the mysteries of love romance and how
relationships work in general has been
studied by psychologists for years
there have been countless studies
surveys and theories all dedicated to
enlightening us on the matter
in spite of their best efforts it seems
that we're still
generally somewhat clueless when it
comes to matters of the heart
in fact there has been a startling rise
in separation and divorce rates over the
past decade
this has us shaking our heads and
wondering why are modern relationships
so fragile let's try to find some
answers
here are seven key reasons why most
relationships nowadays
fall apart so easily one you're not
ready yet
all too often our relationships dissolve
because you're simply not ready to be in
one
yet maybe your needs at the time are to
keep things casual and fun
not in a state of serious commitment a
strong healthy relationship is all about
positive compromise dedication patience
and sacrifice modern relationships seem
to have a lost sight of that
the unrealistic standards set by
mainstream entertainment and social
media train us to think
that a perfect relationship should be
one where we're always happy
with zero conflict and we're perfectly
matched for our partners we need to
understand that this is like believing
in heavily filtered instagram photos
it's not the real or full picture once
we can accept that we can move forward
towards being ready
two you're too busy to settle down
modern society values success hard work
and accomplishment
so people nowadays have become more
competitive and ambitious than ever
it feels good to be the best in class at
work
being the most popular to be the best
there is a drive to get into prestigious
universities or be promoted to the top
of the corporate ladder
with so many other priorities in your
life romantic relationships may simply
not match in importance
three you're confusing any need for
interaction with the need for romantic
love
what is love really can you define it
can you solidly list out things that
will tell you 100
yes this is love not something else
if you're not totally sure or you found
yourself asking how do i know this is
love
you're not alone and this confusion is
another reason why modern relationships
have become so fragile
maybe what you feel you need isn't
actually love perhaps you're
interpreting your need for excitement or
companionship for romantic love
truth is love isn't always going to be
intense
passionate or exhilarating it's also
about mutual trust
respect and partnership 4.
you want something now not tomorrow
ever heard something like good things
come to those who wait
or even the song you can't hurry love
there's a ring of truth there
a mature healthy strong relationship
requires time to blossom
and room to grow the problem is we live
in an age of instant gratification and
same day shipping
we're not used to or practiced in
patients many of us can relate to the
guilty trait of wanting something
but not wanting to put the time into it
we do the same with relationships
we rush in then rush out when we think
we see something better
shinier and more immediate we're
suddenly treating relationships like a
toy
instead of a treasure 5. you find the
effort to be
too much speaking of immediate
gratification and new toys
ever tried reading a new book or
starting a new hobby and thought why is
this so difficult
don't fret you're normal and fine thank
our modern conveniences for the
frustration
it can be difficult to remember that a
solid lasting relationship
isn't instant ramen it's a gourmet dish
requiring
time and care hitting that first
relationship bump
now results in scrapping it and saying
thank you next
rather than working within building
something with the current partner
the result of this expectation of easy
makes for ingratitude
to what we already have we cheapen love
and become dismissive of the good that
is in front of us
these expectations set us up for a
string of disappointments
6. you're too guarded do you let your
head rule your heart most of the time
do you talk yourself out of the things
that you want and let fears keep you
from being happy when people build too
many walls around themselves it can be
hard to reach them
being 100 clinically logical with
matters of the heart may result in never
truly falling in love
because sometimes love is illogical and
unexplainable
sometimes love means taking a leap of
faith and opening yourself up to someone
wholeheartedly
you need to put aspects like time
distance compatibility or practicality
on the back burner for a bit
and allow yourself the freedom to be
with whomever you want
no matter the first impression problems
or complications
and seven you're too dependent on
technology
last but surely not least being too
dependent on technology
might be one of the key reasons why most
modern relationships don't last
are you wondering if you rely on
technology too much let's try a little
experiment
ask yourself how you'd feel for a full
day without your phone
seriously from the moment you open your
eyes imagine your day step by step
without your phone do you feel a little
uneasy or that something is not right
while technology may have brought us all
closer together
it's also keeping us apart with the
world wide web at your fingertips
you can be so caught up in your virtual
life that you forget to live your real
one
texts chats and voice calls have
replaced physical quality time with the
ones we love
when your whole life is already
chronicled in an instagram story or a
twitter thread
it can leave us with very little to talk
about as you can see
there are a number of reasons why modern
day relationships may be struggling to
survive
and thrive and these are just a few of
the most likely ones
we forget all too often to make time for
love in our lives
relationships are now treated as nothing
more than a casual convenience
societal influences have molded us to
want immediate gratification
with as many different options as
possible the truth is
love never comes easy and no great
relationship happens overnight
manage your expectations discuss and
work with your partner
spend more time on what's truly
important to you and be grateful for all
the people in your life who love you
did this touch a note with you do you
see yourself or others around you in any
of these situations
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great laozi once said
being deeply loved by someone gives you
strength while loving someone deeply
gives you courage
have strength and be courageous my
friends see you next time
you