Brainy Dose Presents:
10 Differences Between True Love And Fake Love
When you’re looking at a relationship from the inside, it’s not always easy to see
the differences between authentic and fake love, but it’s not impossible, either.
So, how can you determine whether you’re in a genuinely loving relationship or just
infatuated with fake love?
For some, it comes down to a sense of security.
When you experience unconditional love, your heart and soul know that your love is true.
While some doubts are normal no matter who you’re with, persistent doubts and intense
insecurity could be a sign that it’s time to exit the relationship.
If you feel like you can’t live without your partner, but at the same time, you can’t
talk to them about your feelings, your future together, or your doubts, it’s probably
not true love.
To shed some light on your relationship, here are 10 distinctions between true love and
fake love:
Sacrifice vs. Self-Concern
In a loving relationship, both people make sacrifices in order to reach a compromise.
In a hollow relationship, your significant other’s priority will always be them, not
you or your feelings.
Just think about it…
Does your partner consider your feelings when they make decisions?
Whether it’s where you go for dinner, how often you talk to each other, or deciding
where to live, do they try to predict or ask how you might feel?
Real love involves mutual decision-making, especially about the big things.
Fake love is inconsiderate.
If you’re stuck in an unloving relationship, you might feel that your partner is selfish
and reckless with your emotions.
And they probably are.
Connection vs. Correction
Have you ever seen a couple who can read each other’s minds?
It might seem impossibly romantic, but the truth is that they just know how to pay attention.
When two people love each other fully and unconditionally, they form a deep connection
that allows them to understand the other’s thought processes.
They do this by always responding to their partner’s bids for connection, whether it’s
about something serious or lighthearted.
When someone sees you as important, they will listen to everything you have to say, even
if it’s trivial.
In contrast, a fake relationship doesn’t prioritize genuine connection.
Instead, your partner may respond to you with apathy or negativity, even correcting and
invalidating your thoughts and feelings.
Transparency vs. Darkness
Even though it can be ugly at times, the truth is always valued in a loving relationship.
Transparency wipes away doubt and establishes security, paving the way for a faithful relationship
built on trust.
Fake love doesn’t prioritize honesty.
It can be filled with lies, omissions, and embellishments—leaving many things hidden
in the dark.
Often, deception is used as a tool for manipulation, and it can spoil a relationship, even if one
partner is completely transparent.
In a healthy relationship, honesty is two-sided, even if it means sharing uncomfortable secrets.
Humble vs. Proud
In a deeply loving relationship, both people hold themselves accountable for their actions.
This is what it means to be humble.
They take responsibility, admit their mistakes, and apologize when they need to.
In a fake relationship, pride wins out over the health of the relationship.
One, or both partners might care more about “being right” or feeling superior.
They may often let their significant other down and leave problems unresolved, just to
preserve their pride.
If your love is real, you are both open to putting aside your egos for the sake of the
relationship.
Grateful vs. Envious
True love fills your life with gratitude.
You appreciate your partner for everything that they are and everything they do.
And they feel the same way about you.
When one of you accomplishes something great, you both celebrate that achievement as if
it were your own.
If your relationship is based on fake love, life may feel like a competition.
This outlook breeds envy, greed, and jealousy.
Instead of sharing joyous moments, fake lovers belittle each other’s triumphs and emphasize
their faults.
Dissatisfaction and bitterness are sure signs of a love that is untrue.
Complete vs. Empty
Your emotions are the most helpful guide in determining whether your love is real or not.
A truly loving relationship that is built on healthy communication and genuine connection,
will bring about a sense of peace and wholeness.
Fake love is always accompanied by an empty feeling, no matter how much time you spend
together.
Relationships that lack a meaningful foundation are doomed to fail.
If you’re in one, you’ll always be wanting more.
Respected vs. Taken for Granted
A genuine relationship is also built on mutual respect.
In a healthy partnership, there is no room for disrespect, whether it regards decision-making,
planning for the future, or even simple opinions.
Both partners are encouraging and supportive, even if they don’t completely understand
their significant other’s desires.
What matters most is the other person’s happiness, and the idea of neglecting each
other’s aspirations isn’t appealing.
In contrast, a relationship built on fake love always involves one or both people taking
their partner for granted.
Their disrespect may be disguised as humor or playfulness, but if someone treats your
dreams like a joke, then they don’t respect you.
This behavior is a clear sign that your relationship is unhealthy, because it indicates that your
emotions are not important to your partner.
Hopeful vs. Unplanned
Another way to tell the difference between a healthy and unsustainable relationship is
whether or not your plans for the future align.
True lovers plan their future together and ensure that their vision works for both of
them.
Even when they fight and struggle (which is normal for a healthy relationship), they are
secure in knowing that they’ll come out on the other side together.
In a healthy relationship, both partners put in equal effort, provide stability, and cultivate
a hopeful future.
Unless your relationship is new, an unplanned future or plan that doesn’t include both
people, is a sign that your love isn’t true.
Fake lovers will give up easily on the relationship, since they never expected it to last in the
first place.
Intent vs. Neglect
If your relationship is based on true love, you love each other intentionally.
Now, that doesn’t necessarily mean you intend on falling in love, but that once you do,
you live your life with the intention to continue and grow that love.
Think of it as a promise or a commitment.
While fake love also involves making promises, it doesn’t always deliver on them.
Unloving relationships lack commitment and breed neglect.
Characterized by broken promises and hollow reassurances, fake love disappoints.
Stronger vs. Weaker
Real love stands the test of time.
It may change through the years, but it doesn’t fade away.
The roots of real love only grow stronger and deeper as both partners build trust, navigate
life, and make compromises together.
Fake love, on the other hand, thrives on a heat that can’t last.
Instead of establishing an emotional connection, both people may prioritize physical things.
Built on a novel experience or excitement, fake love collapses when things simmer down.
If you find yourself wondering if your relationship is healthy or not, it’s time to take a closer
look at things.
While it is normal to have occasional doubts, bicker, and disagree with your significant
other, if your relationship lacks communication, trust, accountability, or respect, the foundation
of your relationship is not strong enough to last.
Have you ever experienced fake love?
How did you find out?
What were some of the signs?
Let us know in the comments below.
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