in this video you will learn five things that you can do right now that will get
your man addicted to you that's right five psychologically based tips that
will have him thinking about you constantly
and craving to spend as much time with you as possible don't go anywhere
because we're starting right now
hi everyone I'm Dr. Antonio Borrello and I'm a psychologist and a relationship
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addicted to you when you're excited about a new person that you really like
it's an amazing feeling you find yourself thinking about him a lot
you catch yourself daydreaming about the time you spent together and replaying
all the cute things that happened and you imagine and visualize what the next
date will be like or you simply wonder about him and what he's doing and it
keeps happening all day every few minutes you're reminded of him and you
have a smile on your face you're thinking about him craving him and can't
wait until the next time you see or talk to him it's almost like you have a
natural addiction to him and that's because of what happens to your brain
when you're falling in love see romantic love is very much a natural addiction
when we are in love with the person we are chemically addicted to that person
in fact falling in love has similar effects on the brain as cocaine does on
the brains of a user so when we are falling in love we experience the same
types of cravings and yearning that and addict Fields when they are addicted to
a substance now psychologists and behavioral
scientists have studied the addiction process for decades and we know a lot
about how people become addicted and the good news I'm going to show you exactly
how to use this information to make your man think about you crave you and become
addicted to you but before we can get into that I need you to understand two
things first these are not tips that I made up these are tips that are based on
theories of behavioral psychology and motivation and they really do work and
secondly these tips are powerful but they're not magical these tips aren't
going to make an uninterested man suddenly addicted to you but if he was
initially attracted to you at some point these tips will certainly piqued his
curiosity and get him thinking about you and craving you like never before that's
for sure so without further ado here's number one number one always leave him
wanting more whether you're on a date with him or on
the phone with him or texting him you have to leave him wanting more of you
90% of the time again if you want him to become addicted to you regardless of how
much fun you're having or how connected you're feeling you have to end your
dates your conversations and your experiences early and leave him wanting
more you must resist the urge to follow the date or experience or conversation
through to its natural progression you have to be the one who ends things on a
high note and leave him wanting more so just when things are going well
just when you're feeling the chemistry just when you are wishing that this date
would never end yeah that's when you have to say that
you're getting tired or you have someplace to be or some other excuse to
end the evening the point is to end the date before it gets to the fizzle point
even if you could talk all night you need to resist so leave after a
couple of hours and at that particular moment when he feels the most confident
that the date is going well this will make him remember the date more fondly
and it shifts the power directly to you and creates the craving part in him
trust me this is super difficult to do but it's also the most powerful number
to be the woman he can't get enough of now what do I mean by that well simply
put when you're with him you're going to create a vibe that makes him feel
amazing when you're with him he's going to be feeling happy and on top of the
world and you're going to be the person he wants to be with the most so you must
create that dynamic that vibe that he can't get anywhere else and you create
that by doing three things every time you're together the first thing every
time you're with him and ideally in the beginning parts of your date you're
going to connect with him by using his name along with positive words of praise
and admiration that's right you're going to say his first name when you're
talking to him the reason our brains involuntarily respond to the sound of
our own names and this has been demonstrated in countless studies just
do a google search on it and you'll see hearing your own name causes your brain
to react as if you're engaging in the behaviors and thought pattern that serve
as some part of your core identity and personality markers and when you
that's his name with words of admiration and appreciation it will make him feel
great it will make him feel appreciated in a way that has a profound effect on
his feelings for you the second thing give him the look of love through
prolonged eye contact so while he's talking to you
while you're doing whatever it is you're doing together I want you to look deeply
into his eyes and think about how much you want him think about how attracted
you are to him and hold that stare give him your most seductive look because
prolonged eye contact or gazing into someone's eyes increases attraction I've
talked about this in previous videos your eyes are the windows to the soul
your eyes are the windows to your heart and when it comes to falling in love how
you communicate with your eyes can make all the difference
that's because prolonged eye contact can cause two people to feel attraction
towards one another so again make sure you are making that connection with him
through the eyes and again feel those feelings when you're looking at him and
the third thing smile when you're around him smiling makes everyone look more
attractive and approachable because it conveys expressions of joy and happiness
and when you're smiling in response to seeing someone it makes them feel like
you're smiling because of them so when you're with your man and especially when
you are first greeting each other make sure you give him a genuine smile and
