You're not alone on wondering why you're not sleeping. That's today's topic. It's
time to learn what it takes to calm the mind down. Watch all of the steps. They
all account.
You know it's a common thing not to be able to sleep good. You're not alone,
you're not weird. You just may have some things happening that are affecting the
way you do sleep. So, I'm here today to be able to help you understand some things
you can do so that you can sleep better. So, first off, let's take a look about
look at what it is that may be keeping you from not sleeping or falling to
sleep. You know, putting our mind to bed really is as though we're taking a look
at all the activity that's happening inside of it. Well, you could be an
individual where you have some unfinished thoughts. Where you're trying
to figure things out, you have unanswered questions, you have all these things that
have gone on for the day that you just haven't been able to finish thinking
about. Well, that keeps the mind active which then will keep it from calming
down to be able to sleep. You also can be disturbed by others
actions. You know, what your kids did today, what your spouse didn't do. Or
maybe met somebody rude at the store. But many times our daily activities with
people become disturbing and that we can't relax because we're still trying
to figure out why did that person do that? Or why didn't that person do that?
And so, that could be another reason why you can't fall asleep. Next one is
emotionally charged. If we're still upset or angry, we're frustrated. Any of these
emotions can literally keep us awake. Because those emotions have so much
energy to them. We can also be experiencing levels of loss. You know,
maybe finances are not doing well right now and you feel the loss of you
know, in the struggle of what you could be losing over the next couple weeks or
months if the finances doesn't change. Or maybe you feel distance between you and
one of your children or distance between you and your spouse. These are all
reasons why you're not sleeping very well. And of course, you can't solve it
before you go to sleep. But that's what your mind is trying to do. It's trying to
solve everything before it can relax and go to sleep. It's
almost as though you've given it chores or homework to do. And it can't relax
until all of its works done. So, if we take a look at how we've conditioned our
mind before we go to sleep, if it's really active, it's going to be tough to go
to sleep. All of these things equal a lot of thoughts. And these thoughts keep you
from just starting to calm down before you go to sleep. So, if you can't figure
out these things it becomes the unknown. And when it's unknown, we can start to
get afraid of it. We don't know how to take care of that
relationship, we don't know how to take care of the finances, we don't know how
to take care of the kids, we don't know how to take care of what we need to do
tomorrow. And in all these situations. what happens is, it's just the unknown.
And the unknown can seem blank or dark. And now as a child, if it's blank and
dark, guess what? It's something that we tend to be afraid of. And so now, not only
we can't go to sleep but we actually, were afraid of tomorrow. And what if we
just don't go to sleep, what if we don't go to sleep and we just avoid tomorrow
happening. Wow, doesn't that just sound like it makes sense no wonder why you
can't go to sleep? But you don't have to leave it this way. You don't have to just
leave it right where it's at. There are things you can do that can actually help
you calm down, be able to calm the thoughts and be able to make sense of
the day. So that you can drift off into that very, very needed sleep. Because if
you are who I think you are, you're a very busy person and you are really
focused on accomplishing what you want to do in the day. But without good sleep,
tomorrow is going to be even more difficult. So, this is what you do. Here's
some hope. Now, what you do is you get a pad of paper and you put that next to
your bed. And these are the some steps that you can take to be able to make a
difference in calming your mind down. Because right now, it's programed to not
calm down. So, you use paper to unload your thoughts.
All the different things that you've been thinking about. And it might end up
in a bullet point list or a numbered list. But either way, you begin to get
these things off of your mind and on to paper so that it does not weigh upon
your mind and keep you from sleeping. But just unload your thoughts. And I know you
might be thinking, "Oh, my gosh! This is going to take me forever." But it's actually
not as many as you think it is. As soon as you get the big thoughts out, it
usually pulls a lot of those little ones out too. But it's at... But this way you
don't forget what you're thinking about but it helps relieve your mind of its
activities. So, that you can drift off to sleep. Now, what I do is I write on my pad
of paper at the very bottom. After I unload my thoughts I will write down the
things that I wish would happen for tomorrow. I wish that I could find a way
to improve my finances or improve my relationship with my wife or be able to
figure that situation out between me and so-and-so. But it's my wishes. And when I
wish, what that does is it actually points my thoughts in a better direction.
Even though I have no idea how, I can still make a wish. I can at least point
my thoughts in a better direction and that, that can be very relieving. Just
that alone. Then I also will write down who could help. Who is that I could reach
out to that might know something about this problem that I'm facing? Who is that
I could reach out to that would understand? And if I can't think of
anyone, then I'll still write on my paper. "I'm going to find someone, I'm going to find
somebody who can help me understand how to get through this or how to cope with
this." What you're doing at this point is you literally are creating a new way of
thinking to relieve all of this activity that's going on in your mind.
Because at this point, your mind is not doing this by itself. And you need to
retrain your mind that before you go to sleep, you go through this process to be
able to unload your thoughts onto paper. Now, the good thing is as you feel this
relief, it doesn't mean you're going to forget
because you wrote it down. But you will feel a relief. And this is literally
building some type of after story. Like what's it going to be like after today?
What's it going to be like after I go to sleep? I'm going to find somebody who's
going to help me. I have wishes of how I hope it turns out
for tomorrow. And I've unloaded their everything on paper. So, now my mind can
relax. I think you're going to find that this works. It has worked for me and
worked for thousands of other people. Simple technique. You can teach your
child, you can teach your spouse, you can teach your friend. And if it doesn't work
the first night you try it, remember that you are literally retraining your mind
to think a new way. It may take two or three or four times before your mind
will literally give that information to you. So the activity can come down. It
makes a difference. Because if you don't make the change, how are things supposed
to change? If you don't condition your mind to start to slow down and relax,
how are you going to fall asleep? This is a great technique you can use tonight. And
if you need to help your child tonight, walk them through it slowly. But don't
give up. Give it a chance. Give it a couple times. It'll click in. Because your
mind is tired. You're tired. And it wants to relax. Help it out. It'll make a
difference. Now, this last point here of why it will work. If you believe that
this won't work, if you believe this is just dumb and it's not going to have any
effect on you, it's not going to work. But if you could imagine right now that this is
going to work, it's going to calm you down, it's going to give you an outlet, to give you
a opportunity to unload. If you can point your thinking in this direction, you have
a whole lot better chance of this actually working for you. Each one of us,
I mean, we can discount anything we want. We can totally discount something from
working to the point we can actually sabotage it.
So, in this experience, point your mind in the direction that it's going to work.
And it will work. My intention is to support you and help you through
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