Hi, my name is Paul Friedman. I'm the founder of The Marriage Foundation and
today's topic is "How To Start Communicating In A Broken Marriage" so
let me first let you know that your broken marriage is the problem and
communication is sort of a manifestation of what made it broken. Learning how to
communicate in a broken marriage should be very specifically tailored to making
your marriage whole, to making your marriage filled with love, to making your
marriage beautiful and that's what we're going to focus on. There's the yin and
yang of communication. There is the what makes your communication inviting and
what makes your communication detrimental to the marriage. So, what are
the bad things that are probably happening with your communication right
now? Probably there's criticism, probably there's complaining, probably there's
condemnation, probably there's a lot of selfish communication, "I need this. I want
that" and those are toxins to a marriage. In our world currently, everyone talks
about sharing, I need to be heard, I need to be listened to and all this but those
ideas really don't fit into a healthy happy marriage.
Those are selfish based ideals and the essence of marriage is selflessness so
you have to shift, and why don't you do an experiment for the next three days
just try eliminate all the toxic things from your
communication. Don't criticize, don't condemn, don't complain, don't have
expectations and replace it with loving support, recognition, complements those
kind of things that express love. Appreciation is huge for expressing love
and see what happens. Just in three days and see if your partner doesn't start
responding with more of a lighter demeanor, more openness, a willingness to
communicate and the only thing I ask you is to hold firm to at least three days.
Do not as soon as there's an opening start complaining, as soon as there's an
opening start with your lists of what's wrong.
Don't do that, stick to this because this will work, I
promise you, it'll work and see what happens. Just see what
happens, and let's see if we can't get your broken marriage. Let's see if we
can't get a little light in there so you can see that you have more than just a
little hope for turning your marriage around. Let's try that, okay and let me
know what happens. Put your messages in the comment box below and if you like
this video, if you like this idea, like it. In fact, if you think it's a good idea
share it, share it with your spouse, share it with your friends, and let's give that
a try. Thank you for watching. Blessings to you, blessings to your
spouse, and blessings to your family.