and you hurt your back. Ain't that right?
and when you came up, did you have any back pain when you came up?
- Ummm. No, I mean, it's so much better than it was,
Do you have pain now?
- Little bit. Right.
Zero no pain. Ten high pain. How strong?
- Well, I mean, I've got a lot of pain pills in me, but it's about 4 or 5.
Alright. Do you remember how bad it was? A 4 or 5 now.
- Yeah. Right. Let's go back.
to 4 or 5 when it was really strong.
Do you remember how strong it was? - Oh yeah.
Oh yeah. Do you believe her?
Alright. How bad was it?
- About a 15. It was really bad.
and what did it feel like? Sharp pain, dull pain, pressure, where is it?
- All of that. Just pick out one.
One that you remember. Notice what it felt like.
The pain. Whatever it was.
- Well, I mean, the more we talk, the worse it's getting.
Don't tap on your....don't tap on youself. Okay? - It's coming back to me.
- Um. It just... Well, I know what I say, it felt like a mule had kicked me.
Alright.
- and I had been kicked by a mule, so I know what that feels like.
Okay. Alright.
Now, now she's using her emotional references isn't she?
Alright. You remember being kicked by a mule? - Uh huh.
How old were you?
- 8 or 9 or something 8 or 9 years old.
Alright. Alright. - That`s my sister.
Okay. Alright.
- No, not that mule. (laughter)
- Just kidding.
Alright. Alright. Now, let's think about it.
Let's go back when you were 8 or 9 years old and you're a little girl.
and you remember how it felt when you got kicked? - Oh yeah.
and, and it hurt?
- Oh yeah.
and you remember how it hurt? How bad that pain was?
Can you remember what it feels like?
Alright. Notice she still has the emotions & the sensations
& the feelings, right there.
Say: I release and let it go. - I release and let it go
All the pain. - All the pain.
All the feelings of no control. - All the feelings of no control.
All that feeling, being kicked in the back.
- All that feeling, being kicked in the back.
You never know who's gonna kick you. - You never know who's gonna kick you.
Who's gonna get you from behind. - Who's gonna get you from behind.
I release and let go of that pain. - I release and let go of that pain.
It's safe now. - It's safe now.
Deep breath. (inhales & exhales) Peace. - Peace.
Alright, now,
remember when you was a little girl and you got kicked from behind.
Can you still remember that feeling, that it felt like?
- Uh. huh. Alright. What did it feel like?
- It hurt. Alright. That hurt. That pain
Let it go. Let it go. Let it go.
(inhales & exhales) Peace. - Peace.
Remember the pain. See if you can still remember that pain.
- It's better. Any pain at all?
- No, I can still feel something. Alright, notice what you feel it at.
Got it? - Uh huh.
Release and let it go. - Release and let it go.
That memory. Those sensations. - That memory. Those sensations.
The hurt. The betrayal. The anger. - The hurt. The betrayal. The anger.
Let it go.
Alright. Remember you got kicked from behind?
Any emotions?
- It feels a lot better.
Any pain at all? - Little bit.
Alright. How do you know?
- Cause I feel it.
Can you feel it now? Back then?
We're talking about when you were a child. - Oh, back then. No, it's gone back then.
- I was into now. Okay. Good.
Alright so, and also when you moved, it was like a 15 pain
when you was moving that tv.
and I want you to remember how strong that feeling was.
and feel that 15 pain again, if you can.
Can you? -No.
It's faded away. - Yeah.
I release and let go of the pain. - I release and let go of the pain.
That feeling that no one supports me. - That feeling that no one supports me.
You never know when they're gonna get you from behind.
- You never know when they're gonna get you from behind.
They never support me. - They never support me.
I have to do it all by myself. - I have to do it all by myself.
It's safe to let it go now. - It's safe to let it go now.
It's safe. - It's safe.
Deep breath. (inhales & exhales) Peace - Peace.
Alright. remember that 15 pain. Go back to it and that pain, is it still there?
- No. Alright. How's your pain level now?
- It's gone.
Okay. It was a 4 or a 5 wasn't it? - Right.
Alright. - It actually, the longer we talked, the worse it got.
That's because,...
that's because I had you go back to.. - Yeah.
So it went up to a 7 or 8.
and then, you notice, guys, those of you who are in the training course,
you notice how she did this.
She had emotional references of being kicked from behind.
and we went back to that and we cleaned that up
and then I said, alright now what about the pain when you moved the tv?
While she started talking about it, the pain right up to a 15
right now, by thinking.
So, what does that mean?
It's more emotional than physical.
So then we started releasing the emotions and, all of a sudden
her pain, now, disappeared.
That's very powerful to understand. That we create our own pains.
Again, if we hold memories inside,
the unconscious mind says: okay, fine, we'll store it where you know to keep it at.
Right back here, right here, right here, right here.
Wherever you store your pain the mind will say: we'll put the emotions right back here,
and also, we address the emotional issues with, with what?
relationships.
All pain, all of our hurts start with somebody else.
and the emotions we give to that experince.
That's why it's so important to go back to your past
and forgive yourself
and whatever you hold inside.
Make sense? - Sure.
So, is the pain gone then? - Yes.
and then the issue with your daughter, how does that seem?
- Seems okay.
Alright. Well, give her a hand. (applause) -Thank you.
on your hand... ... versus starting here..
Class.
Basically, the key is identifying and addressing whatever it is you produce inside.
Sometimes I'll use this and sometimes I'll just go ahead and catch you in the state.
That's what I do.
So, and of course,
I don't know anything about Carol.
Everything, what she brought up, here.
and so I use a lot of words
because I don't know exactly what's in there.
I can listen to what she says and I can kinda identify certain emotions.
but when you have this feeling, you don't have to say a whole lot.
All you have to do is feel it.
This feeling, right here, let it go. Let it go. Let it go. Let it go.
and double-check and see if it's gone.
You're always addressing what you don't want.
The pain, the hurt. Now guys I wanna help you undertsand something.
What you don't want, is your master.
What is, notice, why would you not go back in there?
Because you don't want it.
and the crazy thing is, the more you have this stuff in there, the more it attracts.
and, of course, Carol's problem was based on past experiences.
The back pain was.
The emotional references she has with her daughter
and the crazy part is, we train our daughters to have our stuff.
and our sons.
We pass it down.
and we support it. We install it.
and so that's why it's so important
to develop emotional intelligence.
and this is what the course is all about.
Gaining emotional control.
Healing yourself.
Because, if you can heal you, you're gonna feel better.
When you heal you, your relationships will improve.
When you heal you, you're gonna live longer
and be healthier while you're living longer.
Does that make sense?
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