing there's something broken about me
because then I would go out into the world
and I would overcompensate to people I was meeting.
I would also develop something that's called needy energy.
People that are magnetic
are void of something called neediness,
because neediness is when we need
someone else's validation or approval,
we are then wanting something from them.
And we are in a way normally trying to manipulate them
into giving us that.
So we're gonna be nice to them,
maybe be a people pleaser, maybe be a nice guy,
and say, "Oh, I'm gonna give you this,
and in exchange, please give me validation or approval."
Just like mom or dad did back in the day.
I'm trying to prove it to them by proving it to you.
So neediness is really also like the kryptonite
to magnetic attractive energy.
And people you will see
that have extremely attractive energy,
they are not needy.
And one of the reasons they're not needy many times
is because as kids, they will not...
Normally, what they've done is they've either grown up
or had a very secure attachment style,
which means mom and dad, they may have been able to give
and receive love easily.
And that's one side of it.
On the other side of it, though,
what it might be is they've worked on themselves
and they've let go of needy energy.
They've realized they are worthy
and that becomes something that's easy for them
to then see a reflection of.
So with this one thing you could do to really in a way
have this energy of feeling worthy
is realize you are worthy for simply being you.
You are not worthy if you do this for a living,
if you express this, if you X, Y, Z.
Simply for being you
and then you could let go of the shame.
The shame, back in the day, was a good...
There was a payoff of holding onto the shame
because if you held onto the shame,
it meant you weren't rejected.
It meant your inner childhood needs were met somehow.
However, the key is to actually meet
your own inner child needs
so that you're not needing it from other people
because that it will repel that of love.
Now that's the first one becoming aware of the shame.
90% of all transformation is awareness.
Now, the second thing you wanna do is,
and the second thing that all extremely attractive people
have in common is that they are the star of their own movie.
Now, what I mean by this is a lot of times
especially with the neediness above
or the neediness in the number one,
is when you want someone else's validation or approval,
you become the cameo and other people's movie.
You become the co-star in other people's movie.
And you're saying, "Oh, I hope this person texts me back.
I hope that they like me.
I hope that they will gimme their number.
I hope, I hope..."
It is an energy of,
they have the power over me.
I'm gonna react to what they're doing.
But one of the things that you'll notice
is that if you take your star role back...
Doesn't mean being a narcissist, by the way,
doesn't mean the world revolves all the way around you.
It just means taking your energy back
and realizing that you can have your own vision in life,
your own purpose in life,
your own direction that you're going in life.
And you can start to then realize
that reality because it changes the reflection.
There's simply been a story that's on autopilot
with your old self.
That story that's been on autopilot
maybe that you subconsciously
are the star of other people's movies,
that you need to make other people happy.
Becoming the star of your own movies,
you ask yourself, what do I want?
What is my vision?
When you go on date...
When you go on a date, imagine asking yourself,
"Ooh, I wonder if this person's gonna like me.
I wonder if I'm gonna be enough for them.
I wonder what I can do to get their approval or validation."
Those are certain questions to ask.
You don't wanna ask those questions.
Those are certain questions many people ask.
What about these questions?
I wonder if this person and I have things in common.
I wonder if we have similar values.
I'm curious if I'm gonna be attracted to this person
or if we have polarity.
Those are very different questions.
Ones are questions of cameos.
The cameo's like, "I hope they like me.
I hope I can be the perfect cameo in their star role movie.
I hope I'll be acceptable and be enough."
And it's like a form of self sabotage.
But then the star may ask themselves a question.
I wonder if we have things in common.
I wonder if we have similar values.
So you want to take your star role back
and become the star of your own movie,
have your own vision,
have your own energy that you're focused
in a certain direction.
And what you really wanna do is you wanna become aware
of what parts of yourself feel like
you need to cater to everyone else in your environment.
What, once again, childhood energy is probably active
that you're replaying, that you could begin to let go of.
So the second one is that you're the star of your own movie.
Now the third common habit
of people that we consider to be extremely habit, ah,
the extremely attractive is that of
extremely attractive people are very much in their bodies.
They're in their own frame of reality.
When you are in your body and you are present,
you have much more magnetic energy.