maintain that eye contact so using his name giving him the look of love and
smiling and expressing happiness aren't three simple things but make no mistake
about it using them together is super powerful and will make him feel like no
one else can so make sure you use these number three very the timing of your
responses to text messages varying the timing of your responses is based on the
concept of variable interval reinforcement schedule in psychology a
variable interval reinforcement schedule is a powerful operant conditioning tool
used to shape behavior and learning so let me explain operant conditioning is a
learning process through which the strength of a behavior is modified by
reinforcement or punishment think of how you train a puppy to learn a trick you
give him an instruction he performs the trip and you reward him with the treat
but if you stop giving the puppy a treat after he performs a trip he will
eventually performing the trick that makes sense
right now taking this a step further behavioral psychologists know that
changing the rate or time interval of giving a reinforcement has powerful
effects on maintaining the desired behavior for example if you're gambling
and playing a slot machine sometimes you win sometimes you don't but you know for
sure that if you keep playing you will eventually win a person playing a slot
machine will continue putting money into the slot machine because she never knows
when the next reinforcement is coming she keeps thinking that with the next
quarter she could win $50 or $100 or even more so people keep trying and
hoping that the next time they will win big this is one of the reasons that
gambling is so addictive and so resistant to extinction now back to your
texting in plain English once you've established that he's interested and
you've also shown him that you're interested you're going to vary the
amount of time it takes you to respond to his text messages simply put when he
texts you sometimes you will respond within seconds sometimes within minutes
sometimes within hours and sometimes you might even forget to respond and when
you do that he is going to keep checking his phone to see if you responded and
that means that he's also going to be thinking of you and when you do respond
he's going to be excited to read it and he's going to get a hit of dopamine as
part of that reward and that just reinforces his behavior and motivation
for you even more think about what happens when you are interested in a guy
and you text him and sometimes he responds right away sometimes it takes
him 30 minutes and sometimes it takes him hours when he doesn't respond right
away what does it do to you well if you like him you are probably wondering what
he's doing is he busy is he working is he away from his phone did he forget
about me am i right I mean I know I've been there before but does it make you
like him any less or does it simply cause you to think about him more
doesn't it make you check your phone more and think about what he's doing it
sure does so vary the rate in which you respond
and try to make it as random as possible again sometimes you respond immediately
sometimes within minutes sometimes with an hour
yes sometimes I want you to not respond especially if he didn't ask a specific
question of course if he double texts you then you need to respond and tell
him that you forgot number four allow him to pursue you too often women flip
the switch and start pursuing a man rather than leaning back and allowing
him to pursue her and when this happens he no longer has to exert any effort to
prove he's worthy of you remember people appreciate and value the things that
they have to work hard for if you give him all of your affection and time and
attention in the beginning what does he have to work hard for he doesn't and
consequently you lose value and his attraction for you goes down so you have
to stop pursuing him that means that you have to stop texting him between dates
and you cannot be initiating communications with him instead you must
let him do it look I know that this one is a difficult one to do because you'd
like him you miss him and you want to talk to him it's hard not to reach out
because you want to be connected and communicating but if you want a man to
really want you you must pull away and allow him to miss you allow him to
pursue you he's a man and he needs to do that
number five have no expectations I know it's difficult to not think about the
future when you really like someone at the same time it's important to tame
your expectations before you've really gotten to know someone so take any
expectations out of your mind because when you make something a goal two
things happen first you start planning and living in the future and then you
constantly measure your progress towards that goal and secondly when you start
thinking of this new person as the one you will start daydreaming and
romanticizing a relationship that doesn't even exist yet
and may never exist so instead of being able to be present and engaged in this
moment you're stuck in a future where you're assuming so much you're
daydreaming and fantasizing of all the amazing times that you'll share and that
causes you to elevate the importance of this relationship a great deal and when
you put too much into this outcome you become too invested in a future that you
can't control and that causes anxiety when you really like someone when you
really want someone the stakes are higher the
level of importance you attach to that person is higher and your level of
anxiety and fear of losing that person goes way up and when that happens any
insecurities that you may have about the relationship manifests in your
interactions with him and guess what happens he feels it he notices those
insecurities and it lowers your value in his eyes and makes you seem needy or
clingy or even desperate and then before you know it he's running for the hills
and that's when you realize that you're dealing with the pain and frustration of
unrequited love I've made a video that explains how to deal with these very
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