- Friends don't talk about it.
Your friends not going to be like,
well, when you come home from the hospital,
you're going to need something to spray it
because you don't wipe.
Hey guys, my name's Sheila.
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Today, I want to talk to you
about what happens after you give birth,
and specifically the week after.
I want to say, like, nobody talks about this,
but actually a lot of people are talking about this.
Friends don't talk about it.
Your friends not going to be like,
well, when you come home from the hospital,
you're going to need something to spray it
because you don't wipe.
But if you go on YouTube, you can find lots of resources.
People have been asking me for this.
And I was like, I swear I did a video on this.
And then I found it on my computer hard drive,
not edited on YouTube.
So I was like, well it's about time,
I'm only eight months postpartum.
The problem though, with figuring out what to do
after is you don't know what's going to happen.
During labor, the recovery process
is going to have a lot to do with like, what happens.
Maybe you have no tear.
Maybe you have a fourth degree tear.
Maybe you have a C-section.
Maybe those are all the options.
This video specifically is for you
if you have a vaginal birth.
I honestly don't know what happens,
how you heal if you have a C-section.
I filmed this video shortly after I gave birth
which I'm glad that I did because a lot of stuff was fresh.
And I still had some examples that I had from the hospital.
Sometimes if you get pregnant your skin,
I can't remember what it's called,
I want to call it meligma, melasma,
I don't know what it's called
but basically where you get like blotchy skin.
It kind of looks like I have a five o'clock shadow
on my upper lip, it just like was patchy.
Let's watch what I made after I gave birth
and I hope this is super helpful.
Today we're talking about, very specifically,
the mom things that happen after you give birth.
I feel like this is something that nobody talks about.
They're just like take all the things from the hospital.
When you deliver it, you might not tear
or you're maybe come up with her hand by her head like this
and you could have a good, nice tear.
One thing that might be helpful
for you to hear that was helpful for me to hear.
And my midwife was like, what I find mostly
is that women don't know
because there's so much pressure going on
that they don't feel that, I didn't.
All right, so let's just get into the things that you need.
This, I set up in both bathrooms.
I've got a bathroom upstairs in the bathroom downstairs.
Let me clarify, Seth set up the stations in both bathrooms.
So glad I had a baby with this man.
Literally you're changing your baby's diapers
and then you're changing your own diapers.
And I bought like, Depends,
which a lot of people swore by, never wore them.
there's a company called Frida Mom,
not affiliated with them, I wish I was.
They created a bunch of postpartum things for recovery.
Highly recommend the Frida Mom kit.
There's a $100 one and there's a $50 one.
The $100 comes with like a hospital gown to wear.
I actually really liked that
and then slippers that are non-slip.
So like things for the hospital.
$50 one is just the stuff you need at home.
Buy that, buy it, please buy it.
You will be so happy that you have it.
So let me go through what you need to do with your diaper.
So to start, you're not supposed to wipe.
The hospital gives you this, supposed to spray it up.
So this is very difficult
because you kind of have to do one of these.
Frida Mom made this guy.
(popping)
Hello, this is amazing.
You just spray yourself off, done.
This is worth it.
If you're not going to buy the kit, buy this.
I intentionally did not use this
because I wanted to show you it.
This is the pad that they give you in the hospital.
Oh my God, this is a diaper, this is huge.
You have these mesh boy shorts basically,
and then you put this in your boy shorts
then witch hazel rounds, and you can buy those at Target.
And you would put two of them
or three of them in your diaper.
Then, lidocaine, which is a numbing cream.
And you would do a strip of lidocaine on the witch hazel.
Then you try and lift all this up
without having one of the rounds fall on the floor.
If it falls on the floor,
it's dead to you, do not pick it up, start over.
Pro tip, grab the front of your mesh boy shorts
and the back of your mesh boy shorts and pull them up
because that will keep this sitting nicely
and you won't lose your witch hazel pads.
As time progresses, you can move on to like a littler pad.
I just remember coming home to these
tiny pads and being like, you don't need the night ones,
I was getting the ones that were super long.
