- One of the number one signs
that you may be absorbing other people's energy
is that you have many friends
that come to you
when they are going through things in their life.
Maybe they just went through a breakup.
Maybe they lost their job.
Maybe they're coming to you for advice.
That normally is a sign that you may be somebody
that is able to hold space,
but also you absorb people's energies.
So they feel a relief when they come around you,
because in a way you've taken on some of that energy.
I know that for me, for a long time,
I was that person in the friend group
that everybody would go to because I would not just listen,
but I would like kind of take it on
and they would feel lighter.
But then I would feel much more like I absorbed that energy.
Now, there was one thing that changed everything with this.
It was a technique
that I learned from my shadow work integration coach,
somebody that has a double PhD in psychology,
(indistinct) union psychology.
And it has completely transformed my entire life.
It is easy for me to set boundaries.
I have magnetic energy
to where I'm not like seeking from other people.
I don't feel needy or like I have to please others.
I've been able to let go of the nice guy complex
and more so be the most authentic version of myself.
In this video, I'm gonna share with you
that exact technique,
how you can use it and how it will actually change yo life.
Welcome back to the video.
My name is Aaron
and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now, in this video,
I'm going to be sharing with you
the frame technique,
how applying this will absolutely transform your life
and help you not absorb other people's energy.
Now, one of the first things I want to point to you,
this was a harsh lesson that I had to learn,
but when it comes to absorbing other people's energy,
one of the reasons we absorb other people's energy
is because we're not completely embodied.
We are not in our own body enough
to where we feel the separation between us
and other people. And this is because a lot of times,
many of us went through trauma.
I know through growing up,
I look back and I can see
that there were times I left the,
you could say in a way, the bottom three chakras.
And we went into being in more into like the third eye
or more like tuning to other people.
And I think one of the reasons this is too
is because when we went through trauma
or pain or sometimes abuse growing up,
we then had it tied to our need for survival,
for us to tune to other people.
Did you have parents that were very hard to please?
Did you have maybe unique situations growing up
to where you had to be a certain way in order
to get your needs met?
I know for me having the abusive ex step mom in my life
from seven to 15 years old,
I had to constantly tune myself to her energy
to know how she was feeling
so that I could get what I needed.
Maybe I needed to go to a school activity
and I didn't want to get that taken away
like band camp or something that.
There was a level of that tuning that then even
after she left my life and I was 15 years old,
I didn't continue to do that.
I would tune myself to other people
to then get my needs met, in a way it's a gift.
I think a lot of people that are empathic
or very like psychically and tuned
or whatever we want to call that.
It's a gift,
but it's also kind of a curse
because then it's sometimes challenging
to discern our own stuff from other people's stuff.
Now, when we absorb other people's energy,
what that means is we're tuning
to other people's energy and we're taking it on
in a way we're choosing to take it on
maybe just not from a conscious choice.
So when we realize that anything we're doing at some level,
we are allowing ourselves to do it.
We're allowing other people energy to come within our field.
Then we can actually begin to be empowered
because then we can actually draw the boundary.
So for me, I know that growing up, even going to parties,
sometimes I would not wanna go
because I would just feel everybody else's energy.
And because there's also a people pleasing mentality,
I'd feel like I had to change myself.
So it caused a lot of frustration
and it would cause a lot of confusion
because I wouldn't know exactly why I didn't like to be in,
to go to certain places, but I just wouldn't like the vibe,
even before my spiritual awakening.
Now, the key to the frame technique.
And this is something that you'd see this box right here.
Now, imagine that everything in our reality
is either the subject or the object
or in a way it's either self or other.
So even looking at my body right now, as I'm doing this,
there is the self which could be my physical matter.
And then there is also the other,
which is the space in between me and the walls.
There's this square.
And then there's the space and the outside in between.
Now, when you are completely embodied
in your own self and you are feeling the energy inside
of your body and you put the awareness there,
you then start becoming more embodied.
But then you can also feel the separation
between you and that wall,
you and the computer, you and the anybody,
even other people in your life.
And when you do this consistently,
just for five or 10 minutes in the morning,
five or 10 minutes at night,
you will notice that your energy begins
to dramatically change
because you are bringing awareness inside the body.
Now, something interesting may happen as well.
As you bring more attention inside the body,
things may come up in your own life
because you are bringing energy
to where maybe you haven't been storing
or putting energy inside of your body.
So for example, you may have, you know,
relationship dynamics come up that need to be looked at.
Maybe it's your feeling of safety
or childhood trauma that comes up,
you're going in your body so that you can heal
and be like this more embodied version of you.
