Hi everyone, this is Klaus.
We have all been in an argument with someone in our daily life,
with parents, friends, lovers, colleagues, and even strangers.
There are many reasons for quarreling,
conflicts of interest, emotional entanglements, suppressed anger, or simply blind hatred, etc.
Of course, we need to analyze on a case-by-case basis.
But today let's talk about arguing from an objective theoretical point of view.
Let's look at one of the most common reasons why people argue.
In this video, let's look at arguing from a purely objective and logical standpoint.
This video is suitable for all viewers. I hope you like it.
There is a classic case study in the psychology of love,
which advocates mutual understanding between lovers.
But I have a different interpretation.
The story goes like this.
The girl blames her boyfriend,
"Why don't you love me so much as before, like when you wooed me?
You said I looked good in everything, and you would like me no matter what.
You would buy me delicious food every day.
Now I lie in bed every day and I eat as much as I want.
But now you despise me. You have changed.
You men are all jerks and liars."
Why do girls say men are all jerks and liars?
Because they are good at lying.
Becase they say one thing but do another.
What the girl in the story sounds right at first.
Indeed, the boyfriend didn't keep his promise.
But the way I see it, love is conditional.
The condition is that people are realistic and subject to change.
In a relationship, this condition must be respected
if lovers want to maintain their relationship.
I believe everyone has seen prank videos
where people use money to buy somebody's boyfriend or girlfriend.
Let's watch this such a video together.
A guy uses a lot of cash to buy someone else’s wife.
In the beginning, he offers to buy one night with someone's girlfriend for 10,000 dollars.
The couple hesitated, but in the end they refused.
Then the host offers a hundred thousand dollars.
Then this happened...
Eventually, the girl leaves with the host and husband goes home with the cash.
What I want to express is,
love is conditional, even though everyone’s condition is different.
Of course, some people say that maternal love is unconditional.
I don’t want to refute this directly.
But strictly speaking, blood relationship is also a condition.
If you are not her biological child, then the love will be questionable.
Actually, everything is conditional.
From a macro perspective, in space physics, the existence of all matter in the universe is conditional.
Matter and ant-imatter did not annihilate each other under very special conditions,
so the universe can exist.
This is also true for a viewpoint.
All opinions and theories are based on certain conditions.
When two people argue about something,
one party’s misunderstanding of the other is often caused by ignoring the conditions
on which the other’s views are based.
If you ignore the conditions on which the opponent's opinions are based,
then everything can be refuted.
For example, if I say an elephant is bigger than an ant,
then you can refute that by saying on a certain alien planet ants are bigger than elephants,
or that a scientist has created a giant ant using DNA technology.
When we say that elephants are bigger than ants,
we mean "generally speaking", "under normal circumstances", "on earth", or "in most cases".
But we don't mention those conditions in every sentence.
That would be exhausting. Also, sometimes those conditions may not apply in specific situations.
Sometimes it’s not so easy to express the conditions in detail.
There will be exceptions to any statement taken out of context.
Even if you do consider the context, it’s impossible to consider all the angles
to make your point of view seamless and airtight.
So theoretically, all opinions and theories can be refuted,
including what I am saying now.
In our daily life, sometimes we express our views,
somebody can always nitpick.
In other words, we come across haters.
"Why do you refute whatever I say?
You stupid hater."
We define haters as those ignoring the conditions on which our opinion is based.
Having understood this truth, when we come across haters,
we will have to pay attention to our choice of words and not give them a chance to nitpick.
On the other hand, in this day and age of the Internet,
there is a group of trolls (Wumao) online whose job is to attack people.
As long as you have a different opinion,
they will ignore conditions of your statements and refute whatever you say.
Think of that prank video we saw earlier.
If I say love is great, you can easily attack me.
You can just throw that video at me, and say, "Do you still believe love is great?
Love eventually lost to $100,000."
The thing is, when I say love is great,
which everyone is willing to accept,
generally, no one will refute my statement.
But sometimes, when you say something that others don’t want to accept,
whether what you say is true or not won't matter.
That person is bound to attack you because of your different stances.
Thus, there is no need to prove the authenticity of your statement.
Everything taken out of context can be refuted. Remember?
You can't win against trolls.
We should avoid those people,
and not waste time and energy on unnecessary quarrels.
It is their job to make you feel bad.
Their job is to refute you by taking your words out of context.
Quite often, they do it on purpose just to get a reaction out of you.
They want me to sink to their level.
I just want to say that good people don’t argue, and that gentlemen don’t compete with villains.
OK. Thank you for listening, everybody.
Time to hear your comments.
In our last video, we talked about four simple and practical ways to convince Chinese mainlanders.
There are still many people who say that logic is useless,
and that Little Pinks won’t listen.
This makes Klaus very sad.
With one sentence, you have denied the value of Klaus' hard work.
Regarding the value of our channel, watch our promo video.
Actually, as mentioned above, some people get paid for attacking you.
Of course, what you say doesn't matter to them.
But those trolls are not our target audience.
Of course, it can be pretty fun to argue with them if you are bored.
Tens of millions of Chinese people use VPNs.
Many people are looking for the truth.
I believe a lot of them, unlike Little Pinks, are merely confused and searching for answers.
They want to hear the truth.
Also, a great number of our viewers used to be Little Pinks.
Some netizens said that China had been growing rapidly these years,
and that the number of overseas students returning to China had increased.
A big THANK YOU to netizen Fion Zou for his comment.
International students returning to China is a very interesting topic.
Let me analyze it here.
Indeed, many Chinese students have gone back home in recent years.
News reports even show that students who have studied abroad are no longer popular in China.
First, there's been more returning students mainly because there's been more students going abroad.
The number of Chinese students studying abroad has increased sixfold in the past decade.
There are more international students, so naturally there are more returning after graduation.
Second, Western countries have tightened their work visa policies.
In recent years, getting work visas in the US has been like winning the lottery.
After Trump took office, he tightened the policy on the hiring of foreigners in companies.
British international students used to have a two-year post-study work visa.
This policy was cancelled in 2012 and now they have to leave after graduation.
In addition, let me talk about what I know.
The Chinese lack universal values under the influence of the communist regime,
making it hard for them to accept foreign cultures. Chinese students studying abroad
tend to live with people of their cultural group.
They usually stay with their fellow Chinese students and will not make foreign friends.
Chinese graduates unable to speak English well are not uncommon.
About the work visa "lottery" policy,
I saw many people, who weren't able to get a work visa, getting on an airplane in tears.
Of course, some people left the US because they wanted to.
I'm sure everyone is happy about that.
In our last episode, we said that Putin had always been president of Russia.
Some netizens asked about this.
Let me add that Putin also served as prime minister just to avoid suspicion.
But he has always been the one with de facto power.
Netizen Lin Sen said that we should introduce democratic ideas to people around us
by starting with their own interests.
True. What we say would resonate with them more easily.
This netizen seemed to have used his real name. I will hide it.
He shared a story about his failure to awaken his girlfriend.
This is really a sad story.
We are very sad already for being Chinese.
Now love can even be affected by politics. What can we do?
You shouldn't reason with women at all.
Netizen Vincent Wang made a brilliant comment,
which inspired me to write a tweet.
Chinese people kneel and beg for rights while Hong Kong people stand up for rights.
Those who say that the US is not good,
please show me a picture of Americans kneeling in front of the goverment building.
Finally, netizen Mingming Haha summarized the reality of China.
Some vulgar language was used. Those interested can pause the video and have a read.
Alright, that's it for this video.
Thank you so much for your comments.
This is Klaus. See you next time.