Hey there it's Kati again
thanks for checking back in
today I'd like to give you another tip
and I know I've been giving you quite a few tips lately but
I want you to go grab your journal
like I always say
that stupid journal
that you should be writing in
I want to grab it
so that you can jot down a few things so that when you
have that time in the middle of the night maybe you can't sleep
or you get home from work and you have a little bit of down time and you kind of feel like venting
or
just talking
to yourself
you have the journal ready and you have these notes of what to do
todays tip
is to accept things that are less than perfect
I know, that's a hard one
you probably can't imagine doing that at all
and that's why it's one of those things that we are going to have to continually work on
and that's why you're writing it in your journal
because I don't expect you
to take this home finish it in one night and bring it back to me
look I finished my homework no that
that would actually be the
opposite of what i'm trying to get you to do, I don't want perfection
I don't expect it
that's what creates all the judgment that we give ourselves is this
need for perfection in everything we do and it's overwhelming
so grab that journal
and jot this down
I'm going to accept things that are less than perfect
so we don't believe it yet
but it's there, it's a work in progress
the next thing I like you to do
is when you have that moment
write down the things that
have to be perfect all the time
I know there's tons of them
homework assignments if any of us are still in school, homework,
test grades
I need my teacher to always like me
I need my clothes to be color
coded possibly I need them to be folded perfectly
I need my house to be perfectly clean
I need to do all of that, I need I need I need I should I should I should
we have so much of that going on all day
it's no wonder we can't even hear our own
voice our own
real self because it's
smothered in perfection
how many I need to only eat this many calories and work out this many times
otherwise my life isn't perfect and things are falling
Ahh! we freak out
Right? We need to breathe we
need to relax
as you think of those things
start writing them down we're making a long list
no one's judging you on how long your list is
many of us probably have really long lists if any of you only have like two items
that's just not fair
what things do we need to keep
perfect
and one by one
as we work together
I want to cross some of those off
just one by one
when I say cross them off
I want you to put maybe a check mark by them
and the date
tomorrow
I won't worry about my hair being perfect
maybe I'll wear it in a pony-tail
maybe I won't even wash it
horrible right?
overwhelming
my world's gonna fall, it won't I promise you
that's the thing I always tell clients when they come in my office
one thing I can tell you
is that when you start to let go of these things that
you feel keep you so together
you'll finally feel free
I know it sounds crazy
you think these are keeping everything perfect
It's actually creating chaos in your life
so one-by-one we will try to get rid of them
and one thing I would love from all of you
is as you make leaps and bounds and even just little
steps forward
write it below I know usually I ask for just your comments but it's not just comments
I would love this to be a place where we support each other and we tell the
great things we're doing, Oh my gosh yesterday I went without any makeup on I wore my pajamas
I went to
the post office I did this, that would be great to hear and say that was a big deal
to me I got to mark that off my list
that would be wonderful we can send supportive messages back you can send out
tweets about it
whatever you'd like to do
let's share in the positive growth right
because I know
that in one day
we're not going to be okay with imperfection
things being less than perfect isn't gonna be okay
and I don't expect that
things aren't black-and-white
I know in the eating disorder world everything's black and white
I either have a really good day and I did exactly what I was supposed to do or I had a
really bad day
and there's no in between
I'm asking you be a little gray area with me
so make that list
and we'll start checking things off
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and we will continue one baby step at a time to healthy mind and a healthy body