Now this is what happens a lot of times,
especially, people that goes through spiritual awakening.
What ends up happening is at a certain point in the past,
it wasn't safe to be in their own body.
And what happens is they then started to tune in
to their environment to create safety.
They started tuning to mom, tuning to dad, asking,
"Is it safe?
Is it safe? What can I do to be a chameleon?
What can I do to make everybody else happy?"
And then they leave being present
inside of their own body to make everybody else happy.
So then they developed
this extreme intuitiveness
to be able to connect to the environment
because the environment,
if they could control the environment,
it meant they were safe.
Now, in some ways, I also believe that a lot of times
these people tend to be a little bit more
anxious attachment style,
because one of the parts of anxious attachment style
is that they want and crave love.
So one of the things they'll do
is they'll try to control situations
in order to get their needs met.
And when you don't feel safe in your own body,
you're gonna try to control everybody else
in order to feel safe.
So one of the things that I encourage you to do
is to do a very simple process.
I call this the frame technique.
It's one of the most powerful meditations process
I've ever found for creating magnetic energy
from the inside out.
And it simply involves putting the energy in your hands,
in your feet, and inside your body.
And as you do that and as you start to feel,
you literally start to feel
and you focus on the separation between you and the walls,
you and the candle flame.
Normally, it start with the candle flame.
And what it allows you to do is to feel safe
in your own body.
And as you do that,
you will start to feel it'll be easier to set boundaries.
It'll be easier for you to say no to things
that you don't wanna do.
And you'll notice that what ends up happening
is you have a completely different energy
that you were unleashing within yourself.
Now, realize that being in your frame,
being in your own body
is also a way for you to really ask yourself the question,
what do I want?
When you have trouble setting boundaries
with someone else, you're able to see
that if I set boundaries with them and they don't like it,
that's their stuff, not mine.
Because prior to that,
we look for the validation, the approval in other people
instead of giving it to ourselves
and being present inside our own body.
So being in your body
is one of the most attractive things you can do,
and it's something that changes everything
when you begin to embody it.
Now, the fourth common trait or the common habit
that extremely attractive people have
is simply the power of what is called vulnerability.
The ability to express what you're really feeling,
the ability to express and to put yourself in the unknown
because that's where all magic happens.
If you look at this little chart right here,
we have the old way, the past self,
how we think, feel, and act.
We get an equal to a reality,
the reality that's equal to those beliefs,
and what we are at the energy we are embodying
is being projected out,
and we are perceiving of the probabilities
and possibilities that are equal to it.
Now, what happens is we all have an inner self image
that keeps us inside the familiar emotions of the past.
And when we look at these lower vibrational emotions,
such as shame, fear, guilt, anger,
the key to this is becoming aware of these,
but also aware that a lot of times
it's shame that keeps us in that energy filed
because shame wants to hide in the dark.
A shame is afraid of light being shined on it.
And a lot of times it's also an abandonment wound,
an abandonment wound where mom and dad
physically are emotionally left as kids.
We decided it's not safe.
There's something wrong with me.
I'm going to hold myself in this little box.
And shame grows in the dark,
does not like the light, the light of awareness.
Now the key to bridging from this version of you
to this version of you is two things.
Now notice every moment you're changing,
so quantum physicists have shown us,
every moment you're a new you.
Every moment you're a new you,
every moment you're a new you.
And if you wanna tune to the vibration
of the version of you that has extremely attractive energy,
it's about realizing that version of you already exists.
You don't have to create it.
You just have to energetically tune to it.
And the way you energetically tune to it
is through two different ways.
The first way is something called meditation.
Meditation is a way of becoming familiar with the unknown.
You can become familiar with the old version of you.
Awareness will then begin to take your power back,
but then you become aware of this new version of you,
this new quantum field version of you
that you could begin to energetically tune to
using the power of your imagination.
And you can feel the gratitude.
You can feel the energy as if that is who you are now
in meditation and become familiar with it.
And you can also focus on connecting to your heart field
because the heart energy is thousands of times
more powerful than that of the head energy.
Now, meditation is the first one.
There's meditations you can do
to wire in the energy now to take on the values,
the identity of that version of you,
the behavior of that version of you,
the habits of that version of you.