But that may bring stuff up
that are the bottom three shockers that aren't healed.
I know that I went to a kind of like,
I went to somebody that's like an energy worker
that when you say energy worker,
it's like somebody that basically what this guy did
is he could see the timeline
of somebody that he was working on energetically.
And he would put his hand like over my back or something,
he could see my timeline
and he could remove distortions in the Akashic records.
And this is very esoteric concept,
but he was recommended by a friend of mine
and really like talked up.
And I was like,
"Oh, my friend seen
"some amazing things happen with this guy."
So I went and just from a couple of minutes
of him having his hand on my back,
he was able to tell me things about my childhood
that I totally forgot about.
And it was extremely accurate everything was saying,
but one of the things he said
is that when I went through my trauma growing up,
I let go of the energy, or I kind of escaped being
in my bottom three chakras being grounded.
And what ended up happening
is that energy then out of survival,
went from the bottom three shockers into my third eye.
And it was like in a way,
what I was doing when I was making videos,
he said is I would have the video,
like the information come down and then out like this.
Out down and out like this,
but there wasn't any energy down
here in my bottom three chakra.
So what he helped me do was to get more
and remove those blocks that came honestly,
what he said was from the part
of it was from certain people I was given my energy too.
It was my ex step-mom.
There were three or four mentors that he could see
or people that I used to be around in my past
that had a certain effect on me to where then in a way,
my energy was being siphoned.
It's almost like I was sending them energy
without even knowing it.
And it was like,
I wasn't embodying these three bottom chakras.
And what I had to do is in a way cut and feel the separation
and healed the energy and me and my step-mom between me
and another mentor that I used
to have when I was going through my awakening
and me and somebody else in my life.
And as I did that,
it was like that energy came back to me
and I started them more so feel those boundaries.
And everything began to change.
Now, another thing that happened
is I remember there was there's this,
when we tune ourselves to others,
it's a survival mechanism that we use to get our needs met.
And growing up one of the needs
that I definitely felt like I needed that I didn't get,
it was people's approval was validation
because I had an ex step on that was constantly demeaning.
My brother and I and therefore we didn't feel validated.
So I would look for validation from other people,
from friends, from family.
And I remember what would happen is I would lose my sense
of self and sacrifice it for others all the time.
So when people ask me to do something
from very inclined to very guilty, if I didn't do it.
I remember just even year ago,
I had a good friend of mine
and she won her birthday was in a different state
that was very hard.
It was in a city that was very challenging to get to.
And it was a two or three day birthday bash.
And I had at the time, a lot going on, I had a photo shoot.
That was a very expensive photo shoot
that I had to do for my rebrand, for my company.
I had that of Costa Rica
plant medicine trip coming up in November,
but I literally rearranged everything
so that I could drive 10 hours to go
to the birthday party for two days
to then drive 10 hours back
and driving back was through snow,
where there was no ledges in Colorado.
There were these no ledges.
And it was like,
sometimes I would break
and the car would just slide towards this fricking edge.
It was crazy.
It was a pure sign to me that I overextended myself
because I felt guilty
or bad about not doing something
when I had a lot of other stuff going on
and it wasn't anybody's fault, but my own.
I did it to myself.
I was absorbing other people's energy
and really tuned to other people.
But now it's so easy for me to say no,
if it's something that I'm losing my sense of self to do.
So the game changer is what you do
is I have something called the frame technique workshop,
where I show you step-by-step how to do this.
There's a new app out that is called High Viber.
H-I-G-H-V-I-B-E-R.
It shows you step-by-step how to apply the frame technique.
And we go through a little mini exercise with it.
And then it is in when you log into High Viber
and you make a free account, it's completely free.
It's an app you can download on apple or Android,
or you can go to highviber.com.
I'll link it below.
You can download that app. And at the top,
you will see the frame technique for you to do.
You could do that workshop.
It is very powerful, and it'll show you step by step,
but it has to do with a candle flame,
feeling the separation between you
and the candle flame, being inside of your own body,
feeling separation between you and family members,
you and friends, you and your significant other.
And as you put the awareness more in your body,
and you bring the energy back to self,
you will feel more magnetic.
You will feel more present to the moment.
You will feel more empowered
and it will change your entire life.
So with that, that's something
that I think is very powerful.
If you want me to talk more about the frame technique
or share with you
and maybe do a live on it inside High Viber,
like this video comment below,
maybe we do a live activation together.
Let me know other than that, as always,
I'll talk to you on the next video,
peace, much love and namaste.