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this is Damon Cart from NLP Gym. The
most powerful affirmation you'll ever
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you may be wondering why i'm doing a
video on affirmations after i have done a
few videos and written a few blogs
basically criticizing the use of
affirmations are basically saying they
don't really work. My stance is that just
saying something over and over in front
of a mirror isn't going to make you
believe it if you don't already believe
it and if you already believe it then
what would be the point of standing in front
of a mirror and repeating the same thing over
and over again
this brings us to an interesting
question how do we go about believing
something to begin with
did that just happen because we have our
beliefs and we don't
normally consciously create a belief it
just sort of happens. What affirmations
seek to do is to get you to believe
something that you don't already believe
all generalizations that you make comes
from grouping together experiences and
categorizing them are giving them a
certain meaning and generalizations and
beliefs are really the same thing when
you come to believe something you take a
group of experiences that share certain
commonalities that you identified and
group them together and make meaning of
them a category you give it a category
which is how you're making sense of it
are making meaning of it and then you
have a generalization or then you have a
belief so you're just saying things over
and over these affirmations and they're
not connected to your actual experiences
and you're just repeating words over and
over with nothing to grab onto or no
experiences to latch onto to actually
create that category create that meaning
that's creating the generalization or
belief. Another problem with
affirmations is sometimes the more you
tell yourself something that you don't
believe the part of you that doesn't
believe it creates a stronger opposition
to what you're saying so you're saying
something that you want to believe
there's a part of me that's going to go
up true and the one that you say that
and when you create a stronger stronger
polarity of part of you wanted to
believe it and part of you denying that
it's true
so you're actually creating a stronger
opposition a good example of this is
have you ever had a political political
argument with someone and more you state
your case the more that person opposes
the one that person pushes right back at
you push they push back harder it's
basically the same thing
there's always exceptions to rules and
my rule that affirmation don't work
there is no exception
don't let that time you break up too
much just recently I've been learning
more about affirmations and discovering
some new possibilities the new ways of
looking at applications that might
actually make them work and it really
depends on crafting the affirmation and
that's what we're doing this I ran smack
into an affirmation that really has
changed my understanding of affirmations
that little a hole and here goes
you are enough are if you're saying
about yourself or in front of mirror I
am enough sounds really simple and
that's what makes it so hard we create
affirmations and we use affirmations we
practice affirmations because we feel
that we are not something that you want
to be or who we want to be so we
practice these affirmations try
did you convince ourselves that we are
that and by convincing herself that we
will start to behave that way are we
will become that person or we will get
those things that you want and I used to
create complex applications with all the
juicy words and now I'm thinking wow
this is going to be the best information
because it's got so much loaded into it
and actually that turned out to be the
problem take an affirmation like I am
happy healthy successful and why's that
sounds like a good information
it's loaded with really good words that
most people value and it seems to cover
all the bases but here's the problem if
you don't have any direct criteria and
define that criteria for each one of
those things
what does it mean to be healthy for you
what kind withheld are you looking for
mental physical if it's both that how
would you know that you have that house
how would you know that you even possess
it and the same thing with successful
and why
how do you really have all these things
nailed down you do you really know what
they are and have a sensory experience
since of these words and if you don't
know experience for you to latch onto
the word therefore when you say a
sentence like that it's likely not to
trigger the feelings likely not to
trigger the sensory sensation what that
is like to do have these qualities and
you don't have if you're not clear the
criteria
how do you know what you're really
aiming at that's what would happen is
you're just treating these works you're
creating a sentence and the words are
pretty empty and even if it did trigger
all those things unless you had all the
criteria laid out for those four values
you know exactly what it is you're
looking for and you have sensory
experiences for all four of them that is
a lot in one sentence to you know a
trigger for different experiences and 17
just really unlikely that you will go
through that process by repeating that
sentence over and over which again just
makes it in a meeting with an indie
sentence which would like to be enough
with it like to walk into any situation
and feel like you're enough even if it's
a new situation you've never been in
would feel like it would be like to face
any challenge knowing that you're enough
even if you don't overcome the challenge
you're still enough still alive
you're still a worthy human being what
is it like it's your lowest moment to
still know that you're enough i've been
using this affirmation for multiple
contexts multiple challenges and in my
lowest moments and I have believed me an
idea
just like everybody else in my lowest
moment I think of myself as bad as this
gets as bad as I feel I'm enough maybe a
more than enough maybe I'm for more than
enough but for right now I'm just going
to start with being enough try it out
ask yourself those questions of course
we want to be more than enough
everybody does we want to be
overachievers we want to we want you
know not to cross the finish line we
want to come in first place for right
now that would just start with being
enough
what's it like when you know you're
enough does that sound too simple just
saying I'm enough? If it does
good try it on and let me know how to
work for you
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