And as you do this, by the way,
you will perceive of new probabilities and possibilities,
but the key is going into the unknown.
Cuz the known, you'll continue to create
what you always got.
Now, one is a meditation.
That's a way of energetically wiring
and becoming familiar with this version of you.
The second way is something called choice or action,
being this version of you.
And the way that you do that
is by noticing the characteristics in that version of you
and simply making a choice, this is who you are now.
And as you embody that version of you,
you will notice that your outer reality
begins to change. But you can't be doing it by the way
in order to get a new reality,
you have to do it because it's who you are.
Otherwise, it's trying to manipulate.
It's trying to say, "Oh, I'm going to be this way
in order to escape where I'm at,"
which infuses the idea
that where I'm at is not good enough.
Now this version of you though,
the reason I'm sharing all this,
this version of you is more vulnerable.
Vulnerability is shining the light on the shame.
It's shining the light and showing the real you.
It takes vulnerability to go talk
to that person that you're attracted to.
It takes vulnerability to express how you really feel.
It takes vulnerability to end
or to address a relationship that maybe is toxic.
It takes vulnerability and courage to do these things.
But I promise you when you begin to speak
and to express the real you,
you will have a very magnetic energy because it's real.
You're not hiding parts of yourself.
You're not trying to be the people pleaser nice guy
to get your needs met.
You're being the real you.
So one of the things I very much recommend you do
is you wire in this new you
through the power of vulnerability.
Now, by the way,
if you want to create a complete identity shift,
let go of the pathways of thinking, feeling,
and acting the self-subconscious sabotage.
The childhood energy that you may have carried
with you since you were a kid,
that's keeping you kind of locked in those energy patterns.
There's a very powerful way to shift
into being this version of you.
If you haven't seen it yet,
it is this right here.
This is called the magnetic activation process.
There is a step-by-step process
where you literally become this version of you
through addressing, not feeling worthy,
the abandonment wound,
being in your own frame,
developing a vision and actually moving towards that vision,
changing your core values, becoming vulnerable,
and activating it where you...
It's pretty much an energy of letting go
of the heart walls to let in
and activate your heart in a very powerful way.
It's called the magnetic activation process.
If you wanna learn step by step
how to apply what is called the MAP,
the magnetic activation process,
click the link below.
Check it out and you will learn exactly how to do it.
Or you can go to aarondoughty.com/map, M-A-P,
and you can check that out.
Now, the last and final, and one of the most important ways
to habits of extremely magnetic and attractive people
is the energy of playfulness.
It's the energy of having fun.
A lot of times, people that want either validation
or approval or that don't feel attractive,
they've taken everything so damn serious.
It becomes so serious for them to attract love
or it's serious for them to be a certain way.
It's serious and heavy,
and that heavy energy...
Remember, if you wanna have irresistible energy,
you have to let go of the resistance in your body
because people feel what you feel.
And if you feel about yourself,
"I'm not worthy.
There's something wrong with me."
Other people pick up on that energy.
People feel what you feel.
So the key is to let go of that energy
and to become aware of it
and let go of the resistance and enjoy the present moment.
Have more fun in your life.
And so asking yourself the question,
you're going on a date, set the intention to have fun.
When I used to have that nine to five job
to sell women shoes,
if I went in like, "It's very important I sell $5,000 today.
And it's so super important that I do this and do that."
It's super heavy.
If I went in with more of the intention of having fun
and connecting with people, very different energy.
So to have that extremely attractive energy,
have more fun, express the real you, be vulnerable.
Get inside of your body, feel inside your own frame.
As you do that, you will literally emanate more energy.
It's one of the focuses of the MAP, by the way,
the magnetic activation process.
It's also the frame technique,
one of the most powerful magnetizing processes
I've ever found.
You can also focus on letting go of the neediness,
letting go of that energy,
feeling worthy of becoming the star of your own movie.
And as you do that,
that will change absolutely everything about you.
Now, if you wanna learn
the five confident secrets of extremely attractive people,
this video right here
is the next most powerful video to watch
to help you wire all of this in.
People feel what you feel about you.
The energy inside of our bodies are contagious.
And based on how we feel about ourselves,
that energy is being emanated out
and other people are responding to us.