What's up everyone? This is Charlie from Charisma on Command and today I'm going to be doing
a video breakdown on group dynamics and the person of focus on here is going to be primarily
Will Smith. Now, I will say, I'm gonna have to play this clip a number of times, because
in group dynamics so much is occurring at the same time and it occurs very, very quickly
so it can be hard to perceive what's happening. But honestly, this still that I'm going to
start with is a great example because the first thing to notice is that throughout this
entire breakdown, you'll see that Will Smith is the most enthusiastic supporter and the
biggest laugher at just about any joke that anyone makes. He's not faking it. He's genuinely
just really finds everything they say humorous. So what this does in a group context is it
makes him a force, it makes him someone that you notice even when he is not speaking. So
I'm just gonna show you that pretty quickly to start.
So there you go. There's a quick example. You'll see more of it. Coming up next, Jaden
and Will and maybe even Heather Graham, are all gonna try to sort of speak at the same
time. And this is common. Somebody starts telling a story, people like "Oh, my god,
that reminds me of..." or "Yeah, yeah, yeah." The difference in how they do it is that Will
Smith finishes his sentence, even though he is not ultimately being the one who continues
to tell a story or share his point of view. Jaden, like raise his hands in the air, tries
to say what he's gonna say, but does it quietly enough and with not enough conviction, that
he pauses halfway through his sentence and just sits there defeated. So watch this.
I wanna play that again, alright? If you watched Will that time, watch Jaden. If you watched
Jaden, watch Will this time. Will is going to finish his sentence and then allow Bradley
to continue to speak. Jaden says a phrase and then gets cut off, holds his hands in
the air and then just like flops them down.
There you go, right? So that is one big thing. Will says, Will says "That will get you really
humble really quickly" and it's clear that Bradley still has more to say so he allows
him to continue. Jaden tries to get in there and instead of finishing his sentence and
then sort of saying, "Oh, no. Go ahead" he just gets caught halfway through between what
he's saying. And so right now, he feels interrupted. He feels like he's not supposed to be speaking.
He feels silly like people have caught him. So watch the difference in how they active
listen in going forward.
Jaden stays really quiet because he's been burned once trying to speak and Will on the
other hand, is actively listening. He's saying "Yeah" encouraging, which opens up, opens
the door for him to jump in at the end and make a big joke.
So, you hear Will Smith "Yeah, yes." And now he's going to speak loudly coz he has something
to say and he sees that there's sort of a scene in the conversation. People are trying
to figure out where to go next.
I wanna play that again because there are a number of people vying to speak at that time
and Will Smith has just decided that he is going to crack his joke.
That is all volume. I wanna play it one more time at the risk of being redundant. Watch
Bradley Cooper's and Heather Graham's head like pop up as Will just continues talking
in a loud tone of voice.
So there you go and again, Will Smith right here laughing super loud at the end of this.
All of this is to say that when you are in a group conversation. One of the biggest things
you can do is laugh loudly, speak loudly because what happens with a lot of people as they
find themselves getting cut off and do not know how to fit into a conversation. Now,
that does not mean that you can dominate over other people. And what we're gonna see here
is what happens when somebody else is actually telling something, Will Smith starts to speak
and then gets cut off. But he does it in a way that you'll see is gonna be much more
charismatic.
Worth highlighting again, biggest laugher.
So everybody starts speaking at once, right? Will starting to say something but now people
ask him and address him a question. This is why he gets interrupted because three people
are looking at him and go "Have you ever worn a half shirt?"
So this isn't much different than when we see Jaden get interrupted earlier, so play
it back again.
A lot of people chiming in there but because he is the loudest, and when he's interrupted,
it's not just other people talking, it's them addressing a question to him, which is why
he does get interrupted there. So I want to continue now and show another clip of, sort
of a free for all, if you will. Everybody is talking at the same time. How does it come
down?
So here's the thing, if you watch all these clips, Will Smith is a very dominant and domineering
force in these conversations, right? You might think, "Holy cow, I don't wanna be in a room
with him because I can't even speak." The way that he gets away with it, if you will,
and he's actually seen it, people love it, to interact with him is because: One, when
he does interject, he's doing it from a high energy playful mood, right? And what he has
to say is almost always more fun and funny to engage with than what other people are
saying. So that's gonna be extremely important. The other thing is that he is extremely supportive
of others when they tell their stories and when they make their jokes. So, he's getting
a lot of brownie points, if you will, while Bradley Cooper is talking or while Heather
Graham is talking coz he's so... He laughs so loud. He's so supportive. He claps his
hands. He says "That's amazing. That's awesome" so that when he does interrupt, it's not like,
"Who is this guy coming out of nowhere trying to talk the whole time?" He's been an active
supporter of everything that they've said.
So I'll play this part one last time, which is just... Jaden faces Bradley Cooper and
he starts asking him a question but Will just sticks to what he's saying, says it twice
so he gets the attention and then continues loudly to make his joke.
And then some call back humor there at the end from the story that Heather told earlier.
So that is a lot in a short period of time. I hope this has been helpful. If you like
this stuff let me know on the comments. Subscribe. I'll do more of them but that is going to
be it for today.
I'm Charlie from Charisma on Command and I will see you later.