You didn't need that,
you just needed it to be more than this.
Eventually you can move to this.
This is from Freedom Moma too,
this is witch hazel foaming spray.
So instead of the witch hazel pads, you just do this spray.
Also has this liner instead of the rounds,
it's just one strip.
It kind of looks like a baby wipe.
You just put it in your diaper.
You also want a pad sickle,
and it's exactly as it sounds it's a pad icicle.
Frida Mom has one where you crack it
And it like freezes like the glow sticks,
have to break them and then it works
and you stick the whole thing in your underwear.
It's huge, worth it, but if you just want to do
some DIY pad sickles,
you will buy witch hazel, get your pads.
You open up the pads, you put the witch hazel
on the pad and then you stack them
in a Ziploc bag and put them in your freezer.
And I was like, but it's not going to absorb any liquid.
Like it's not going to absorb any blood.
Well, yes it will.
And I thought everything would get wet, nothing gets wet.
There's not that much liquid for it
to like melt and get a wet pad sickle.
During this time where you're changing
all of your diapers, is the most stressful time.
Please know that you will get through it.
We have all gotten through it.
If you are seriously depressed
or you're having postpartum depression
or postpartum anxiety,
your hormones are doing some insane things, it's okay.
Please go talk to someone.
If you're getting baby blues, roll through them.
It's again, your hormones.
If you're completely elated and so happy to have your baby,
don't feel bad about that either.
You can be happy, you can be sad,
but I just remember it was really difficult
because I was like, it's going to take me 20 minutes
to go to the bathroom.
The baby's crying, I know she's hungry.
I've got laundry to do, I'm hungry.
I need to make myself some food.
It's chaotic, day by day, moment by moment.
My thing was, I have bad moments, not bad days.
One day could be absolutely terrible.
Tomorrow could be better.
The next day could be an absolute dream.
Tomorrow could be worse and just ride it out.
First six weeks for me, were just complete insanity
but here we are on the other side.
I talk a lot about the Frida Mom kit.
I think that the Frida Mom kit honestly, is really good.
It's like a starter kit.
When you don't really know what you need
you can just buy that.
Once you run out of those things
you can go buy the things that you still need.
I put mine on my baby registry
and got it for my baby registry.
I just had a friend message me like,
hey, my friend just gave birth, what's a good gift?
This would be a great gift to give somebody
that just got home from the hospital, like day of.
And Door Dash gift cards.
I got Door Dash gift cards.
This is the greatest gift in the whole wide world.
One thing that I like I want to more exaggeratedly
talk about, is stool softeners.
Like I would say air on on taking your stool softener
longer than you need to,
instead of letting go of it before you need to.
Because I cried the day that I was like, I think I'm good.
I wasn't good, I was not good, I couldn't sit down.
Just take them longer than you need to.
Also, the whole like what to bring to a hospital bag.
Yeah, there's things that are nice to have.
Pack like you're going somewhere
for two days and then add snacks.
The hospital gives you everything else that you need
and wear sweatpants out because I was like,
well what yoga pants will I wear after I give birth?
My friend was like, you're going to be in a diaper,
just bring sweats, that's good to know.
And then lastly, I also want to mention,
Expecting Empowered is the guide that I used for pregnancy,
for working out and postpartum.
And it starts day one after postpartum.
It's not just about working out.
Yes, you get to work out but like the first six weeks
is just pelvic floor exercises and stretching and that's it.
And it's just so that you can like stop your pee.
I have a discount code, HEYSHAYLA.
I am an ambassador with them.
I'm really, really, really,
really glad that I had the postpartum.
And then on my blog, I also go into some things
that you need for breastfeeding.
So if you're interested in that, go check out my blog.
You can just type in, Hey Shayla breastfeeding.
And it should come up.
If you think I missed something, or like if your hospital
didn't give you these things
or you found the Frida Mom kit help or not helpful,
to put those in the comments below,
I'd love to hear other people's advice.
Thank you guys so much for watching.
I will see you guys all next time, bye.