Hey, this is Mark Australia's dating coach. And today, we are talking about making a guy,
chase you and having a great relationship with the simplest concept that I think I've
possibly ever contemplated in my own life. Like, seriously, when I got this, when I actually
finally absorbed this, I was just like, "Whoa!" Growing up by society, by movies, by Hollywood,
by all the TV romance things that things are supposed to happen in a kind of sequential
order, right? We see attraction, we see someone we're attracted to, and then we see if there's
connection and then there's chemistry, and then there's relationship and love. We're
taught this sort of basic sequence that if we can find the attraction, check out the
chemistry, it's going to lead on to the sequence of a relationship and love. And it is the
biggest misnomer that is ruining your relationships and stopping men chasing you
than I think exists entirely in the entire dating relationships field. Okay, this stuff
over here. All right, attraction, connection, chemistry, and this stuff over here, which
is relationships and love. They are two entirely separate things. When I got this, I finally
realized it. It's like, it's like, this is Lord of the rings and Harry Potter, Hey Jamie
Oliver, Gordon Ramsey. You've got Taylor Swift and Rihanna. They're completely different
things. Relationship is a set of skills. We talked about some of these recently in our
Seven Standards to Have A Guy Chase You and Create A Great Relationship video. You know
relationship is the skill of having a masculine-feminine balance. It's the skill of impulse control.
It's the skill of doing what you say, saying what you do. It's the skill of consistency.
It's the skill of awareness of, of, um, boundary setting and personal responsibility.
None of them have anything to do with this. When I started applying this in my own life,
not, not just to relationships, but even to friendships, there is a completely different,
like there's like a giant wall in between, and this is how using the second set of standards
is how you're making or how you will make great men chase you. Because most women focus
entirely on this stuff, attraction, chemistry, connection, and assume that a relationship
will just work! And it's, it's BS. It's complete, it's totally wrong! It's like thinking that
you can read Lord of The Rings and then jump into Harry Potter and know exactly what's
going on! It doesn't happen. When I really internalize the fact that there will be people
that you have a great connection with, people who you have amazing chemistry with, but whom
you can't form a relationship with, it completely changed mine and my clients' lives. I started
thinking, "Okay, I've met someone. Am I attracted to this person? Great. Is there a connection
and chemistry? Great." And only once I've established, if there was connection and chemistry,
did I start level two qualifying, which is, "Do they meet my standards? Are they capable
of a relationship?" I completely split the way I was meeting people especially people
I would date. And I started to see, "Wow, there's people I'm attracted to, have great
chemistry, no relationship ability or skills or future whatsoever." And of course, you'll
spot the opposite as well, but you won't get as far with the opposite people because the
attraction is not there. The point is you need both. And if you qualify men on this
second set of things, the second set of traits, of ways, they think of relationship skills,
you will have great guys chasing you over and over again because the guy does not realize
you're just sold on connection and chemistry. He's like, "Wait a minute. We have great connection.
We have great chemistry. And I still, and she's still weighing me up for a relationship."
And it's ongoing. That's the best part. These aren't boxes and stuff over here, like chemistry
and attraction, you can kind of tick those boxes, right? And then they kind of done.
This stuff is never done. This stuff is ongoing. And the guy always feels like you're qualifying
him on that. Now, as I say, there's a video that you can look the Seven Standards To Attract
A Great Relationship. I'll put the link to that in the description. And don't forget,
we've got the free texting guide as well, 12 Texts To Make Him Yours.
That's in the description too. Have a look at both of those. And remember that when you
qualify men in two parts, first, "I see if he's, if I'm attracted and if there's chemistry,"
and second, "I see if he meets my standards and is capable of relationship," you will
totally revolutionize the way men chase you, what you attract to your life and the quality
of relationships you have. Well, that's the video. Thank you so much for watching! I hope
you enjoyed that concept. It really is that simple. So thank you so much for watching!
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